Why so many questions about dick size instead of what really gets women off?

Only about 25-30% of women can orgasm from anything you do with your dick. It takes direct clitoral stimulation to get women off, and the penis is exceptionally ineffective at doing that, no matter how large.

If you want to know how to satisfy us, quit worrying about your dick size, and instead step-up your oral/manual stimulation game, and learn how and when to introduce a vibrator or other sex toy to save time and effort.

Why so many questions about dick size instead of what really gets women off?
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Yes, we know there is a vocal but small minority of size queens. Why do you listen to THEM and not US? (Noting the many female respondents so far.)
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Also worth noting: In the human female, it has ben decisively shown that ONLY the clitoris actually does the thing we call "orgasm". The vagina, the rectum, the nipples, and other places people claim they have orgasms actually do not have the mechanism for orgasm, even if they contribute to pleasurable feelings. If a woman had an orgasm, it's her clitoris that did it.

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  • Guys are as self conscious as you ladies.

  • Women should just ignore these questions altogether. No amount of talk about technique, clitoral stimulation, etc., is ever going to convince a majority of men with average to below average size penises that most women on average would not either be disappointed by how "small" these men believe themselves to be, or would not be tempted to cheat on them with another man if that man is better looking and, they assume or were told, better endowed than them.

    Also, expressing frustration over this issue, while understandable, isn't going to change the minds of these men. And it really doesn't matter how honest you ladies are being. Men have preconceived notions. Men are stubborn.

    Just live your lives and hope that whatever men you are attracted to will have enough confidence to be intimate with you even if they aren't well endowed. Don't worry about random men online you'll probably never interact with. It's not your burden to make them feel good about themselves.

    • You make a good point.

  • I feel that g spot stimulation with my dick actually works pretty well.

    • That's also the clitoris. The penis is generally not very good at stimulating the clitoris by itself.

  • My girlfriend went out with a female friend for drinks sat... came home... omg you’re right! - What? - So and so is totally hung up on dicks. - Told you many women are like that... (gf is not). Basically a fireman and her friend went out with had a small dick. Said fireman made this girl cum twice. girlfriend asked “so it was good then?” - friend said “I guess, but I just couldn’t see sleeping with him again after that” - soooo, while you have your feelings, realize many many other women it is a big deal for them no matter how good you are with your tongue or fingers. When we met the very first thing another friend of hers asked how big I was, and she’s a lesbian in a committed no dick relationship. After my girlfriend answered she was like “phew cause some things are deal breakers”- so even a woman getting no dick seems to make a big deal out of it. Yes, we do listen to those women more than others, and basically assume women don’t really speak the truth on this...

    • I know some of those women are out there, but they aren't as common as you make it out to be. Some women also don't get much out of sex because they don't know how to ask for the stimulation they need, so they focus on things that don't really do much to increase pleasure.

    • We are similar in age. I think our generation is less focused on it in many ways because you didn’t grow up on internet porn. Most women ten years younger than us did, and so they get turned on by seeing porn dicks. Also, younger than us grew up idolizing Paris Hilton, sex and the city, etc and the pressure for men to live up to certain physical standards is much higher then ever before. Where you say very few, ime I would say half the women walking around it is a big deal to them. And I heard that talk my girlfriend had with her friend at first, and while she gave me a good review I heard her bash the guy she was with before me. Told her based on hearing that, I would assume that is something important to you. So even when it doesn’t matter to a girl, they way you all talk about it makes it seem worse than it is... I agree with your post for the most part, but this is idea of size being so important really does come from women. If women didn’t care we wouldn’t like at all...

  • What the hell is sex?

    • Ok, so sometimes when a Mommy and Daddy love each other very much, and they decide to make a baby, they have this special kind of lying down hug they do. Should I go on?

    • @MlleCake That response was epic! Laughed soooo hard lol

  • Because of their insecurity, and they think dick size will be what gets them girls and makes the girl stay with them

  • Because for us men, its not so important if we lose an eye an arm or a leg. But if we lose sth down there its like worlds end. Anyway its the same reason why girls are asking about their body hair or breast size or if they are overweight. That is simply important for the gendergroup because there are those 10 % where dicksize matters and boobsize matters because its simply attractive and a turn on for them. Unfortunately those are also the people who are well dressed and considered hot or cool, so the value of their opinion is higher than the value of the 90 % regular guys. For us regular people shape of breasts butt or penis doesn't matter. :)

  • I used to find the g spot pretty easily, and either use my thumb or tongue to simultaneously stimulate the clit. Ex seemingly loved it

  • I said this before you could have the best tool for tool for the job but if your a unskilled idiot it means nothing

  • I agree. Dick size questions are annoying. If guys really want to know the truth then they should just read this myTake and spare people from the trouble of answering the same question million times

    Penis Size Matters ↗

  • There's a base insecurity in men about not measuring up, further as the only other penises most guys have ever seen are in porn, most guys think that they are below average at least on a subconscious level. Even really big guys really see themselves as average in their mind.

  • Just use logic - a woman can make herself cum with just a finger, I don't think size was ever an issue.

    Also, sex isn't just about shoving meat in a hole or scratching away at a piece of flesh, it's a balance of physical and mental stimulation, hence the importance of foreplay, setting the mood, teasing, creating antecipation, provocation, immersion, variety, etc.

  • Blame pornography.

  • For men it's an issue of pride.

    For women I assume genuine curiosity.

  • Porn ads. There's always ads like "TAKE THIS FOR A BIG SHLONG!1!1"

  • I think vaginas are disgusting and not planning on ever putting my mouth inside one of them, so i guess I'm in trouble.

    anyways I tried telling @HitGirl_4680 this a while back and she lashed out at me with strong sense of disagreement

    • I find that very sad for you. It makes you a less versatile lover, and versatility is a highly prized quality.

    • for some reason i really don't care, most women here in America aren't versatile lovers either. so exactly what is the point of putting in so much effort and enthusiasm on a job you know is gonna tax deduct more than 75% of your salary. of course its always gonna be the employees fault no matter how hard they work. its never the company's fault for not living up to their end of the bargain

    • Cuckoo cuckoo cuckoo!

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  • Giving a woman an orgasm starts in her head. The rest is about stimulating the parts of her body that are the most sensitive when she is aroused, at the right time. Not all women are the same, except when it comes to the mental side. If a guy can create enough sexual tension, everything will fall into place better, and the size of the dick won't matter. Being able to last during sex has more influence than size. A big dick that doesn't last long isn't as good as a average dick that can last. There is much much more about pleasing a woman... it's nice to see her walk like she forgot how after sex.

  • Cause dudes want you to fear their giga cocks duh. If you don't seem shocked by it then they don't feel pleased. Also, something satisfy about laying a big ol' meat tube out on the table. It's not about you. It's about us.

  • I agree , even 3 inches is a lot at 900 rpm and just as much as 9 inches, it's a mental thing really, lots of antisapation, fourplay, romance and ramp up the rpms you will get her off for sure

  • you know in order to ask the right questions, one needs to know enough about the topic...

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