Sexual Relationships 
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I believe the word "virgin" must be erased from our lexicon. What I mean is, people should stop using the term, "virgin," and use other words instead.
Instead of using the term, "virgin," people use more descriptive terms to increase clarity and communication skills. I suggest these alternatives:
1. a young, unmarried female
2. a maiden
3. a sexually inexperienced female
4. a sexually inexperienced person
5. a girl with an intact hymen
6. a person who identifies himself/herself as "virgin" even though he/she has engaged in some kind of sexual activity before with oneself or with a partner
7. a person who resists sexual temptations and may or may not have a sexual history
Yeah, yeah. I know what you're thinking. You think that those alternatives are just too wordy, eh? Well, I tell you that, even though they are kind of overly verbose, they are far more descriptive than "virgin". I believe that everybody should say explicitly and clearly what they are. If a person has engaged in some kind of sexual activity before, then s/he should say that to his/her doctor or significant other instead of using an overused term, "virgin". When something like "virgin" is overused, it becomes meaningless. What does it mean? Well, it may mean something in your mind, but other people can't read your mind, and you should better have good communication skills to describe exactly what you mean by "virgin". If you can't, then you're probably just another virgin pretender, trying to use the ambiguity as a cover-up for your embarrassing sexual history. That's just disgusting.
Be honest. Let go of that false sense of arrogance. If you have had any kind of sexual activity (oral sex, vaginal sex, anal sex, masturbation, sexual touching), then you are not a virgin by the 4th definition of this myTake. Period. End of story. I don't care what BS excuses you make. You can't be something you're not. You might just accept that you are a non-virgin and make the best of it.
But look on the bright side. If you take the term "virgin" to mean #7, then that implies that you may be a non-virgin but you learn how to deal with your sexual temptations, so you don't make the same sexual transgressions again. In a sense, you strive for purity and perfection, even though perfection is not attainable. And that is most important of all. I believe that one purpose in life is to improve oneself. We may never be perfect beings, but as long as we always strive for improvement, that's good enough.
Another bright side is that some people who actually have no sexual experience with a partner (oral sex, vaginal sex, anal sex, masturbation, sexual touching) are virgins by the 4th definition. Though, whether you consider orgasms through solo masturbation and sexual touching a legitimate way to lose one's virginity is up to you. In reality, too many people believe that solo masturbation and sexual touching can't make a person lose his/her virginity, so within some social circles, the perceived "virgin" may be the laughingstock. This social status as "virgin" is terribly frustrating for sexually inexperienced men. Women, on the other hand, are praised for any kind of sexual inexperience. So, sexually experienced women may say that they only have had one or two partners or zero partners, even though they may have had far more partners. They may say that this partner "doesn't count" or may "forget". This phenomenon of lying about one's sexual experience is documented by social science researchers.
What does that say about virginity? It means that you can't take a person's word about virginity, because everyone has his or her own definition of virginity. A woman may have had cunnilingus or fellatio with one of her ex-boyfriends, but she doesn't view either activity as "virginity loss," so she still sees herself as a virgin. A man may be extremely conscious about his lack of sexual experience with a partner and say that he has had sex before and omit the fact that his only sex partner is a sex toy.
Therefore, I believe that the word must be erased from our lexicon. Use something else instead. Be honest about your sexual status. If you are a person who just has never really slept with anyone before, then you shouldn't stress over it as if it's the end of the world. Look at dogs and cats. Many dogs and cats are raised to be "fixed animals", so they can't reproduce and won't show any reproductive behaviors. Humans control the reproductive lives of the dogs and cats; and dogs and cats are blissfully unaware that they are fixed. If you are a person who has had any kind of sexual activity with anybody, then you should state it to your healthcare provider or significant other, because being honest about your sexual history shows that you care about your physical health, mental health, and relationship to your significant other.
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