Why tell someone you’re going to masturbate?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend of the opposite sex. When we text he usually ends it by saying he’s going to jerk off but he says it indirectly. Granted we have sexted in the past a couple of times but I put a stop to that right after he said we are “just” friends and we are not close. Any anytime he mentioned such thing I would not reply or just tease him to not have so much fun and stop replying after he sent a flirty emoji. It seems he wants to sext but doesn’t want to say it or ask. In my opinion if you’re “just” friends you don’t do that sort of stuff. Why the need to tell me he’s going to jerk off when he can just not reply or say he’s going to do something else.

[ImHere22]

I think he's trying to be playful and possibly sext with you. Years ago, one of my female friends and I would often message each other via instant messenger. Sometimes the conversation would turn to sex, and it being at night when we talked, her being female, me being male, us being in high school, we'd talk openly about masturbation. Like maybe I'd be jerking off while messaging her (and watching some porn on the side). She'd reply that she was 'jilling' and we'd talk about what was turning us on, things like that.
We never talked about it in-person, but it was a pretty regular topic for our online conversations.
Oh and she was really good at sexting- we actually did it a couple times, and I remember blushing when she sent me her 'actions'.

[kellytheman]

Yeah I just kinda feel that rude and vulgar especially if your just friends and he s guy. If he wants to sext he just come out and say it to you. He also might thinks it's funny and might say it to his buddies but should ever tell it to a girl.

[Nikki1989]

I don't get it. It is so childish, cringeworthy and embarrassing, so why say it. Some things people don't need to know, and that is one of them.

[Asker]

Exactly my point! I understood when we had the arrangement of helping each other out there but when he said we were “just” friends and not close those ties were cut. Since after all people who are “just” friends don’t share such details

[ushagomez]

It is way of letting you know he would like to start sexting again. If you don’t want to, then just tell him that directly.

[Vikkrram]

Coz he can't ask you directly that wanna sext again and i am horny. So he tell you in a different way to do these things again

[QuietVerbena]

He really wants to sext with you but is afraid to ask because you shut him down the last time when he told you he only liked you as a friend

[TacosRAwesome]

Probably wants help in the form of nudes.

[BarryLiverstone]

Because he told you that you were just friends to prevent a romantic relationship. Clearly he still wants to tease sexually. Have you clarified you don’t talk about sex with friends so he knows your boundary?

[Asker]

I have told him that I don’t sext friends. I even told him that he’s the only one that I’ve don’t that with. And he said the same was true for him.

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s worth a reminder then. Also you mentioned you don’t sext friends but also it doesn’t sound like you have settled on being friends. Do you want him to be more than a friend? If not then next time he says something sexual remind him you are just a friend and then you don’t get sexual. Also if you ask him advice about your crush that helps remind him you are not into him

[Asker]

I have told him in the past that I had feelings for him and if he ever wanted to give it a try I’d be willing. I also assured him that when ever we sexted my romantic feelings were not involved it was simply you help me I help you. I just don’t get why he feels the need to tell me he’s going to go pleasure himself after saying we’re just friends and not close as if our 9+ year friendship never existed. I think if you’re just friends you don’t talk about that kind of personal stuff. You’ll talk about that stuff with someone you’re CLOSE friends with. If you have a friend and a bff you’ll obviously talk about that stuff with your bff since you guys are closer not so much with the regular friend. I do plan on asking him the next time he mentions it but I’m just trying to understand WHY he tells me that after quite literally saying we’re just friends but then proceeds to do the exact opposite 😅 like what do you want from me my guy why tell tell me 😅😅

[smilelots]

Not something I would do but we are all different right.. I keep that to myself unless she wants to play as well and we share that moment in time..

[Iron_Man]

Because he wants to talk to you back into it again

[AydenHazor]

Basically he's telling you he's getting off to you, thinking that he's complimenting you and being flirty, which obviously isn't working for him

[Wise4myage]

He's hoping you will join him.

[PointTaken]

I just say it. I'm not shy about it yet usually don't end saying it. I will if someone asks what I'm going to do or something like that.

[Asker]

That’s the thing. I never ask him! We’ll be talking and he proceeds to mention that he “needs to go stroke”

[PointTaken]

There's some guys way of stupid thinking that if a woman hears it, she might get turned on. Lol. I called a guy an idiot for that once. It could be that he's wanting you to be part of it in one way or another.

[abitcurious2022]

I'll never tell someone I'm going to masturbate. It's personal.🙂

[ThomasDavid1989]

No such thing as "just friends". I GUARANTEE it

[peterrezeeek]

u guess the truth... he is going to sext u

[Preeti161101]

I never mastubate