One thing you have to realise about frequency of sex: genuine desire can't be negotiated. Re-read that over and over again until it sinks in.
If she doesn't desire to give you a blowjob, she won't give you a blowjob.
Pointing out the things you do for her and complaining that she doesn't give you enough blowjobs will not increase her desire to give you more blowjobs. If giving her a foot rub gave her a stronger desire to give you a blowjob, you'd be getting your dick sucked by now.
This is actually what all of these women saying that you're not entitled to a blowjob mean by the way. In fact to women, trying to guilt-trip them into doing something they don't already genuinely want to do themselves, trying to make them feel like it's an obligation, is repulsive to them.
The best way to get more sex from a woman who isn't giving you enough sex is to focus on increasing her desire in other ways, without talking about it. You have to inspire her want to please you sexually, and have that come from her.
It's simply about becoming more sexually arousing to her. As counter-intuitive as it sounds, the best way to do this is actually to slightly mentally check out of the relationship. Not to try harder to please her by being a good boy and hoping that she'll give you sex if you're extra good. That's just another way of trying to obligate them, and as I said, it repulses them.
When women mentally check out of a relationship or a marriage they usually do so around 6 months before they actually leave if they've been with the guy for a long time. Often, everybody but the guy knows that she's going to leave because she's already made her mind up that she's leaving. When guys say that a woman left out of nowhere this is usually what happened.
And what do these women do? If they've let themselves go, they start going to the gym and dressing up more all of a sudden, making themselves more sexually desirable ready to find a new man. Why didn't they do that for the boyfriend/husband they were with? Lack of genuine desire towards him.
Do the same thing. I don't mean start looking for a new woman, although after you've done all this if your partner is unwilling to meet you halfway and you're sexually frustrated you probably should be prepared to eventually do that. I mean just do what they do. Go to the gym, start looking better, dressing better, doing more stuff money-wise - become more driven - and act as if you're about to go back into the dating market and you want to have the best chance. What you'll find is that she'll start to see the change in you. She'll simultaneously become afraid of losing you to another woman but also become more sexually attracted. And hey presto, now she's initiating sex more with you because she wants to. If she doesn't, you'll likely have more other women noticing you anyway. It's win-win.
Selfish! lol Totally. And I like some of the women that think it's different. I mean, yes a bj is "work", but so is a massage. And both are for the other person's pleasure.
However, to get a bit more serious about it, in one of your responses to someone, you said the answer I believe, "she thinks it's degrading". That's the problem right there. I could also see if she put in a 12 hr day, being tired and just wanting to relax, so I totally get that also. But I'm with ya lol.
I think every day is a stretch, especially after someone has been working 12 hours. Do you give her oral every day to help her unwind after work? I think what is fair for the goose should be fair for the gander. If you expect something than give equally in return. Playing footsie is not the same thing.
I eat her out whenever she wants it. About twice a week. I didn't mention that in the introduction. But even then she doesn't want to do it. She feels it's degrading. I don't know why.
I don't know if it's degrading unless you shoot in her face and hair.
I do every day... I try to 3x a day but I'm not giving a man a bj for him I'm sucking cock for myself I enjoy it and what I like about it it's for my reward and it's not about his pleasure
I enjoyed reading your comment and gave it a "thumbs up." :) You have a fabulous attitude and philosophy!
You can tell the fake pink accounts by their names. *rolls eyes* A bona fide woman on here is not going to have a name like that.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!When you massage feet you are only using your hands. (Good) Blowjobs require a lot of hand movements, face- and tongue muscles and breath regulation. It can be exhausting sometimes if it takes a while for the man to cum. Also, if you don`t go down on her you can`t expect her to go down on you. I would still go down on my man if he wanted me to, so it could be other reasons (bad hygiene etc)
I understand what you are saying. I didn't mention in the post that I do go down on her when she requests it - maybe twice a week. But even so, she won't give a BJ. She believes it demeaning and degrading. She just doesn't enjoy it. I guess I answered my own question.
Oh no... That`s a bummer. And really sad. Maybe talk to her? Tell her that you love her and no matter what you do in the bedroom, you won`t degrade her or change your opinion about her. Blowjobs are super hot for women too, and once she realizes this she will love it. I was super against BJs before I met my boyfriend and now I looooove it.
I can understand where she's coming from on that score, but instead of a blow job, ask for a dick massage with her hands... its kinda what you are doing for her in the place she wants it done...
if she asked you to finger her everyday, we are all sure you would without questions, so why should she deny you that little bit of stress relief?
Some women just dont like oral sex, like some men don't like oral sex, maybe try asking for something else, like a handjob if you want sexual pleasure or ask her she's okay with you getting a fleshlight
Well I have a question, do you want her to swallow everytime also?
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Turns me into never getting. Id deny you too. But if you did give by oral sex or fingering, if be happy.
Dude ease the bj lol
Some of us happily do
Everyday?
Do u go down on her everyday?
Rubbing feet and sticking an sex organ in her mouth is very different.
What's the difference? They're both types of massages. Maybe females think they're entitled to a million dollars everytime they touch a penis. I guess that's why Harvey Weinstein went to prison.
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No no no. @randomloser women actually like to touch their man's penis. And if you think they are both just massages, you get the foot massage every night.
1. Comparing a foot rub YOU volunteer to a sex act you ask of her, is literally comparing apples to oranges.
2. You’re not entitled to a blowjob.
> 1. Comparing a foot rub YOU volunteer to a sex act you ask of her, is literally comparing apples to oranges. Would you mind repeating this in English?
That is English.
Do YOU want a penis in your mouth every day?
i doubt Id be opposed to sucking dick everyday especially if id be getting a foot massage
I enjoyed reading your comment and gave it a "thumbs up."
Because giving a BJ requires her to put in effort, and foot rubs obviously don't require any effort from you
That’s on her. I pretty much give my husband a BJ every morning or close to it. Some days I don’t cause of the kids I am pretty sure I do 3 or 4 nights a weeks
@meangurl I enjoyed reading your comment and gave it a "thumbs up." You're the first woman I've read saying you giving husband a BJ almost every morning.
Thank you I just enjoy one giving oral sex to my husband I also enjoy pleasing him I will also say he loves to perform oral sex on me
Women are entitled cunts who want to have their cake and eat it too.
A BJ takes less effort than a foot massage.
I liked your comment and gave it a "thumbs up." :)
So what is it that you think entitles you to a BJ every day?
Why not? Does he have to earn it? Id eat a girl out everyday if she wanted
@CreamySeed Why do you feel the need to answer for the question asker?
Huh?
She’s right
Give her oral if you want it back
I'm more than happy to give her oral. But she still won't do it.
She is a selfish bitch, time for a new g/f. Or, maybe you smell, no fun sucking on a stinky dick. Maybe your cum tastes like shit, who knows.
Then stop massaging her every day, or start going down on her more often. You sound very selfish.
I massage her feet every day because I care about her and she appreciates it. And you call me selfish.
I do, because you feel entitled.
I'm not demanding anything from her. I'm asking why women, generally speaking, won't give their man a bj every day. So from your reasoning, if she wants her feet massaged, then she feels entitled.
I was almost gonna pity her for being with you, but since she chose to be with you she must be as much of a douchebag as you.
It's not an unreasonable request so long as you are willing to reciprocate in kind.
Massages and blowjobs are not the same thing.
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