Why won’t my boyfriend go down on me?

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little under a year, and he won’t go down on me. We were both eachothers firsts, so we’re both clean, and we both have good hygiene. My boyfriend won’t go down on me, and i’ve given him head multiple times. He went down on me once, but he stopped after literally two seconds, and i don’t know why. He hasn’t said anything about it to me, and he hasn’t mentioned not wanting to do it, and it’s probably been over two months since this happened. I don’t know if it was because i had just got off my period the day before, or because of something else. Please help!
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  • He might be shy if he has never done it before and doesn't want you to know his inexperienced. Try being candid and simply tell him that it is what turns you on the most. If he strays into the wrong ZIP code gently pull his head back to where you want it. I;d asvise being vocal about it and I still think its a good idea but it seems that many guys interpret sounds that you intend to mean, "yeah, right there w/ that much pressure and I'll be doing hip thrusts in a minute" to mean" wow, she likes this, I better do it harder and change it so she really digs it" and he winds up in the wrong neighborhood, Watch some porn about girls responding to getting head or give him a copy of The Hite Report or one of many newer books almsot all of which indicate that girls orgasm to oral sex about 85% of the time, to finger friction about 70% and via intercourse about 12%. Their are many sexy graphic books (She Come First) that describe how almost all girls are only capable of feeling pleasure on the extended clitoris, which pretty much extends around you inner labia. On your clit itself, you have more nerve endings capable of feeling pleasure than he has on his entire cock. That's a hot button that should be taken advantage of. I lost my virginity at 13 and before breaking her cherry had gotten he off by going down on her,

  • Unlikely, but a very small chance because you just finished your period. The human body is very good at keeping itself clean inside.
    I wouldn't place too much thought on that.
    Most likely, since you were are both your first, he has no clue what to do and doesn't want you think he is "orally challenged."
    If you don't know how to bring this up to him, there are two ways I can think of to kind of hint at it. Just know that we guys don't get hints really well.
    If you two are the type of people who watch porn together (hey, some people do) next time there is a scene where the guy is down on the girl, say "oooh, that looks fun." Hopefully he gets the hint.
    Second is pretty much the same. Just with a romance movie. A couple movies have where the two main characters "get busy." Guy disappears under the covers. Same thing, just comment that you like what he about to do on screen.
    Hope that helps.

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  • My current boyfriend doesn't typically like to give me oral unless he is getting something out of it. So he opts to do it via 69 or face sitting. I'm not sure if your boyfriend is being selfish about it in a similar way or if he's nervous or put off by something. The best way to figure it out is to talk to him about it. If the smell is weird to him you could try some feminine body wash. If the taste isn't good you could try flavor stuff similar to how guys can get flavored lube to make giving them oral less gross for the girls who dislike the taste of their penis. If he's just nervous maybe you could try mutually masturbating with him and showing him the way that you like to be touched there. Show him what parts being stimulated makes it feel good. You might stumble upon things to make him feel better too that you weren't aware of.

  • A lot of guys think it's gross which yeah, I guess it is, but I mean it's not like sucking dick is like sucking candy. (Some people like it but hey, do you.)
    Just talk to him about it, and how you feel. Either he'll man up, or he won't and it's your decision where to go from there.

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  • There could be many reasons. He may be insecure of his abilities, may not enjoy oral, may feel put off by something.. only way to truly find out is to have a honest discussion with him xx

  • Have a chat with him about it. If this is something that's important to you, and it sounds like it is, then finding out why he hasn't carried it out will be paramount for you to make a decision on how to proceed with the relationship from here.

  • Maybe you had residual menstrual smell? Are you shaved or natural? And if natural do you keep it trimmed? Some guys have a hard time with hair on a bushy female. It can turn them off.

    • She sounds like someone I'd take advice from 😉

  • Clearly he doesn't like giving oral, and thats ok... some guys just don't like it. I've know some girls that do not suck dick lol... they don't like it. If the guy likes it, its very obvious... he will eat you out like it's the last day on earth...69 all of it lol..

    I guess the question is can you be ok with not having that?

  • Ask him no one can answer that, its his opinion, ask him to try right after a bath maybe

  • You may just need a real man.

  • Could be selfishness. Stop giving him head. Tie him up and ride his face. He's there to please you!

  • Going to have to talk to him find out tell him you liked it you enjoy it

  • Are you hairy?

  • He's a bitch. That's why.

  • first is hygiene second is you could ask cause he doesn't know what you want

  • It's probably not his thing. Some dudes just can't. 🤷‍♂️

  • You should just discuss this with him directly and ask if he wants to do it or if he doesn't. I personally don't like doing it. In return i do not expect my girlfriend to go down on me either.

    If he has something against it i advise you to be very direct and ask him what about is something he does not like. Hearing the response might not be "pleasant" but you should not take it as an insult. Then you would at least know if it is something you can work on and improve in order to get what you want.

    You could also try it in the shower or something to make it feel a little bit easier if the guy is sensitive about hygiene or something.

  • He may not enjoy the taste of your cum or discharge. Depending on your diet it may not be a pleasant taste. My boyfriend also will not go down on me depending on how hairy I am. Even if I'm just a little prickly he doesn't like it.

  • He may be afraid he might disappoint you