Why would a girl stop me from reaching down her shorts to touch her pussy? Am I bad?

Just curious, why when hooking up, why would a girl grab my hand and say not yet, or it's too fast, or something of that nature, (usually surprises me) (I don't take offense, and I respect her and stop) but it makes me think that I am being bad. Am I bad? I understand if I'm just too fast, but when doing the hooking up, is there a point that is acceptable to do that kind of thing? Will she let me know? I just want to do it right for future reference.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I suggest you start w your hand on her thighs and you can usually tell if they getting wet and then you do what you want but yes no matter what happens if they say to stop you gotta stop I mean I’ve not stopped but the only reason my girlfriend told me to stop was because I was ab to make her cum and she didn’t want to cum because we were at her friends house and she was wearing clothes I eventually stopped tho because she took my hand out of her pants but if there serious ab it you gotta stop but I could tell she didn’t want me to stop but at the same time she didn’t... girls are pretty complicated but if you can read body language you’ll be okay

  • She probably wants to build up to that. In other words she wants to be pretty aroused before you start touching her there.

    • Oooooohhhhh okay that makes sense.

    • I don't know, I just guess that because my girlfriend wants to make out a, lot before letting me touch her down there, unless I am cupping her ass.

    • Yess!! This is so true man you gotta make her more aroused before going for that... not all the time but a lot of the times

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  • I say that when the mood isn't there yet. There are some guys that get horny really quick and try to go straight for fingering you. It takes a lot more time for me and I need more kissing, rubbing, dry humping, to get me wet before he reaches down my pants. Gotta build up to it.

    • Ahh cool! That helps a bunch. Thank you!

    • No problem

  • Maybe it's too soon for her? Everyone's comfort level is different

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  • Every woman is different and none of them come with a users manual.

  • Playing games with you. Girls will have you feeling wrong because they think they are god's gift. Ditch that bitch.

  • These days you might use you voice and ask instead of just invading. Maybe a long kiss and slide hand slowly toward the pants, if she doesn't stop you, start on outside then work toward the waistband, slowly, ... . If she touched you hand... stop... Balls in her court then... she'll let u know when to continue.

    You are not bad if u respect her decision.

  • No you just got to move slower. Besides its better to take your time going to her breasts or pussy. It makes girls frustrated because they think guys want nothing else and when you keep avoiding it the get pissed and try to get you to go there. Lol

  • You are not bad. You tried your luck she said no and that's it. Give it awhile and try again but stroke her back belly and bum and work your way there slowly

    • Oh I still completed the mission lol just went slower

    • Also what is a back belly?

    • Oh back, belly and bum

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