Why Women like Lesbian Porn/The Differences in Male and Female Sexual Desire

I've seen this discussion going around a lot on G@G, detailing why "straight" women are so attracted to lesbian porn, and why we are also more likely to find attraction in women's bodies. I would like to present my own opinion on the matter, as I feel like it could de-mystify the argument a little bit.

Male and Female Sexual Desires are Inherently Different.

"The feeling"

Why Women like Lesbian Porn/The Differences in Male and Female Sexual Desire

I think some people have a really hard understanding why so called "straight" woman would find a girl attractive and masturbate to lesbian porn, exclaiming that they are not actually straight but some form of bisexual or in the closet lesbian. Where I think the disconnect lies, is that men and women tend to enjoy sex in two distinct manners. Men are more set on the idea of whom they are sleeping with, how hot they are, what their body looks like, what gender they may be. This is why men are seen as more visual creatures, because they fantasise about the person or people they want to be with, and are more turned on by the naked body of the person they are attracted to. For women on the other hand it's more about what, what can you do to me, how can you make me feel, how can I make you feel, the actual identity of the person may be a bit more irrelevant. This is why women come off as more personality driven, because they're looking for someone they have chemistry with and have good sex with. When we fantasise, it's about what they can do to us and what the sex it going to be like, not necessarily your specific body. Again, this isn't absolute, I have had my fair share of perving and I bet guys are searching for a good sex partner, but I think there's a little disconnect here. I think this is why women, unlike men, are turned on by effectively every sort of porn (gay male, lesbian, straight) as opposed to their preference, because it's about the feeling.Our orientation lies in who is actually having sex with us (I personally am not a fan of actually having sex with a girl but I can empathise and get turned on by the pleasure of lesbian sex) and yes it doesn't mean where all latent bisexuals, I think it means they're is a larger grey area for attraction.

"Male vs Female Gaze"

Why Women like Lesbian Porn/The Differences in Male and Female Sexual Desire

I know I know this is a commonly use as a media/film/literature term and has major SJW connotations but I think it has an interesting insight into the male and female psyche. For the uninitiated, "gaze" in cinema refers to the way a filmmaker frames the camera to suit (usually) the sexual interests of the audience, either for men or women, but also specific to sexuality in certain situations. I think we're all pretty familiar with what is known as the "male gaze", where the creator depicts women (or men) in a sexualised and objectified manner to suit the taste of the male audience. There is a lot of attention put onto how the individuals look as well as placing them in a position of passivity. This film style suits the "whom" based manner of men's sexuality, as it focuses on a person or people ready for the viewers consumption. Interestingly, a female gaze is not actually the gender flipped version of the male gaze but has been theorised to be quite different in execution. I’d like to bring up Anna Biller’s 2016 film the Love Witch (where my avatar is sourced from) to really showcase the guts of the female gaze.

Why Women like Lesbian Porn/The Differences in Male and Female Sexual Desire

In a conversation with Filmmaker magazine, Biller talks about how the film was explicitly created with female audiences in mind “I’m working very directly with female fantasy”, which includes how women are more attached to the idea of “a sense of pleasure in fantasising about receiving the kind of love or admiration that a woman gets when she is looked at by men.” It also details how the female sexuality, has a narcissistic component to it, enjoying the idea of looking at a beautiful woman in reference to ones self. I think that in enough itself adds a layer deeper into why women find other women attractive, because it directly reflects back onto them.


“Wanting more Sensual Sex”

Why Women like Lesbian Porn/The Differences in Male and Female Sexual Desire

This is very directed at the lesbian porn aspect, but I think another factor than comes into play in women’s preferences is that lesbian porn is simply more sensual and focused on the woman’s pleasure, not the man’s. Pretty consistently we’re seeing lesbian porn topping women’s preferences, and many are left scratching their heads, but I think it’s got to do with a mixture of different reasons. Firstly, I think this relates back to the previous two arguments, women want to fantasise about what’s being done to them, straight porn doesn’t reflect that, but lesbian porn does. I think lots of women get not satisfaction out of the and male centric way straight porn is created, and does not tap into the fantasies that women may actually have. There is more soft core, and “for women” categories of porn that exist, which are very popular with women, they cannot compete with the sheer volume of lesbian porn created in comparison.

“The Gap between Male and Female Fantasies and Reality”

Why Women like Lesbian Porn/The Differences in Male and Female Sexual Desire

I think this is a really important aspect of the difference in male and female sexual preferences on this topic. It’s generally agreed upon that men’s personal kinks and fantasies more readily effect their real life sexual preferences whereas women’s do not. This was shown in the University of Montreal’s study into kink, in which a large chunk of the women involved never wanted these to come true, in contrast the majority of men did want their fantasies to become reality. I think this extends to the idea of sex with the same gender, if men masturbate to it, it’s what they want, not the same for women on the other hand. I can understand the confusion here, especially on the part of men, but I think you just have to acknowledge the female fantasy as less of an indicator of actual desire and behaviour, and more about an exploration of boundaries in a safe environment.

“Not Bisexual”

Why Women like Lesbian Porn/The Differences in Male and Female Sexual Desire

Something to remember for those of you who may be anxious your girlfriend/wife will run off with a woman some day.

I think there is a little more wiggle room for women’s orientation than men’s due to the differences in sexuality, but there are definitely women, including myself, who only want to have sex with men no matter the situation. I think it’s important to detach fantasy from reality, understand that for straight women, it’s men they want to be with with and to trust their judgement in this situation. They are not hiding any sort of closeted sexuality, it’s just a difference in the way the opposite gender see their desire, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

A lot more could be added to this argument, especially regarding the societal manipulation of sexuality in women vs men but I just wanted to keep it relatively brief.

Thank you.

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  • women are just more objectifiable, men aren't. And to objectify something you need a high sex drive.

    even gays tend to objectify the men who have more "female"-like features--big butts, pecs so big they resemble tits, small waist, etc.

    And women get turned off by these features in men, because they don't like objectifying them.

    • This isn't true. Am not sure if you've been with a lot of women. But they do objectify men like the size of penis and buff bodies. And this statement is actually not factual about women being into lesbian porn. It's all agenda.

    • @richardace_123 that's not objectifying though, it's subjectifying. men see female traits (tits ass) and objectify them; we want to act on them. women see male traits (big muscles, tall, etc) and subjectify us; they want us to act on them. They far prefer this to simply touching us and doing things to us. Most women like doggystyle more than cow girl. sure it's not true that most women like lesbian porn, but I'm sure more women can objectify a lesbian than a gay man or even a straight man.

    • Again I think it's about the different way women and men express sexuality, I think women are less likely to objectify anyone, regardless of gender. You're right it's a subjective reaction, what can you do. Personally I also see what I can do to them, it's less about specific body parts though. By the way look at the Pornhub Stats

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      Plus personally I like being on top more than doggy for a couple of reasons, generally that It's because it's the only position I can come in but it really tiring, especially after a while.

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  • Nice Take I watch it cause I am a lesbian.

    • You are the hottest lesbian iv ever seen

  • I enjoy watching lesbian sex more than straight sex. I find women come across as more loving and enjoy the touch of another woman. Men can be overwhelming to some plus think of their own needs than the woman's.

  • "women want to fantasise about what’s being done to them, straight porn doesn’t reflect that"
    So let me get this straight, heterosexual women can't relate to being penetrated by a man?
    What the fuck kinda straight woman can't reflect to having sex with a man?
    Straight porn is literally full of a woman having a dick shoved inside her, why can't you just imagine being in her place?

    Why does it have to be a woman going down on another woman to turn you on? Why can't it be a man?

    I don't know about you, but this is gay as fuck.
    Any woman who touches herself while looking at two women scissor each other isn't straight.

    • Please understand the point of view of women. Straight porn is catered to men, it's about their pleasure, what is shown is for the sole purpose of fulfilling their visual fantasy. Lesbian porn and stuff like erotica, is actually tailored towards what women want. A man just fucking a hole is not what a lot of women think is sexy.

    • You're saying women are personality based, yet they flock to good looking men. Half of 'straight' women say they're turned on by female form and the other half says they like male bodies. They imagine themselves being in place of a lesbian who is being eaten out by a girl, yet claim they're straight. Some women say they're sexually attracted to women but cannot see themselves marrying a woman, still straight. They're literally looking at a woman's tits and ass while she eats out another girl, but guess what? straight. "A man just fucking a hole is not what women find sexy" And a woman licking another woman's pussy, that they do find attractive? Straight porn as well as lesbian porn, both are targeted towards men, and neither is inherently sensual or rough. Do you see the pattern here? None of this makes sense. Fuck all this, shit hurts my brain. At this point I won't even bother, i'm fuckin done. I just hope there are real, actual straight women out there who aren't deluded.

    • @HeAintMe don't get fooled here buddy. Women will only say they are into lesbianism to turn guys on. To impress you. I've experienced this quite a few times. Before I started dating some women they would claim how they like a woman. Then once we were in a relationship they confessed that they are not really into lesbianism and they only said it because they thought it would turn me on. If women are just about how they can make them feel then explain why some women get off when they are on the giving end? I've been with women who actually achieve orgasms from giving head? Why because they were attracted to me. Same as how a man wouldn't really care to impress a woman in bed if he isn't attracted to her but would if he is.

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  • Most women are straight and don't like lesbian porn !
    stop with the lgbt shit agenda.

    • True and women will actually pretend to be into it to impress the guys. So by the end of the day it's for the sake of attracting the opposite sex. But people really do need to stop this LGBT vile agenda.

    • @richardace_123 I mean, you could always look at it like that, but you could actually talk to straight women that enjoy it and ask.

    • @lilaqua because they are lying. I've encountered women like this they are pure talk. Then when I dated them they actually aren't into lesbian stuff and are highly insecure with other women.

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  • tl;dr women aren't actually attracted to men

    • Wow you get brainwashed easily.

    • @richardace_123 men are resources, and utilities for women... they need men.

    • @Margillard Another brainwashed guy. You have more to learn. Women need men yes, but they also want and are attracted to men. Haven't you seen any woman become infatuated over a guy because she is attracted to him? Women can also be utilities for men. Both genders are meant to compliment one another.

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  • Well, the oral pic is actually quite hot :)

    • I know, It's from Blue Valentine. Depressing as fuck film though

  • Every woman is a potential lesbian.

    • True

    • True

  • Read the title. Simple answer. Because they're either lesbian or bisexual. If you're a woman and get off to watching two women have sex then you're not straight. Just accept it.

    • very much accurate my friend.

  • i say if you like to watch 2 girls in porn then you would be with another girl and who cares watch whatever you want as long as your getting off to it who cares

  • Long story short, women aren’t attracted to men’s bodies.

  • A women who is aroused by lesbian porn is not straight. Yeah it focuses on your pleasure, but the thing is... you don't care who is giving you that pleasure... that is why you aren't straight.

  • I would say you are at least somewhat bi if you get turned on by that. (Bi myself)

  • Bullshit!

  • Well I have no interest in lesbian porn, quite boring.. Only straight porn does it for me preferably with one girl and more guys

    • Play with my dick

  • actually i can relate to this at first i was baffled but now that i think about this im a little bit like this too its like im 100% hetrosexual however when im in my nocturnal state i do have an attraction for the trans women it sort of coincides with my male attraction to liking what the other looks like e. g an attractive woman and also how it makes me feel a little. like when im in the moment i like to fantasize what it would be like how it would feel how it would make me feel like being dominated in that way and being penetrated in different places and the sexuality of it but in real life i wouldn't like it i would feel disgusting and just plain filthy!

  • Why women like lesbian strap-on anal porn?

  • My girlfriend left me to marry a girl..

  • Great take

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    • Great pics!

    • Ahh... JC before she got too thin. Love that movie.

    • @MrOracle celeb women do that for some reason. Like Sarah Michelle Gellar and Natalie Portman

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  • Well, not all the women are lesbians, but if I were a woman, damn, I would definitely be a lesbian, I wish that some hot lesbian girl makes me her bitch ;)

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    • LOOOL

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