Sexual Relationships 
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I'm of legal age now and this article will discuss things I've done in the past which, at the time, were illegal, at least where I live, nude pictures from minors always count as child pornography. If you are offended by this, please don't read what I wrote. Thank you.
Sexting. Merriam-Webster defines it as "the sending of sexually explicit messages or images by cell phone". I'd like to share some of my experiences with you.
I started sexting when I was around 14 or 15. I was extremely insecure about myself and my body and was on Omegle a lot, where basically everyone is trying to swap nudes (=nude pictures). My parents had told me multiple times that I shouldn't sext, I knew what it was and I knew that it was illegal, which made it so incredibly tempting for me.
Eventually, I caved, and I remember the first time I sent someone a naked picture I hated it so much and the guy didn't handle it well eihter. I always looked very mature, so he assumed that I was 18 and freaked out when I told him (after he had asked me) that I was only 15.
My later experiences entailed around 1000 guys or more, with whom I at least exchanged two pictures (one-time contact, I only had more than one sexting session wiht about 50 guys). I know, this sounds horrible, and looking back, it was. I am ashamed of it and don't mention it in relationships of mine unless someone asks me about it.
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#1 My sexual horizon is bigger now
However, after some reflection, I realised that my youth hasn't been shaped by these experiences, but that my sexual horizon has been extended through sexting to a wide extent. Again, sounds weird but bear with me.
As time went on and I got older, around 16 or 17, I leaned more towards older guys, between 35 and 50. I only sexted with people I didn't know, with the exception of a boyfriend of mine, who I exchanged these types of images with before meeting him (crazy Generation Zler, I know).
#2 I crave an actual relationship that doesn't rely on sexting
And I learned a lot from these guys. I learned that what I'm looking for isn't sexual satisfaction, but a deep connection. I learned that to enjoy sex (I'm a virgin so this is the only experience I've got), I will have to have this deep connection first, because I was only able to ENJOY WHAT I WAS DOING fifteen times in total. Ten of these were with someone I truly loved, but couldn't be together with, three times with a very experienced guy I didn't even remotely find attractive but who wrote these amazing sex stories, and twice with people I trusted deeply.
Maybe my pictures are out there, maybe even someone I used to sext with now uses G@G. But I learned and understood that what I was looking for in men doesn't exist. That whatever I thought I needed and wanted isn't what I really need and want. And I'm extremely happy about that.
#3 Real people deserve my time and energy
I fell in love. It hurt to know that I had wasted so much time and energy in my life sending other people nudes while this one guy was with me through it all, right by my side. And yeah, I feel like sexting ruined some parts of our potential relationship, but with him it felt right, it's the guy I enjoyed sexting the most with and who hurt me the most too because I trusted him so much.
Can you love someone you met online?
This all circles back to whether you can love someone you met online or not. I'm so afraid of falling in love with the wrong person that when I did I closed my eyes to it.
And when my feelings came back, four times as strong as they were initially, I realised that I no longer want his body, but his soul. That's what sexting has taught me. That I don't need sex, I don't need orgasms, I need actual attention and feeling like someone loves me for more than just my body. I now know that there are tons of different things people find attractive out there, and won't be as insecure during my first time (having sex).
What has sexting taught you?
What Girls & Guys Said
3 27You just made me see that sexting is as bad as I think. I don't think you understand how dangerous it was to do what you were doing. You also were rebellious. It seems you did a lot of it because your parents told you not to do it. You already said sexting seemed to ruin parts of your relationship. You don't need sexting to learn what you supposedly learned from sexting. It's like saying I learned how to drive better because when I was driving intoxicated, I learned something new; therefore, driving intoxicated isn't that bad.
That's probably not the best analogy but you can't say sexting is not so bad just because you claim to learn something from it.
I see nothing wrong with it, and as long as it's consensual I find it kind of ridiculous to criticize. What's really so horrible about sharing pictures of your body? Am I going to get someone pregnant? Catch an STD? Is someone really going to be traumatized for life because they saw my penis? Is God going to smite me for trying to have fun and be happy in a world full of pain and suffering? There's literally no consequences whatsoever.
Exactly what I think about it. Atheist here. :-)
Interesting perspective. You can love and marry someone you met online
Yes, possible! I love my abroad girlfriend a lot. We talk (SIP with #Linphone ) a lot.
If it is in secrecy then it’s fine
Totally agree, also it should be legal if both parties agree no matter the age, those who make laws that make it illegal are the real criminals.
It’s legal here when you’re above 14 and together with the person. I wasn’t tho. I regret it very much from the legal aspect
Sorry we didn't sext together ...
It's ok I mean I started at the same age as you. If the other person is down, then it's fine
Alex, is this you? Please talk to me if it is you. I'm not okay. And I do understand now. I was wrong to blame you everyday for these things. And honestly I just needed you to be honest with me. Because I already forgave you. Yet you kept saying more lies to hide this past of you.
No, sorry, I’m not Alex... also you’re a coward for posting anonymously if you want the person to see you. But yeah sorry, never told anyone I was „Alex“.
being coward is better than being a coward for just touch your cunt🤣🤣🤣🤣
What do you mean?
1000 right? Do they even know you? I hope not lol you were being coward to fullfil your shameful needs... no excuse... you are slut. I was stupid to think you are my Alex. She can't be a slut.
I‘m no slut either. I don’t see why you’re insulting me online, and your anonymity definitely isn’t a sign of courage to me. I hope you find Alex, but she’s probably lost, try moving on.
Thank you slut. Hope your cunt will do well in next year! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Make it 2000!
Never showed anyone my „cunt“ as a matter of fact.
Hopefully not... stop sexting too. I lost my girlfriend as I couldn't forgive her for sexting and sending provocative videos to her ex. She lied to me about those. Past will haunt you one day... better to stop while it is not too late. You will find someone whom you will trust enough to show it. Happy new year!
First off, I’m sorry it ruined your relationship. Secondly, I stopped sexting a year ago together with other bad habits. I didn’t want to go into a lot of detail in the take about it. If Alex is your ex, I’m sorry, and i didn’t want to say that sexting is good, simply that you shouldn't let it haunt you if it was one of your teenage mistakes. Im sorry if that message was unclear.
We both are in our late twenties and virgins. We both wanted to be only with the person we are going to marry. She told me she didn't even have relationship before. Tho she was talking to this guy online. When we first met she told me that I was the first one who made a video call to her. Later in our relationship, I noticed the videos and she sent me, those had old timestamps. It means she was recoding those to someone else. Yet she kept saying she never sexted with a guy before.
She ghosted me. As she couldn't hold on to her lies anymore. Sadly I still love her. This is making me paranoid and making me so restless all the time. I even take medications and professional help because of this girl.
That is harsh what you all said here. Sorry for you, man. Hope your therapist can help you over your depression/crisis.
Sext with me and you'll change my mind.