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OK I have a friend with benefits who I work with he's my supervisor he has a girlfriend and 2 kids an has told me his relationships not perfect but he's comfortable now we hook up @ least twice a week the sex is great he kisses my neck an my body but he won't kiss me in the mouth I really like him and want him 2 leave her so I let him do anything he wants sexually an he likes it but why won't he kiss me in the mouth? Do you think he will leave her 4 me?
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I'm not heartless! I didn't create their problems! Just recently I told him how I felt he says he's just not big on kissing since I brought it 2 his attention we've been kissing!
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Ok some of your comments are just rude and mean I came here for advice not to be trashed on, I love him I'm not trying to be a homewrecker I just want him to love me back! So if your not gonna give me positive an uplifting advice then please don't post!
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21 26People are judgmental and cynical. Not always, but usually by what they hear. You claim your not a home wrecker, but your actions speak different.
You like a man who is in relationship already, rather than going after someone who is single. Perhaps he went after you first, but it still doesn't refute the fact that you allowed yourself to be with him. He has problems with his girlfriend, that doesn't mean he's "available". Plus he has kids. Are you saying you want the kids to be left with their mother? And perhaps he will just start over with you? If you say yes to any of these, then yes, you are somewhat heartless. Your going after a man who isn't entirely single. These aren't harsh comments, this is reality based on your decisions. How on earth you would think there could be any "uplifting" advice is beyond me.
I think he just doesn't want to get emotionally involved and doesn't want to lead you on. He has two kids, the chances of him leaving that family are very slim, sorry :(
you're stupid.
for the kissing part do you give him oral before you guys start having sex? if yes then don't expect him to kiss you in the mouth because you just sucked his member. Do you think he will leave his girlfriend and 2kids for you I mean come on be realistic if he wanna leave them he would do that long time ago before he met you.
No way he's leaving her, he would've already.. Sorry to say this but you're his booty call.. He doesn't want to kiss you on the lips, because it's something for a girl he care about and love.
Guys ain't into kissing the lips that much, and you're being CHEAP! Sorry that's the truth! Even if he leaves her he won't be with you, not for long at leas!
You wanted the truth from our point of view! that's my advice! leave him..before he leaves you anyway!
No he will never leave her. You make it easy and comfortable. He may see kissing as intimate, sex with most men with a mistress needs to be separated from his real life. I always say if a man leaves his girl and kids for you...He just created a new job opening-for a new mistress. Cheat with ya, cheat on ya.
Stop making it so easy and comfortable for him. iF YOU want more. If you enjoy how it is then just adjust a little.
If you pull the leave your family card or I WILL tell card...he will leave you in the dust.
and how do you know these problems are real? perhaps he leaves out the parts he does to create the problems? Men want a mistress that listens and takes their side. oh boo hoo. I mean he is in a regular sexual relationship with you. guys suck.
ha. you're a beautiful precious human being. but that's why you need to get your self out of this situation cos it cheapens you darling and your worth more than that. seriously.
Ok the cheating guy is not big on kissing.? He's not a passionate guy he just likes to bust a nut. His wife is probably a frigid bitch and won't suck him but has his children. He really likes his kids because they are young and family etc. Yes, to answer your question, he will never leave his wife for you. He just wants to keep F***** you until the end of time. You called it right "Friends with Benefits" Get a raise at least! I mean get his job at least... haha
hes not going to love you back because he has a girlfriend and two kids
so please do not waste ur time
and find a better guy
So you do it . Kiss him passionately in his mouth. Lick his lips. Your partner may be addicted to porn movies and he is affected with what he see in porn. Cause there is rarely a kiss in the mouth in a porn movie
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Expect him to go where his kids are. You're just his mistress.
Well QA, there's still hope for you. my mom got divorced from her husband after many many years of him cheating on her. he freaked out when he got the divorce because he never planned on leaving her. I can guarantee you that you're not the only one (besides his wife) that this man uses for sex. I also bet he's all charming and taking care of you all the time..
Woah wait do you seriously have a hope that he'll her leave for you? seriously? OMG! I hate to break it to you but you're obviously his booty call, what you're doing will NOT make him love you, sure he likes the things you let him do, but is that enough reason to love you? Nope, he doesn't kiss you on the mouth because he doesn't see you as someone respectful, you ask why? hmm maybe because you're sleeping with someone who is already in a relationship? And yeah you didn't cause their problems but you still did a very low thing, hooking up with someone who has a girlfriend? really?, my best advice for you is not to hope that he'll magically fall in love with you just because you let him do whatever he wants in bed, you should have more respect for your self and leave that guy, cause as I said before, you're clearly his booty call.
hello! I understand what you feel right now but I have not yet been to this kind of situation and I pray I really won't because this is not an easy one to get over with!
huh! I may sound a bit nega but this is my view and would just want you to open even just one of the pair of ur eye. get what I mean? I guess he doesn't like you romantically. if he doesn't why does he had sex with you and to think it happened not just once...severeal times. he does it to drove his thought away. he wanted to escape from reality and to consider that both of you are friends I guess he is comfortable doing it with you for you understands him and he got papered whenever the two of you are together.
u see, lovers realy started kissing before they get into bed it is because they are inlove with each other and that sex is just the expression of their love. don't be upset with what I've said but I guess this would be the great time to think about yourself. give both of you a break.to relax and think and feel what's inside.
romantic relationship does not rooted on intimate things you shred together. it's an unexplainable feeling. if you give the both of you a break that means: . 1. u'll be out of his life temporarily and he'll be able to think about his life. if you really matter to him or he was just able to forget his family life it is because you are there. 2. all of ur questions will be answered if both of you could have a break. 3. you too could reall ythink about how important he is in your life and be ready to whatever answer he will have when both of you meet again. either its a yes or no!
enjoy life! I know you are a bright gurl and you really know how to get out from this better than what I think and can it's just that right now you can't see yourself over all of these things that's why ui can't think right.
pray and get well. mwah!
i Don't thank so its cheaper to keep her
I read this question and hope this works out well for you.
Wow itsdumb ignorant girls like you that because happy families to fail and kids left without fathers. Was daddy not there 4 you or somethin? Because what ur doin is pretty sick, and you think this is ok? Ur hopin that the family will fail? Just because he's a cheatin ass doesn't mean you mean anything to him. Look how much his real girlfriend means to him, and look at the girl he screws on the side and ask yourself if he cares about ne one but himself. Drop him drop it and kno you will never b with him and I don't kno y any self respectful woman would want to
if you really like him, stop having sex with him. If you want him to be happy don't force him to choose between a slut (you look like one and act like one so I'm not judging you for your look =D) and his family. He doesn't kiss you maybe because you have no respect for yourself obviously and maybe you sleep with 2 or 3 other married man, and maybe you kissed them and he doesn't trust you so he doesn't wanna kiss you. or maybe you have bad breath... That being said... you are selfish. Would you feel good knowing his girlfriend and kids are alone because YOU?! I'm sure you don't really care loll
and letting him f*** you the way he wants won't make him love you, this is the most stupid thing I've heard in my life... he's a jerk and maybe his girlfriend is not the hottest chick and maybe she is not too good in bed but obviously he loves her enough to stay with her even if he sleeps with a slut to satisfy his penis. Have a nice day Booty-call-with-the-big-boobs
I don't think he will leave her for you but I also don't think you are a homewrecker...you personally have no moral obligation to his girl or kids that is all on him...if a home was strong enough it couldn't be wrecked in the first place...I am not condoning what you are doing but I am saying that it is his moral obligation to do right by his girl and kids not yours...
I doubt he will leave her. It is actually pretty surprising when push comes to shove, how little great sex has to do with a guy choosing his partner. Right now he has the perfect arrangement, he's got his baby mama at home taking care of the house and kids and he's got you as a tasty treat on the side. Splitting up with her will be drama and guys don't enjoy drama. On top of it all he obviously has some other attachment to her that is keeping him hooked.
Be prepared to know that when you enter into a FWB situation it has nothing to do with love and love does not develop from sex for guys, though it can definitely cause us gals to feel love. Guys completely and absolutely can have sex with you and continue to enjoy sex with you without any concern of falling in love. Knowing that he is your supervisor just makes it all the more likely you are going to end up hurt because if things do not go well, you will not only lose the guy but you will also not want your job anymore.
You're a freaking home wrecker! It's girls like you that make relationships go down the tubes. Keep your legs closed and find your own man.