Why would a guy cum in you when he knows you don’t have birth control and he promised he would pull out before we started?

I already know pulling out is a risk but what the actual fuck? I was doing him a favor cuz he bitched about a condom. I was nice and told him I was cool without it but I made it clear to him that meant pulling out and he agreed. Then he spills everything inside like we didn’t even talk. When I ask why, he just says he was too into it. I was his first white girl and he got carried away, which is probably bullshit. Why do guys clown us like that? What are they thinking when they do that to someone?

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  • 1. Because when they get so excited, their brain kind of shuts off, and they can cum in the girl by mistake.

    2. In the above scenario, the guy could suddenly WANT TO HAVE A BABY, and his feelings/emotions take over, and he cums inside the girl on purpose. That happened to me one time, with my wife. This has also happened to the girls sometimes... they suddenly feel like the want the guy to cum inside them, so they hold the guy tight, and make him cum inside.

    In the above described scenarios, it is sort of like going temporarily insane. Before having sex, you may think you would never do the above. And, after you have done it, you could feel bad, because NOW that it's over you can think, and realize that you did something you didn't mean to.

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  • He did that because he was just using you for his own pleasure. He wanted to finish inside. He liked the feeling of power and the fact that it was a violation probably made it better for him. He is absolutely bragging to his guy friends that he talk to you into it, banged you raw, and shot his load inside. I’d be willing to bet he’s saying things like “ You should’ve seen her face!”

    I’m really sorry. Some guys are just total jerks and give in to their baser instincts.

    • You’re probably right. He did apologize and offer to pay me back for the plan B but he’s not the friend I thought he was. I saw him this morning and we talked about it. He basically admitted he changed his mind during the sex. I was his first sex with a white girl and he was super turned on and wanted to cum inside and thought I’d be cooler about it. So yeah, I got used😔

    • Did he say he “thought you’d be cooler about it?” That comment deserved a kick to the nuts.

    • Lol He absolutely did say that.

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  • It’s very hard to do the pull out for a guy. But also most guys just don’t care. Especially when you’re a teen it’s like gratifications now and to fuck with the consequences.

  • Even when a guy does pull-out it still isn't a very reliable method of birth control, so I would be using sometype of birth control either way.

    • I know that’s the conventional wisdom. It fails 22% of the time when using it over the course of an entire year. Just using it every once in a while, the statistical odds would be pretty low. I get what you’re saying though and this experience has me reconsidering birth control, even though I’m not crazy about the weight gain.

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  • Perhaps next time you'll be less trusting while intimate with a man, and I hope you don't end up pregnant. He doesn't sound like a responsible individual.

  • He doesn’t care. Which shows he’s very irresponsible and immature. He’s not good boyfriend material. I would dump him. If the sex is good I would insist on a condom next time but he sounds like the type that could do stealthing.

    • This was just a one time hook up. It wasn’t going to happen again anyway.

  • Goes to show you, some guys just have no control after it gets to a fail-safe time.

  • No idea but make him buy plan B lol

    • He actually said he’d pay for half before he left. I’m having my sister get it from the pharmacy.

    • I don't get why you aren't wearing condoms with a guy you aren't dating tho... he could of got you pregnant and gave you a STI or STD...

    • I guess I just trusted him because I know him and am comfortable with him. It was supposed to be a one time thing. I just didn’t think he’d do me like that.

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  • i just always assume they're going to

  • Why would you let him in you? Like, he was a jerk, but that's some crazy roulette you're playing.

    • Yeah I know there’s some risk but you figure that someone you know and like would do a simple thing to help minimize that risk. I just didn’t understand his mindset. I’m sure everything will be fine. It just pissed me off.

    • It should have pissed you off. What a shitty thing for him to do. Sorry...

  • You both consented to sex and the risks. Now why you didn't vent him more throughly is the real mystery?

    Red flags everywhere!

  • Because he lied

  • Sometimes we guys do get carried away and are "too into it". That' why the pull-out method (coitus interruptus) isn't a reliable method of birth control.

    My SO likes me to slide in her cleavage and cum on her tits. One time, I was really excited, didn't pull back soon enough, and shot on her face. She wasn't very pleased.

  • Pussy too good

  • You should have made him anyway. Now its both of y'alls fault if you end up pregnant.

  • Why are you having sex without birth control

    • Long story. I was on it but it made me gain weight, which I struggle to maintain anyway. So I quit. My ex and I just used condoms most of the time but we had the occasional night here or there when we didn’t have one handy and he would just pull out and everything was fine. It’s fairly effective in a pinch. That’s why I wasn’t too concerned about this one time using it with this guy today. Might have to rethink that strategy.

  • Because we know when to walk away and when to fold em…. and hide from child support.

  • He doesn't care about you. Dump his ass

  • It is your fault, you had unprotected sex, second, you would have refused to have sex with out condom, it happened in one night stand or in casual sex with not committed partners, some guys cannot control and cums in pussy

    • Humans are not animals and have conscious control over their actions. What he did was deliberate.

    • It’s not her fault. …but hopefully she learns a lesson from this incident and does not willingly expose herself to that risk in the future. The guy is responsible for his actions. -but a wise woman will protect herself.

    • You are right, but you should also blame to girl, she agreed to have unprotected sex

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  • Girls who are not in birth control deserve their baby

  • This is what happens when you fucks boys you don't know to be trustworthy.