Why would a guy do this to me after we had a?

[Anonymous]

I'm using Tinder for the first time. Conversations have gone to a dead end but one guy in particular, his name is Alex. Caught my eye. We were messaging since Wednesday. Then we met on Saturday. At times it was a little awkward but after a while we started talking about our families, childhood and other personal things. He kept looking into my eyes, calling me cute and giving me compliments. We drove to another place to get drinks. We ended up making out. Then he kept saying their was something about me that drove him crazy (in a good way). Well two consenting adults ended up having sex. It was great and I never do that on a first date but the Chemistry was so strong. I actually regretted it after. He said he wants something serious but wants to slowly build up to it. He said he wouldn't ghost me or anything like that. I went on Tinder and he's no longer listed on my matches (in the conversation section). Luckily he gave me his number and he text me yesterday and the days before. Today he hasn't... did he block me on Tinder? Why would he do that? Did I make a mistake?

[lightbulb27]

There is often a "what did I just do, what am I doing, etc" after this.. regret, post thought. This is the problem and thus yes, you made a mistake.

Let me ask this... when you start your car, do you floor the pedal to the floor and run it full blast? Nope... you let it warm up.
When you cook something... do you put it at high heat and instantly burn it to a crisp? No... ok good.
How about when you workout. Do you just get up and run full speed as hard as you can? no... ok good... then you are a normal human...

So you must go slow with dating and that is the problem. These are mating hormones kicking off inside of you both, they feel so true and so amazing, but they dissipate after the release, and they change. You need to let build up and develop. Stop being stupid... it's hard.. because it's sad how we are made, but it's just a bunch of drugs that go off in our bodies and brains. You must have values and awareness to control it or else will happen over and over.

Is he gone for good, not sure.. it's just a day, depends on the texts. Texting is also dumb... only way forward is to communicate, step back to go forward. The problem you have of course is... he knows you... and he has how many other girls hitting on him, chatting him up, etc.. ? exactly... there is no commitment and why would he if he can have all those girls. He'd have to really feel it and right now, he gave his testosterone to you and he's a bit confused as to what he wants, so likely chooses nothing (not thinking) and makes no decisions. Males think diff than females, we often don't feel as much... although we can bond, it happens.

You said it yourself... you regretted it after. that's how it works. LEARN before it turns into a long term and permananet mistake... like a disease, assault trauma, offspring with someone you don't know or want to be around, show up on a viral video, etc.. Have you seen the divorce rate. wisen up... fast... Maybe find a good diety to worship.

Tinder is a great name... I'm thinking "Tinder" as in the type used to start a blazing fire...

Don't feel bad, the % of people on earth who have no training anymore is high... we know nothing. So learn from others, and put some rules in place for yourself.

[Praec]

Why would a guy ghost you after getting what he wanted? Oh, I don't know; probably because he already had what he wanted - and it wasn't good enough for seconds?

You should have seen it coming. Who says they won't ghost someone? That suggests that ghosting was on their mind to begin with lol

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t worry about it too much... my man and I had sex the first night we met and were still together 5 years later. Still hasn’t proposed and not sure if he ever will..

[Asker]

Thank you for your opinion!!

[Pamina]

I don't understand the problem. Just because he didn't text you today? That's your onky reason?

[Pamina]

Oh, and why did you regret it? Was the sex not good?

[Asker]

Yeah that's the only reason. Which he actually text me that he had a lot going on (he's in the air force). The sex was AMAZING! I just regret not waiting.

[Pamina]

But why is that a reason to be worried? Don't be so impatient. Why do you regret not waiting? Kinda sad that you feel bad about a beautiful experience, don't you think?

[Asker]

Because so many people (especially guys) say sex too soon like that is bad.

[Pamina]

And why do you care what these people say? Why do you let that ruin your beautiful experience?

[ImagineSketchy]

Sounds like you got played. That's pretty shitty...

[Hamsty]

You made the huge mistake of giving a thirsty guy what he wanted which was free sex!!!

You make them wait for it and the worthy ones will