Why would a guy jerk off to my nudes but not care to hook up with me in person?

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Why would a guy jerk off to my nudes but not care to hook up with me in person?

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

It's probably because he knows you won't like something about him physically. He may be short in person, or he has a small penis and figures you won't want to sleep with him once you see it. Or it could even be something much worse: maybe he has an STD or something that he can't cure, and doesn't want you to know it or spread it to you.

There could be all kinds of physical reasons for why he won't, and I do believe they are probably physical. He could be one of those guys who's satisfied with just getting nudes and beating off to them, with no real interest in having sex with you, but that's very rare. Most men who have the opportunity to actually sleep with a woman they've met on the Internet usually take it. So I'm willing to bet he has a personal insecurity or body thing holding him back.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

So maybe he thinks your sexy AF but does want to deal with the drama. I mean with my ex-wife sometimes it was just easier to jerk off, then actually dealing with her. But I was married for 22 years... so there was all types of bull shit going on.

Honestly, I would not say it's healthy behavior. I man if he is passing on real sex to masturbate then it's not a good sign. But if you are having sex harder than it needs to be, then maybe he just doesn't want to deal with it.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Maybe he is intimidated by you, feels inadequate, has insecurities about his sexual performance, or something else.

spartan55 · Answer

How do you know he jerks off to your nudes?

summiter · Answer

I guess some guys just prefer jerking off to IRL sex. Kinda weird though

inhua · Answer

do you know the guy personally?

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

It’s Cheaper & He Doesn’t Have To Leave The House!

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

If he thinks you're going to be high drama then it may be easier to just rub one out. He DOES think you've got a nice body though, most likely.

AviatorTom · Answer

Jerking off is easier, totally self-centered, and no risk of rejection.

RealMarek · Answer

Maybe he doesn’t believe in sex before marriage. Maybe he is worried about pregnancy risk. It could be anything. Why not ask him?

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Laziness. Jerking off to your nudes is sooooo much easier and more convenient than trying to actually hook up with you.

ashish804 · Answer

may be embarrassed of his performance

DerekC321 · Answer

He probably has very naughty fantasies that he's afraid to ask you to do.

Throwawaynowknow · Answer

He can control the fantasy in his head

ThatRandomOne · Answer

If I had all the answers I would be a God and grant you miracles. But I'm not. So no clue.

Alex-Snow · Answer

That is kinda weird. But as you know all guys jerk off a lot. But to not want sex... yikes! How old is he? How do u know he is jerking off to ur nudes?