Why won't my boyfriend cum from me?

I don't know what to do. I try to not let it bother me and not show him but it's getting to me. My boyfriend has only cum once from me and it was a handjob. I don't want to have sex, it's a big fear of mine but he's fine with that. Everytime we do something sexual he always has to jerk himself off to cum. When I blow him I can't do it right because I gag before I can finish him. And I'm not very good at handjobs. I need more guidance but my hand will start to hurt if I do it too long. He's shown me how to do it but I still have trouble. Am I just really bad at making him cum or am I not sexually attractive enough? He says that I'm super hot. He likes to be dominated and I love to give it to him. It makes me mad I can't make him cum and he has to do it himself. Please give me advice!!!
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  • You must be doing the handjob real wrong or he is having trouble due to anxiety or some other reason.
    Have you tried having him guide you?
    That's what I do with girls who don't know what their hand is supposed to be doing, I have them grab me and I hold their hand so they get the idea of the right grip and movement.
    Or maybe he has been wanking wrong this whole time, my hand has never hurt from a handjob, it's not something that requires speed.

    "not sexually attractive enough" is never a thing.

Most Helpful Guy

  • lol first one.. stop being so damn lazy.. You want to make the boy cum but only thing you are going to do is a handjob or a blowjob.. but you can’t do it long “cause it hurts…” or blow him til finish because you “gag..” I don’t know if you are reading or hearing what you are saying. That lack of effort is going to make any man have a hard time getting to climax.
    Second, you don’t have to do anything you don’t want too.. but you have no right to be mad or upset when you ain’t going to do things he wants.. lol he may say he is fine with whatever but his body is telling a hell of a different story.. I’d fix that if you want him to cum for you..


    Solution: be better at the other sexual stuff. Learn from somewhere, ask him what he likes.. suck it up if it hurts.. or learn what’s making you gag and find a way to work through it.

Most Helpful Girls

  • It's hard because you clearly stated you don't like sex/oral sex. On top of that the handjob is something he can do perfectly himself, because he knows his body better than anyone else 🤔 which makes it harder for him to cum from a handjob in general

  • U have to understand his rhythm
    Why do you try to finish with handjb or bj without using vginnna

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Advise at what u admitted u can't give head because u gag and u get tired of giving him a hand job so u already know what the issue is

  • Let him finger you while you jurk him off

  • Sounds like he has death grip syndrome. Look it up online. It’s not you it’s him.

  • You just need more practice. You're already giving him blow jobs, might as well have sex too

  • Stop gagging when you give him head, and ask him how he likes hand jobs. Their is no reason you can't get better at it.

  • Some guys are just like that. Yours is the 2nd I've heard of after myself. Focus more on foreplay. When it comes to intimacy, the appetizer is usually better than the main dish.

  • Kiss and suck on his balls.. he will cum!

  • Do you use lube when you give him a hand job?

  • Does he let you see him cum, or does he do it in private?