Why would a ‘strong and independant women’ like being submissive in sex?

[WilliamPamer446]

[Anonymous]

I saw a really good amateur video about this. A high-powered lawyer and her husband go to Vegas. Hubby calls a service, and asks them to send over a very dominant escort for his wife.

At her law firm, she has to be dominant in order to survive. But she wanted to take a break from always having to be in control, so her husband took her to Vegas. He helped her with her fantasy, and she loved being in the submissive role.

So you're probably wondering why her husband couldn't just do it himself. Not all guys have that within them. They just can't do it.

[Anonymous]

Because its sexually attractive to be with a strong masculine testosterone filled dominant alpha male rather than a submissive beta bitch.

Even the most radical feminists want a real man and if they don't its because they want to be a man.

[WilliamPamer446]

So why do they seem to get frustrated with me, either bluntly or subtly, when I ask them articulate well thought out questions that try to get to the bottom of it

[Opinion Owner]

Because beta bitches are frustrating

[WilliamPamer446]

This means, act like im tripping when I bring up the why, possble theories, if its relationship dynamic related or just sex, tradition, or what guys might be thinking of it in there heads and since it seems to mainly be about sex, but I do hear "I get exhausted all day and want someone else to take charge in the bedroom " and try to make it not related to gender but like it correlates with people saying women are tired of having to "juggle it all"

[WilliamPamer446]

for a lot of people submission and dominance are bdsm related only and some unique thing and when I bring up traditoin at all its like thats the only term theyve heard of submission

[WilliamPamer446]

I understand wheresome of them are coming from, an d I know everyone has different reasons for waht they like,

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah all I'm hearing us how you like the girl to f you in the butt with a 12 inch strap on.

[WilliamPamer446]

excuse me what the fuck? i just try to be fair and balanced. and no i dont like that. my kink is sticking my dick between a girls butt cheeks.

[WilliamPamer446]

im trying to have a intellectual convdersation and get to the bottom of something. i like to get to the bottom during sex if you know what I mean

[Opinion Owner]

So beta

[WilliamPamer446]

that does not make me a beta, I know how the world works and im trying to not get cancelled and im trying to be respectful. What do you want me to do? And what does how I talk to people equate with my fetishes or my masculine status. If you think I wouldn't assert myself or be aggressive to a female when need be, you're wrong. I'm just smart about it.

[Opinion Owner]

A masculine worries not. A beta does.

[WilliamPamer446]

Hey are you trying to insult me? Dont start with me bitch I have autism and adhd and mental struggles I won't disclose but im not coming on here from an anxiety perspective but from a practical perspective. I cope with my anxieties and apporach situatoins with women with confidence.

[Opinion Owner]

OK Sheldon be less beta

[Subglacial]

B is the most common reason I hear, but I wouldn't say it isn't gender related. It seems like there are way more men who want to be in charge of everything everywhere than women. How much of that is nature or nurture is debatable.

Source: anecdote.

[Berethor]

Feminine energy, all Amazons want Hercules, but how much Submissive she want to be?

[WilliamPamer446]

you mean in a sexual way or in a relatoinship sense? they seem to only be submissive sexually, and be independant in most or all circles of life. there's varylng levels and extremities but some girls say "I dont need no man period ever" and go on and get mad when tehre man wnat to protect them even a little or who want to give them even a little of osmething or take care of something

[Berethor]

In sexual sense, what shit she like? and it's odd if she act tough after being so weak.

[Subglacial]

Source for the chart? It seems generally true to my experience, but I think it misses out on a not-insignificant chunk of data by not including switches.

[Berethor]

It's from here, most switches have a preference, and women prefer submissiveness.

www.psychologytoday.com/.../personality-traits-bdsm-practitioners-another-look

[Subglacial]

Ehh, I guess, but if all women were switches with a 60/40 preference for submission, they'd be counted as 100% submissive even though they spend 40% of the time being dominant. That's an exaggerated example, obviously, but in my experience, switch women are more common than dominant ones, and women are more likely to switch than men, so a fair number of those 96% subs are dominant some of the time. That said, I've also noticed that a lot of switch women exclusively domme other women and are always submissive to men, so that further complicates things. Whatever the case, I think some sort of ranked choice would have provided more accurate results. ... I'll let you know when I earn enough money to fund my own study.

[NotTacocaT6969]

For the same reason a 6ft tall jacked up man monster would ask his tiny girlfriend to peg him.


Personal preference.

[OlderAndWiser]

"Strong and independent" can be a facade that hides the inner being.

[Anemone978]

I like to be dominated because I get sick of always having to be tough to the world. I like to be able to feel like a woman too and to have the guy take charge and care of me like a man should.

[LadyKitty]

Sometimes people like to have escapism from their everyday lives.

[ManOnFire]

Years ago there was an article in a magazine (I don't remember which one) about why these kinds of "strong, independent" career women - and who often have feminist views - still want to be submissive in bed. The article profiled women like this who not only went to male escorts but who also wanted to be dominated in bed by guys they hooked up with, being slapped around, hair pulled, all that good, gritty stuff.

The researchers explained that it had to do with these women feeling exhausted with their own machisma and needing to keep up a strong woman image, but still needed a man to be dominant with them sexually, and they needed to enjoy the sexual release of being submissive and not having to be in charge all the time. Which is similar to wives who have weak husbands who aren't very assertive in bed, and these women will cheat on them with men who are more sexually dominant - which is far from okay, but I'm just noting the similarity.

So regardless of what a woman tries to be with the whole strong, machisma thing, they still have feminine needs that they want met too.

[boggboss]

Happens all the time with both genders where sexual personality is different from the every day

[AngryCarl]

Sexual behaviour still happens on a very primitive level. Feminism hasn't caught up with it yet.

[WilliamPamer446]

But these strong and independant women act like your tripping when your reasoning is different than theirs. Feminist theory went from being concerned about this to celebrating it. Psychology went from claiming daddy issues or trauma or some other type of mental trouble to proclaiming "everybody has there fetish"

[WilliamPamer446]

ok not all strong and independant women, they have there opinion I dont mean to come off like that. im just saying its common for them to act like im tripping when your theories and opinions on why are different than theirs

[WilliamPamer446]

everybody has there own opinion and im not tryna say that any girl who is independant making her own money

[WilliamPamer446]

acts in a negative way

[AngryCarl]

Well fetishes are more individual. The dominant male paradigm is almost universal.

[Anonymous]

I think most women are truly submissive and could be outside of the bedroom as well but that is usually frown upon by other women. When you want a traditional life, many other women will scorn and tell you to go get a career before a family.

I'm a switch when it comes to the bedroom, with a preference for dominance (not a preference i think I'll be able to exercise any time soon since nearly every men i meet is dominant too). I doubt any of my friends are dommes, they're feminists but they let the men work and provide financially most of the time.

[Anonymous]

Because they know theyre bitches. They aren't strong nor independent and they sure as hell aren't masculine. Theyre weak, pathetic, feminine, LOSERS.