Almost every day I see guys on here, social media and in real life who sadly don't understand how physical attraction works. I always see questions asking "Are all women bisexual or lesbians?" or "Why don't women find men physically attractive?" I'll be answering those questions here. They are also guys who still believe that all those fictional romance movies depict real life physical attraction. Sadly, initial physical attraction so far appears to be a one way street. It appears to work only for males.
Read this bold text carefully before you read the take. I can assure you that I have not been asking those anonymous questions, I am not posting this take as a stress reliever to release my frustration with this subject, I am simply trying to help out the guys that are stressed by this subject.
1.) Men are very visual
After months living in denial, I think I have to accept that women aren't visual. This means women are not going to get sexually aroused just by looking at a partially clothed random man. I wish women were visual but too much indications say otherwise.
2.) Study after study implies women aren't visual
After reading these studies, I'm currently more that convinced women aren't visual. This means they don't instantly find men physically attractive.https://www.netnanny.com/learn-center/article/165/
3.) There are exceptions
I know a lot of people will say "but women are visual" well, unfortunately they are the exceptions. https://www.google.com/amp/www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/5-myths-about-female-desire%3famp Which means that visual women are rare and that they might lose their visual nature as they get older.
4.) The proof is all around you
Why is it that us guys love looking at those advertisements of partially clothed women yet women don't like looking at partially clothed men? Why is it that commercials always show men checking out random women? Why is it that men always compliment women on their appearance on social media and on here by saying "You are so gorgeous" yet all women say to a guy's appearance is "you look good"? Why is it that there are social media pages with partially clothed women that cater to men but no social media pages with partially clothed men that cater to women? The only social media page that caters to women is a Facebook page called "Lady B%ners" but it doesn't even show partially clothed men, all it shows is men dressed in fancy clothing. Usually when a guy posts on the "how do I look?" Section, he'll rarely get any responses or female users will only say "You look good" but they'll never say "Oh my, you are so sexy!"
5.) Mutual attraction is very rare
While it's real, it's very rare. I personally view Mutual attraction as when two people feel attracted to each other's looks. It's rare because visual women are rare unfortunately.
6.) Are straight women real?
Yes they are but since radical liberalism is currently mainstream, people make it seem like straight women are rare. However, straight women are still common; you just have to move to a very conservative area to meet 100% straight women but even then, it's not guaranteed you'll find a visual one.
7.) Addressing the major worry
A lot of guys wonder if all women are either bisexual or lesbians. That's not easy to answer but I'll tell you this, no but... Ever since that infamous study got published on the web http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/11977121/Women-are-either-bisexual-or-gay-but-never-straight.html , it's sparked controversy and many debates. It even angered many people. People always like to think that it's some kind of male fantasy but it's not. It's the fear that women aren't attracted to men. The same men who are disappointed that women aren't visual hate the thought that women don't find men attractive. The other issue here is that a lot of "straight" women believe that the female body is more "aesthetically appealing" implying that men are hideous. If a "straight" woman says that women are more aesthetically appealing than men, then chances are she's still in the closet(no offense). Also, a lot of women are said to watch lesbian porn but they claim to watch it because it's more "passionate" and less aggressive than gay male porn.
8.) Not as visual?
Perhaps all women are in fact visual but they are just not as visual as men are. However, this appears to be too good to be true. Since women never openly admit how hot a guy looks. Who knows, maybe women are just pressured by societal norms to not show their true feelings. https://source.wustl.edu/2006/06/erotic-images-elicit-strong-response-from-brain-2/
9.) Women still feel attracted to men
Even though women don't instantly lust after a "handsome male" they still feel attraction to them based on their looks because that's the sex they are attracted to. For example, while a man might be able to have lustful thoughts(if he wants to have those thought) when looking at a gorgeous woman, a woman won't be able to feel the same way when looking at a handsome man but will still feel attracted to him in the same way a man looks at a gorgeous woman without lust.
10.) What do you mean by so far physical attraction is a one way street?
I mean that the human brain still isn't fully understood. It can be argued that experts aren't on the human brain aren't even close to completely understanding the human brain. Even though a lot of studies imply that visual physical attraction only works one way(for males only) these studies could be proven wrong one day by newer studies. However, for now it's mostly accepted and almost certain that only men experience physical attraction/visual stimulation at first sight.
11.) How do I find a visual woman?
If you are like me in which you are only interested in visual women, then you'll have to have a handsome face, a nice body and have good fashion. Then you'll have to pay attention and see if random women in public continue to glance at you. If they smile while glancing at you it's a hint that they are interested in you.
What Girls & Guys Said
27 29Men are definitely more visual than women on average. But in that same vein, mutual attraction is far from rare lol.
Thanks for sharing!
They think that because they're not attractive and don't understand just how physical girls really are. Girls absolutely throw themselves at me on a regular basis.
Uh, biological drivers are actually pretty well understood. It's just that the FI is trying to deny them, thinking that everything is a 'social construct'.
And women are about as visual as men are emotional. Each gender has their strengths.
Testosterone has a huge influence on the men.
Biological drivers have a huge influence on women - we call it 'provisioning'. They are attracted to strength, power, dominance, leadership, and someone to be their emotional rock. Oh, and to provide for them and their many offspring.
So are you saying women are indeed visual?
Sure - they're just looking at different things than you. ;) Men love idealistically. Women love opportunistically. If you fail she'll bail. Simple as that.
Despite what you said Idonthaveausername, I would still prefer to meet a visual women. At least I could feel mutual attraction in such relationship. When you do not care about looks, you forgo a part of that person. It is also kind of shallow to me. Imagine someone in an art museum, who can blather about techniques used in a painting, its history, etc... (personality, "deep" stuff) , but ultimately is not able to appreciate or evaluate that painting, because he/she is blind to beauty.
I have no idea why this is a mystery to some men. Of course women appreciate a good looking man. If you've never experienced this you are obviously not a good looking man.
Women's sexuality is different from men and having a hot bod will not get you as far with women. Whereas a woman who has a hot bod will have guys begging for a minute of her time.
I think that was the entire point of the article. What you just said I mean. I use the term "article" loosely because it was pretty stupid, but you just summed it up and basically agreed with him, kind of.
@Anon-ymous1 Then he lacks a very basic understanding of people. I keep seeing this on G@G.
Yes he does, but also there's an element of truth to what he said; as I said, you basically agreed with him in your comment, in a way.
@Anon-ymous1 What he's saying makes no sense though, lol. It's just nonsense drivel. He needs to phrase it better.
His poor ability to express tactfully his message does not really change the message.
@Anon-ymous1 Most of what he's saying is very inaccurate. It worries me that he thinks straight women are rare, or that most women don't find men physically attractive. This is just false. He doesn't understand that women are just different. This doesn't mean they aren't "visual" or whatever. But whatever I don't really want to pick on him. I just don't understand how he can believe the stuff he's saying.
Science says all women are bisexual. And you comment does agree with him that women aren't sexually attracted to the male body in and of itself @rasberry0416
*your @raspberry0416
@bekkesmash "Science says all women are bisexual" Please tell me where you are getting this from. I have no interest in doing anything sexual with another woman. " women aren't sexually attracted to the male body in and of itself" Well no, because that would make us very bad at picking suitable fathers for our children. This doesn't mean women aren't attracted to men physically. The author wants something that doesn't exist- a woman that is attracted to a man like a man is attracted to a woman, and it can't exist because it would be a disaster for human life. So he's basically fixated on something that doesn't exist, which is why the post bothers me.
Lol at anyone who believes women are heterosexual, they are all bisexual, they consume 2.5 times as much lesbian porn as guys and it's is by far the most popular genre of porn to the female demographic (pornhub statistics,). "straight" women are also literally more aroused by the female body than the male body, indiana. edu/.../Chivers_Seto_Blanchard_2007. pdf (read that, it's scientifically sound proof). Playboy once did a test where women where aroused by a lap dance by both male and female strippers, while men where only aroused by female strippers. Most women will make out with other girls after minimal alcohol, and will be willing to do sexual things to another girl during an ffm threesome. Normally the thing that makes a girl want to have sex with a guy will be non physical, non gender specific traits and will need these non gender specific traits to feel sexual attraction to them in the first place.
Female sexuality is fluid while men have a hard wired sexual orientation. Anthropologists say women don't actually have a sexual orientation, just an amorphous mess based off sexual narcissistic self affirmation. Disagree with me if you want but there is far to much evidence (both scientific and anecdotal) to consider heterosexuality the female default, look up female sexual fluidity and see that anthropologists and neuroscientists agree with me (well I agree with them).
And you saying women aren't sexually attracted to the male body in and of it self shows women aren't straight, as they aren't sexually attracted to gender specific traits, nothing innately male.
@bekkesmash Whatever dude. Believe what you want.
The scientific world believe it.
I've been called handsome and hot by several women before but I just don't think they were sincere.
Im a sstraight women real so number 6 is a bit lame
Honestly I'm still kinda iffy on this. But this is certainly what I'd LIKE to think.
I see so many fat guys on the bus with a hot girlfriend that it's obvious women care more about personality than appearance. Unless those fat guys all have a huge penis.
I'm not visual. For me its all about a balanced combination of several things. Attitude, how you carry yourself, mannerisms, thoughts, opinions. Taking an active interest knowing somebody, building from the ground up mutual attraction and trust. Its very difficult to find, and I don't think it's asking the world with my preferences.
Absurdly-written article is absurdly written.
i think everyone knows its a two way thing
I beg to differ. I've known a very few, very attractive men, and the portion of women who are 'visual' is way higher than you seem to think. These guys were regularly hit on by women on a daily basis.
I was in a restaurant with late-teen waitresses and was getting the usual sullen, surly service, when my friend I was meeting for dinner walked in. All of a sudden it seemed they were pushing each other out of the way to take care of us.
I think we're on generalization #8472
Straight women most certainly aren't common in fact I doubt they exist at all.
Interesting
No such thing as straight women
Yes there is. My sister is one of them. She had a vagina-meter test and excelled on it to a level beyond the other 16 women who took it. So out of 17 women there, she's the most straight. She did it as an experiment in April 2014.
those guys need to improve their self esteem
Informative
I guess it depends on girl