Why so much hate for chubby women?

[Anonymous]

*** i apologize to the few decent men, who remember what treating a woman with respect looks like

A concept that really confuses me. most men i see on a daily basis are walking chicken legs with mediocre looking faces, mediocre salaries, mediocre intelligence/personalities and horrendous fashion sense. i went on a date with this geezer (he was about a decade older than me) and he had very high standards. he didn't even look that great. he wasn't even that tall. his face was about a 6.5/10 and his body, well, definitely no six pack or muscles anywhere in sight, yet he had the audacity to expect a model. in fact i had considerably lowered my standards to go on the date with him because i thought he wouldn't be as picky as a gym rat. boy was i wrong. he kind of acted like he could care less to talk to me because apparently he liked thin girls and brought it up often. yeah, i am about 10 lbs overweight, but most men i see are hardly walking Greek god sculptures.

on a similar note, most gym rats usually live in their mommy's basement, have a part time job flipping burgers (because how else would they be able to exercise 7 hours a day?) have only a high school education and a vocabulary that consists of "cool bro," "protein shake," "fat bitch" and "bubble butt." honestly, i am getting so irritated with most men. such damn high expectations, treating even the women with a few pounds extra like they don't deserve to exist and if they do agree to date, will just do it to play with your head and subtly throw in some insults about your weight whenever they have a chance. i should tell some of these assholes, look here goldilocks, you may have a 10 inch dick and 9 abs, but 2 brain cells, a job scraping shit off toilets and a personality of a rock. people act like having a nice ass and pair of tits is such a grand accomplishment in life. congratulations, you deserve the same praise as the person who invented computers for the first time received.

[Markm3212]

i blame internet dating. every one on there is looking for the perfect person (great body, great personality and earns lots of money). where as in reality, we dont have the perfect bodies, we dont all earn 100,000+ per year and we all have defects in our personalities. thats part of what makes life great and varied. but it seems that every time we look online, we see a fake profile or maybe even that 1 in a 1,000,000 and we somehow believe that we are eligible and deserve that person. if it was in a nightclub, would they have the guts to go and chat her or him up... no. so why do we have high expectations when we see them on line...

on top of that what with social media (and been exaggerated due to COVID) people have become keyboard warriors and believe that they can say what they like from the comfort of their own home with no repercussions, including mates about their partners. instead of being happy for there mate they now ridicule them for having a missies that might be different in some way to the poster girl that they all wank over.

people need to be realistic and embrace the differences and not expect every one to look the same or act the same or want the same things, thats just boring.

[Phoenix-gb]

The dating world is messed up on both sides. Maybe it is that I realise I'm at best, average, I can't really expect much more from someone I'm interested in. Mutual attraction is important, but my range for what is attractive is not so narrow as to be one particular body type, so I like to hope I'm not like your recent "geezer" experience.

That being said, it's not great on this side of the dating pool either, with women's expectations higher than ever as well a lot of the time.

I hope you find someone who will impress you and like you for you soon though.

[Asker]

thanks for the nice comment, and it's true. some women do have really high standards. i guess people in general have become a lot pickier.

[Phoenix-gb]

You're welcome, from some of your other replies it sounds like you're looking for the right things for a good long term relationship, so I do genuinely hope you find what you're after.

[allielynn]

to be completely honest with you, you sound extremely jealous and somehow you expect a skinny body to appear outof thin air. people who have snatched bodies have worked for them. you make it sound like all they care about is looking good, what happened to having praise for people who put in an effort to be healthy? when you said that the guy you went on a date with had the expectations of a model was fucked up, you are the same way. you think that a man with a great body and the mindset of eating healthy and working out is going to want someone, like you, who doesn't. I'm not saying that the men who tease you or make fun of you aren't in the wrong, because they are, but you can't expect change to just happen without working hard for them.

[Asker]

i never said i expect a model. i said i don't understand how mediocre men who don't have nice bodies expect a model. and i never said that i care about a gym rat desiring me, because i don't. their obsession with healthy eating and working out is a rather boring lifestyle and unhealthy in itself when it turns to paranoia and counting every single bread crumb they eat. what irritates me is their need to put overweight people down when no one asked them for their opinion. like a lot of in shape men will go on and on about how much they hate "fat bitches," will even say vile things like they are disgusting when they see them, even though "fat bitches" are perfectly content with average looking men and don't care about seeking a fit guy's affection. it is the insults that irritate me. get it now? my standard isn't six pack. my standard is mediocre looking guy, who somehow still feels entitled to a supermodel. and i am not a landwhale. i have only a few extra lbs that i am working on, but not looking like a 105 lb barbie and looking closer to 130 lbs is "fat bitch" for some people.

[Gwenhwyfar]

You’re not wrong girl

[ragooo8]

Chubby vs obese are different

[Asker]

really? well, according to guys around my age, they're pretty much the same thing.

[genericname85]

well because these days, "chubby" women and their "body positivity" bullshit bascially makes fat girls entiteled to the same sort of positive attention that girls normally have to earn by dieting and working out and looking great as a consequence of hard work.

it's like a lazy slob demanding the same recognition as arnold schwarzenegger. this isn't how recognition works and fat women trying to cheat this by being butthurt and forcing political correctnes language to be applied to their overweight are making people bitter.

i'm intentionally saying fat women, cause the term "chubby" is more and more claimed by fat chicks. i mean just google "chubby girl" and look at the images. i just did. good chunk of those is straight up morbidly obese. not "chubby". that's a problem.

[Needadvice1202]

Im not fat but I must say some ladies are lucky and are naturally skinny , not all of them have to work for it

[genericname85]

@Needadvice1202 well wether you have to work on it or not depends in larger parts on what you choose to eat than genetics. i'm not saying that genetics play some role but basically if you follow what the media says is good for you, you'll get fat xD

[Needadvice1202]

True

[Asker]

i said i am about 10 lbs overweight, and don't care about the affection of men who look perfect. i care about other things as well, such as a brain, a personality, a career, and other wonderful things. i mean, a man can be perfect in appearance and personality, but i am talking about those who are rude and like to constantly insult even the slightly overweight women. what i don't get is why anyone is "bitter?" if a person doesn't have a perfect body, just mind your own business and stop going on and on about how "disgusting" they are. like fit men are usually the most obsessed with "fat bitches." what i don't understand is why don't they just enjoy their thin women and shut up about fat bitches? those women are most likely not even considering you as a remote possibility of a relationship. also, what some women are irritated by is mediocre looking men who have similar high standards. i am not talking about landwhale here. i am talking about a woman who is a bit overweight but still has a decent figure. even people who are really overweight don't deserve to be insulted for no reason by people. just because some fat people are loud and rude and entitled, doesn't mean you should go around being an asshole and laughing loudly about how gross overweight women are for no reason. some guy's damn obsession with overweight women is kind of creepy. why can't people kindly mind their own business?

[genericname85]

i wasn't speaking about you particularly. please don't take what i said personally. if you're just a few pounds over "ideal weight", we both agree that doesn't matter. it's about people who don't put in the work necessary to look perfect still demanding the same recognition as those that do. i didn't say you're one of those people. i said this is why there's so much hate for "chubby women" generally speaking.

[Asker]

@genericname85 ah, okay then. thanks for clarifying.

[Ratpack60]

Sorry that this guy was a jerk. I personally find all types of women can be both attractive and ugly. Usually by their attitude or what comes out of their mouth. You will meet men that will like you and find you attractive. Don’t let the losers get you down.

[GMANN56]

Sorry you've experienced such disrespect. I would never think that I could speak for all
men so I couldn't tell you why your experiences have been what they are. People are
free to like what they like but they don't have to be assholes about it. I am kind
of a pretty face guy. I have turned down sex because I was not attracted to her face.
So 10 or 20 extra pounds means nothing to me. Don't give up on men due to the jerks
you have met to this point. They say there is someone out there for everyone but I
guess you have to sift through a lot of idiots to find them.

[raaz222]

We men like to grab girl fully, lift her , fuck her hard in every angle. In case of chubby girl it's not possible.

[Anonymous]

You lost me at your disrespecting men part after asking why men disrespect women.

[Anonymous]

I'm chubby and I don't have a problem.

[Anonymous]

Your biggest problem is not that you are overweight. It's your attitude. You seem like a bitter person, and no one likes a bitter person.

[Anonymous]

It's not all guys, but there are a lot of women that feel like you do about guys. Just be happy with yourself, you will meet someone that likes you.

[Anonymous]

*slow claps*