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Why the big double standards when it comes to threesomes, guys?
KirstyW Guru
How come so many of you are down for you and two girls, but shut down at the thought of a girl with two guys?
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Is it the idea that you're not enough for us? Because that's not what it's about either?
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23 95I think the biggest would be the MMF to FFM threesomes. For whatever reason if you have a MMF threesome your a whore but if its a FFM threesome it's totally normal... if someone could explain that to me that would be great
It shouldn't matter as to the type of 3sum people have. I agree with you @anaspie
If she wants 2 guys she can go for it if I can get 2 girls. I just wouldn't want to be one of them in the MFM, having another dude's oock that close to mine in a DP or even being naked in the same room with me just ain't gonna happen, way too distracting to enjoy and I probably wouldn't even be able to stay hard. Dunno why, but even when a girl considers herself straight she's more comfortable being close to another naked girl than a straight guy being close to another naked guy.
For others i don't know, but for me its quite simple logic.
I am streight so i don't like the company of another naked guy in the bedroom. The scenario i'd consider a FFM is if my girlfriend would be bisexual and craves female company. If she was straight as well i wouldn't even dare ask it of her.
If I'm with two girls it's a threesome. Two guys... It's just two guys fucking a girl.
Two guys doesn't count as a threesome really lol
Why?
would just feels like I'm fucking a girl with a buddy. if I'm fucking two girls its me having a threesome with two girls cos there's more female sexiness
Maybe women rather it be 2 men and 1 woman and men rather it be 2 women and 1 man. Most people are heterosexual and prefer being the only member of their sex in 3-somes.
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I guess one girl can handle two guys but one guy can't handle two girls? A girl can take two men in her at once but a guy can't enter two girls at once? I have never done a two girls one guy but I have done several two guys and me. I wouldn't be adverse to two girls and a guy but afterwards he would be able to stand up for a week. :)
Sorry. That should be he wouldn't be able to stand up for a week.
Most girls are straight
Are you sure? Besides it won't be the girls making out with each other anyway.
Did you like your experience?
Loved it.
I should say loved them since I have done them more than once. Its a heady thing for a girl having two guys especially if the guys want to make sure they please her.
It's been on much mind but I don't know :/
Then dont if you dont know. It depends on how you feel toward your partner. Is it worth it that you could lose her? Love should trump lust every time.
I'm sure my boyfriend would but would want another girl vs guy
But how do you feel? Are you not enough for him? And if its two guys and you will he feel like he isn't enough for you? It gets crazy. Like I said love over lust. Lust is fleeting. Love lasts forever. Go into this with your eyes wide open if you do it.
I just want to experience it someday
Lets just say the time I did it along with someone I thought I loved we ended up breaking up. But it was just one nail in the coffin full of nails for us.
Then do it with two guys neither one being someone you love and make sure its two guys who want to please you not just themselves then. Nothing sucks worse than having two guys just using your body for their pleasure. That sucks.
While in a relationship? Lol
Good luck. If you want you can Follow me and if you have any more questions we can talk. Right now I have to get to work. Take care.
Well no. Only if you are NOT in a relationship.
Girls seem to fiddle around with their girlfriends a lot a lot more than guys fiddle around with the boys..
Girls be kissing, touching each other... all kinds
because it's hard for me to stay hard around other guy's but it's easy when there's 2 girl's
Well, i'm not really excited about the idea of MFF. I find -watching- a MMF more hot. However, i'd be more comfortable -having- a MFF if my partner really wanted one.
Ultimately i'm just not jealous of other women. If a partner wanted to be sexual with another woman, i'd feel very little jealousy at all.
I'd guess that in that at least i'm typical. So men who -want- a mff just want it, but a mmf they find to jealousy inducing (or offputting). As to why mff end up, I think? being more common... I'd suggest it either comes down to women being a little less jealous about sex without emotion than men are, or because more women then men are bi, so both partners find the mff interesting.
Being down with something is not the same as insisting on it, though.
i don't care if a girl has two guys. i just don't want to be there. i personally am not down with the whole notion of a threesome. i don't think its fair to all parties involved and quite frankly I think one woman can be headache enough. two would kill me
I don't want to watch my girl getting penetrated by another. That doesn't happen during a fmf. I understand if she isn't not down seeing me have sex either, but I leave that to her. Many women don't no want to have sex with another guy (already have that) but are curious about girls. Most guys don't want to have sex with the other guy in a fmf. But the girl does want to explore the other girl. Hence why it isn't different... even if you call bullshit
I am in a Poly triad with 2 women. They are both bi and in this relationship we all get what we want. Both girls get a relationship with both male and female and me being straight am with 2 amazing ladies who I love with all my heart. I think guys can be intimidated easily and by her being with another man he is loosing a part of her.
I read your post three times. I don't get it. Where does the other guy fit into a triad with two girls and a guy?
If they wanted another arrangement that included men then that would be fine. Some people are possessive and don't have the capacity to love more than 1 and some do. I think people like us are somewhat rare. I love both of them and want them to be free to have whatever experiences they feel they need. They have decided the arrangement we have now works best. Sorry if that wasn't clear before hopefully this helps clear it up.
Yes, thank you. I was confused about the " tri" part and then counting on my fingers. Your post seemed like one too many people. So I guess you are open to go beyond the tri thing. I saw a video about this on youtube. It seems to make sense on a small scale, but but once kids are involved... this thing seems to get very complicated. lol
We have 2 kids and have been together for 16+ years with my wife and we have been with our girlfriend for 7 years. We are a happy blended family. I find if it was just 2 adults involved and not 3 people usually don't see anything wrong with it but when it's a Triad most common response is what about the kids? They have 3 people that love them and would do anything to make there lives full of joy, support and encouragement.
I wasn't judging, but you have to know how the dynamics would seem complicated if you're not in the loop. I talked to a lady once on a chat site. She said her boyfriend was married. I was a bit shocked. Then she said her married boyfriend's wife, had a boyfriend. Then I was shocked even more. Then she said the four of them went on a vacation together. It was that state that has the big motorcycle rally every year. (Cant' remember which one) They stayed in separate hotel rooms. What I mean by that is, the married couple were apart in this situation. During the day they would sight see and appear to anyone as regular couples. No one knew that they had swapped partners for this vacation. Again, I'm not judging. But that is really some serious shit for the average person to wrap their mind around. lol
I didn't feel you were judging me at all. I know the dynamic is not what people are familiar with. We don't swap it's just us 3. We are in a ethical non monogamy relationship meaning we are only with each other. What makes our kind of relationship work or fail is the exactly the same as a "traditional" relationship communication.
OK, so the part that confuses me now, is your use of the term that you are in a "non monogamous" relationship. The part that interests me in all of this, is the group/monogamy part. To explain this better let me make up a story based on one of the videos I watched. I have two husbands/boyfriends. One is exclusive with me, and one is not. The one who is not exclusive is free to date other people (Let's call the non exclusive guy, Fred, and the other guy, Tom) Tom is only with me because and that is our rule. Fred has two girlfriends. One of those girls are exclusive and one is married... Do you see what I mean? I'm not trying to make this sound bad, but some of those scenarios sounds like a fucking disaster. I'm seriously not trying to make light of this, but that's one of the videos I saw. The one video I liked, was when there was a lady with two husbands/boyfriends. The video made the whole thing out to be blissful. Someone would vacuum, someone would cook,
They cut me off! lol But at the end of the day they all slept together and were happy. But then in one point in the video, one of her guys was preparing to go out on a date. The female of the group was obviously upset about this, but she tried to be supportive. I'm sorry for rambling on, but I think it would be nice to have two boyfriends/husbands, but I would need the whole thing to be monogamous between us all.
Ok both videos are "ethical non monogamy" but so is a 20 man on 1 girl gangbang if all parties are in agreement with no deception. Now the video you were drawn to is what I have just reversed with 2guys and a girl. That is a triad. The first sound to me like a quad with metamor/perimore on the side. That is a difficult to manage situation with all of the different people and different rolls and levels of commitment. I like to keep it basic with just 3. Are you looking for bi men or straight.
I don't know why you mentioned gangbang. I only meant that the allure of the poly thing, to me, would be to have to guys for me only. We would all be faithful to each other. That's the only thing that would work for me.
the problem is with the polyamory is a catch all category. It includes any situation that involved more than 2 people. I mentioned it to demonstrate how far apart the 2 ends of the category can be. This is where most peoples confusion starts. Typically when people find out my living/relationship situation they say so you and your wife are swingers, kinky fetish or open relationship. The simple truth is we are a normal loving 3 adult family with 2 kids. Besides the fact there are 3 people that sleep together we are mostly vanilla. we share a bed, chores, raising our children, finances and everything else that a family does we just do it with 3 of us.
You sound like us in reverse. My only suggestion is you may want to find an established Bi male couple that wants a girl. You picked the trickiest triad to manage. I have rarely see mmf with 2 straight men work. That doesn't mean it won't. It just helps if all involved are in to both of the other people in the triad.
OK, well thanks for explaining your situation better with me. I need to sleep now, but I learned a lot. The only reason I'm mentioning this stuff to you, is because you said the poly word. That is a very rare thing to hear in the real world. I don't think it's a bad thing, but that one video got me thinking about it. And yes, I would be selfish and not want another lady. This isn't just a sexual thing it's just the way it is. I can't tell you the name of the video I was watching, but it looked so nice. It was like three happy people sleeping in bed. The video went to crap when the one guy was going to go out for a date. lol Thanks for the chat... goodnight.
I wouldn't have it any other way. It is Beautiful when it's right. I hope I helped Good night and good luck finding your Triad.
because for many straight guys, the mere presence of a naked man will kill his sexual vibe.
That statement doesn't apply to me. I have no problem with MFMs.
I think it is more of a preference thing. Some people don't mind seeing a girl and a guy naked, some don't want to see the same gender naked (i. e. most guys finds it disgusting to see another boner/ a boner...). I am not sure why girls seem more comfortable seeing other girls naked as I have seen a lot of girls at a Burlesque show last time and cheered. I have been in to a spa and sauna place where is gender separated and people are asked to not wear anything before going to any of the spa, not a big deal to me (but you obviously gets in trouble if doing anything 'inappropriate').
Why would a guy want to share a woman with men when they are wired to be with as many women as possible?
exactly
Well, dofficult to say since Id be okay with either, but it probably stems from fear of inadequacy or mild homophobia (not in the really bad way media portrays, just irrational fear)
Well I'm against threesomes both ways so it's not really a double standard for me.
We don't want to have sex with another guy, what's difficult to understand about that?
But you wouldn't be, what's difficult to understand about that?
Even so we would also prefer to have sex without another guy in the room.