Why is it so hard for me to cum?

[Anonymous]

okay, so I have been watching some p*rn and masturbating on my own when my girlfriend is away but when we have sex, we could go on for 2 hours and I still can't cum.. my girlfriend cums like 10 times or more and I still don't get to cum.. what should I do? is it because of the p*rn that made it so difficult to cum? or is there something else? I just don't get it.. I really don't.. need some help here.. much appreciated.. thank you...

[Anonymous]

You are too tense. There is a muscle inside that you are tightening that prevents you from ejaculating. Once you know how to control it, you can actually use it do your advantage to last longer on purpose.

[TheScenario]

I must be REALLY relaxed then!

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, when you are going at it alone, you are almost always relaxed. However, when put in a situation where there is pressure to preform, many peoples bodies will tense up due to the stress/anxiety. For some guys it's so bad they can't even get hard or stay hard.

[Asker]

well I get really relax when she's giving me a bj and a handjob... but what I don't get is when I masturbate, I come in less than 5 minutes but when she does it for me, I still don't come after 20 hard and fast minutes... I don't get it.. could it be that the p*rn affected my capability to cum?

[Opinion Owner]

The only way I see p*rn being the problem would be you not getting turned on by her and staying hard. I've heard of some people that watch so much kinky stuff they eventually "rewire" their brain to only get turned on by that. Assuming that's not the problem, I'd say it is just anxiety or something. Does it happen when you are completely sober? I doubt it is caused by masturbation. If that was true, why can most guys have sex and come 4+ separate times within a few hours?

[Asker]

well I'm having the feeling that my brain is starting to rewire... f***ing hell... but I still get turned on by my gf... I get turned on so much that I can't hold my penis back ey... it becomes so hard... but the thing is, I can go on for so long, and I still won't cum... after making come for abt 4 times, I have to stop and masturbate for another 10 minutes before I finally cum.. sigh.. its so depressin.. I always wanna come inside my gf's vagina but I cant.. it just won't happen...

[Gregs]

try not masturbating for a week, I have a feeling your problem will be solved

[Asker]

yeah.. i;'m kinda having the feeling that masturbation is the problem.. thank you

[Cupcakecutie0]

Maybe you should rub your prostate, most guys go really fast when they do that. Its in your butt by the way.

[Asker]

lol... I'll try that out myself when no one is around.. hahaha... thanks anyways...

[Anonymous]

Are you on antidepressants or use pain killers (Vicodin or Oxy)

[Asker]

no I'm not but I get the feeling it all comes down to my excessive masturbation..