Why would a guy I dated say “it’s a good memory” about a sexual experience we had?

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I wasn’t initiating this conversation, he was... so my question is focused on guessing WHY he felt the need to say it when he could have just left it unsaid...

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kkirk4442 Yoda
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Not knowing the guy, or his body language when he said it, the general feelings is that he liked the sex, but it wasn't anything special, and that you probably aren't particularly special to him either. That's a lot of guessing for what little information you gave.
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- Asker
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  Can you provide a reason for your thought... for example if you thought it were better what would’ve been the outcome instead?
- kkirk4442
  +1 y
  Saying it's a good memory, is already putting the sex in the past, not cherishing it in the present. And saying it's a good memory, doesn't give much feeling of intensity or wanting to continue. Of course, however he feels, if you keep offering him sex, he will keep accepting, as long as no other girl gets in the way.
- Asker
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  I see. I’m not offering sex, he’s trying to flirt. It is in the past, he’s got back in touch and initiates often.
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- kkirk4442
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  He just doesn't sound all that enthusiastic, but he may be a low key person. If he keeps initiating contact with you, then he must have liked whatever sexual experience you had with him.
- Asker
  +1 y
  Yeah I’d have to agree with low key too, this is where we struggled sometimes.

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Arivor Guru
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I think he became lost in thought while reminiscing about all the fun both of you had together. He probably even said it without really thinking about what he was saying, since he was so caught up in the memory. What I can say? Damn Girl! You must be unforgettably good! Like what did you do to him to cast that kind of spell on him? Please, spare no details!
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sbnalenon Xper 7
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He was just being expressive maybe.
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bowenw Guru
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My guess is that he enjoyed it at the time, but he's moved on to someone else.
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- Asker
  +1 y
  If that’s true why even mention it?
- bowenw
  +1 y
  If he initiated it, he may want to do it again.
- Asker
  +1 y
  Yeah that’s kinda the impression I questioned too
winterfox10 Master
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Because he enjoyed the experience but doesn't want to have sex again.
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- Asker
  +1 y
  He does
- winterfox10
  +1 y
  Oh... so why are you asking this question? It seems like the answer is pretty straight forward
- Asker
  +1 y
  Ohh so you’re saying the only answer is sex. Right okay. That wasn’t obvious to me as that wouldn’t have been my first reason. Mine would have included more feelings.
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- winterfox10
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  Well that’s what the conversation was about; a sexual experience. So he’s either saying it as a way to hint that he wants to have sex again or that he doesn’t. I thought he was saying that he didn’t want to have sex. But you are saying that he does want to have sex.
- Asker
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  Yeah he does, but he knows I won’t go for anything casual too if that’s what he’s hoping 🤷🏼‍♀️
- winterfox10
  +1 y
  His last experience with you was clearly a good one. I wouldn’t write anything off too quickly until you have had the chance to talk with him more
genericname85 Master
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Why not? Just like you broke up with someone, doesn't mean everything about the time with them was shit.
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- Asker
  +1 y
  I know that. I felt that but I didn’t feel the need to say anything personally.
- genericname85
  +1 y
  who broke up you or him?
- Asker
  +1 y
  I think we both did as far as I’m aware, it was circumstantial, not so much chosen.
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- genericname85
  +1 y
  guess he's just reminiscing then. i mean you don't seem to hate each other, so why not have a little smalltalk?
- Asker
  +1 y
  We do. It’s just that comment struck me as a tiny bit odd. Like if I said that I’d probably be trying to remind someone of the good times because on some level I’d like to revisit it again, you know? Otherwise I’m just going to make new jokes and memories with them on a friendship basis. I don’t know, maybe it’s just me then.
- genericname85
  +1 y
  no, you're right. it does seem like he's somehow testing to see if this iron is still hot xD
- genericname85
  +1 y
  but i've been fooled before by people who just do that as "smalltalk" with no intentions xD
- Asker
  +1 y
  Maybe, but I’m not convinced it’s just small talk. I think there’s alway a reason, whether good or bad.
Hmmmbetternothere Xper 4
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Sounds like a dumbass move.
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- Asker
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  Why?
Whtevernever Xper 6
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Because presumably it's in the highlight reel of his spank bank.
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Valnac Guru
+1 y
Something about it was special for him.
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beatcoock Yoda
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Cause, Sex with you might be felt good
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- Asker
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  I mean I presume he enjoyed it if saying so, but the point is why the need to say it?