Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
In the past, I have written a myTake on why women have sex on the first date, and on the contrary, it is because they feel as though you've established a strong enough connection to want physical intimacy. That connection is purely sexual attraction, and can be sparked with intense eye contact, positive body language, or with playful banter during flirting, but where's the love, the actual feelings?
With sexual attraction at it's peak, and and an emotional connection at it's purest, because sex is succeeded by these feelings, it is a special time. You would not want to have sex with someone you don't find sex with someone you find attractive, but with women, they also do not want to have sex with someone that is meaningless to them. They need to feel that emotional connection in order to come close to the idea, and that connection can't be established on only the first date.
That being said, most women DO need an emotional connection in order to have sex. If you're able to appeal to her emotions within a few hours, that's great, but it's just too unlikely to happen. To have an emotional connection with someone is to have a sense of trust, and during the first date, everyone must look out for:
Possible STD's
No one want's them, and this is a surefire way to repel anyone from having sex so soon. No one knows of any diseases, and no one would want to risk catching them.
Being an Easy Catch
Her social reputation matters to her, guys. She does not want to be labeled as a slut, a whore or whatnot, and she won't give any free passes because you're attractive. How bad would it feel if you gave yourself up so easily? To be used for sex is a terrible thought that no one should ever do to you.
Future Sex Becomes Meaningless
This is one of the reasons why women hold off of sex until marriage, and although I disagree with that, having sex so soon can make further sexual intimacy appear to be dull and tasteless, because it has already happened so soon. They want the sex to be meaningful as possible. That being said, the sex can't be meaningful, if you don't matter yet, and you don't matter on the first date. She wishes to be exclusive to you, and won't engage in sexual activity unless she feels that way.
The first date is really just a fun way to get to know each other better. With determination based off of your actions, you will prove your trustworthiness by remaining respectful to you an the others around you, and secure within yourself on top of being a man. Warm her up first, earn her trust, then you can have sex. She'll need to feel like she's special to you, and that you're special to her. That's not going to happen on the first date.
What Girls & Guys Said
13 20Because they're not crazy like horny guys.
Having a girlfriend or a wife is the worst thing that could happen to me in my life.
Why do you say that?
Because my time is super precious and i am focusing on my career and fitness, and if i had one she would steal my time and i will end up being average rather than successful.
If you think worldwide, religion is also most common reason as 30% of world's population is Muslim and sex before marriage is banned in Islam.
Also It can bring feelings of regret as no one is ready to commit on first date.
Irrespective of that, nice take!
Thank you! And yes, religious purposes are also a reason. Perhaps I could add this next time lol
i will only do it after marriage
i'm looking for you how old are you?
So you make the guy spend a good 10,000-20,000 thousand dollars before you sleep with a guy and 3-10 years later your divorced and you get your stuff and half of his stuff. Sound like an expensive way of getting in someone pants marrage in not worth a grain of salt in America anymore
waaw, why you think about divorce, you look pessimistic, why you don't say you will have petter life with your husband?
@Mounirkhiro because that's America. Over voice rate is one of Is a good 50%. I have more faith in a French couple or a British couple marriage lasting the way it should. But in the United States it's pointless
@Mounirkhiro i am 22
All guys only want sex tho! That's what I noticed so if you don't do that with them (which I don't) they'll stop talking to you
I agree, all guys will want sex from you if they find you attractive. This is true, but it isn't a bad thing, or an abnormal thing. All guys that are attracted to you will want sex, but many will also like to get to know you more. Wouldn't you want to fuck any person you liked and found attractive?
Makes sense! But I've never met a guy who wanted to get to know me they only want sex from me and when I say no they ignore me but weird thing is they're willing to get to know other girls and date other girls So I don't know if I'm doing something wrong
There is sexually attractiveness, interest, and a liking to another person. You most likely are to have sex with someone you like while guys are able to have sex with anyone who is sexually attractive, and that's why you're probably not likely to have sex on the first date, because you don't have an emotional connection with someone, liking them. You are probably more sexually attractive than anything else.
if you're just a pretty face and guys don't want a serious relationship with you, your personality puts them off
Maybe it's that.. ehm, how it's called. Prison-elity.
Women do not have sex on the first date because sex is a major contributing factor to their value.
The more sex partners a woman has the lower her value and ability to wager on a relationship because she becomes a lot less exclusive if other men have sampled her.
In addition, dangling of sex is a woman's major card she holds in getting you to do things for her. Most guys would not continue seeing a woman if she said no sex. Thus, women withhold sex until they feel that you are willing to commit to them and/or too good of a catch to let go.
I agree.
I've noticed that men don't really like having sex on the first date. They want to wait until it just feels right. Mostly because I think they don't want their friends to find out how "easy" they are. And if they do it too soon, the sex becomes meaningless to them.
You've noticed this in men? Interesting.
It's frustrating, but I can see their point. I don't mind waiting if it's the right guy.
Some wouldn't mind, some do. But I think most men don't want to look bad by suggesting sex early on.
@MrNameless That's true. Some men don't want to get a bad reputation for being too easy.
excellent comment. You literally rewrote what OP put down and substituted men in, bravo for that little perspective change. I'm a little distressed OP hasn't actually noticed it himself...
"Her social reputation matters to her, guys. She does not want to be labeled as a slut, a whore or whatnot, and she won't give any free passes because you're attractive. How bad would it feel if you gave yourself up so easily?"
I've fucked plenty of guys on the first date. I don't care if you call me a slut or a whore, but don't EVER call me a "whatnot." I hate that term. :)
I've never called anyone a whatnot lol. I don't even see people use it as a derogatory noun. "Whatnot" simply means etc, or any other thing basically.
Slut = noun Slutty = adjective Whatnot = noun Whatnotty = adjective I was in a club once and a girl waked by who was dressed quite provocatively. I could hear the comments from the girls at the next table. "She looks like a major whatnot!" "No shit, who dresses that whatnotty?"
I probably won't hear that term used like that any time soon, but it really doesn't matter. If I heard someone call anyone that, I'd be puzzled, much less offended.
Many guys have sex on the first date. Many guys have sex on the first "date" by having the Tinder app. Men are complete pigs.
Oh, wait... who are they having sex with?
That being said, women DO need an emotional connection in order to have sex.
That's not true. I've had sex with girls I've met on tinder and at bar/club on night one. Not every girl needs an emotional connection.
Actually, I thought I said "most women" instead of "women". Thanks for letting me know.
I think most women just don't want to come off as easy or slutty that's why. If a girl I'm dating seriously would want sex 1st or 2nd date id run the other way
Right. That's another good point.
thats for guys and girls
if the two dont care it will become meaningless
and be awkward speaking from exp