Why would anyone think spanking a child to the point of leaving bruises was discipline?

I've read a couple stories of how some spankings was done on kids back in the 60's or 70's. It was generally hard to the point of leaving some bruises and welts on the bottom. That's what they would call a ''sore bottom''. Apparently the stupid so called parents of that time thought that was discipline.

To me that was straight forward child abuse and it's good more people turned against that upbringing. A couple swapping with the hands is different from several blows with a belt or paddle to the point of bruises.

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in my opinion, regardless of what the child did (even if it was a serious offense), spanking to the point of leaving bruises is ABUSE to me.
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**A couple swatting with the hands is different from several blows with a belt or paddle to the point of bruises.
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  • While genuine abuse did occur, it was the exception rather than the rule. Most spankings were enough to get the kid's attention but not enough to injure in any way, and most kids got the message quickly and didn't need repeated reminders.

    There were (and still are) a few kids who ONLY respond to some violence, and even then, spankings rarely escalated to injuries beyond some red skin.

    Genuine abuse was most often associated with drunks (often men suffering from undiagnosed PTSD, either from war or a dangerous job such as mining or industrial construction) and with religious schools, who often enforced discipline with severe corporal punishment. It was the exception, not the rule.

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  • You're not the brightest then, kiddo!

    Firstly it was not a "done thing" back then, few kids were actually beaten to such an extent. You're also forgetting that kids, women and Blacks had little to no rights under the system back then anyway.

    Secondly what you think of the matter is irrelevant. You're not even aware that the LAW allowed such things, and it was not "abuse" back then. But letting little mouthy girls like you talk on without a smack across the mouth was "abuse".

    • Does it make you feel superior to insult someone whose asking a question? You just look like a jackass. .

    • I'm actually disagreeing on what is clearly abuse. Hitting kids to the point of leaving bruises and welts isn't loving nor normal. Slapping someone every single time they disagree with you isn't normal. Wanting someone submissive or else you beat them isn't normal.

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  • The marks were intended to extend the memory of the punishment with the goal of deterring future misbehavior.

    • It was overdone thought.

    • Yes.

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  • Leaving bruises is way overboard

  • Pain is a universal teaching tool. You want to softly pat your kid’s bottom and expect their behavior to change? You’ll wish you left a mark on their butt when you find them dead in the street because you didn’t properly teach the dangers of moving vehicles, or come home to find your kids burned to death in your home because you failed to teach them the dangers of playing with fire. I encourage parents to not discipline their kids. If i can’t stop morons from breeding, i don’t have to protect their progeny from destroying themselves! Ell oh ell!

    • It doesn't remove the fact that overdoing it to the point you don't stop until leaving bruises and welts on a child's bottom is abuse. That gave spanking a bad repuation. It's not suppose to be to the point you can barely sit down.

    • Pain is a universal teaching tool. Then why are more people against it over the years? Why has some states banned that? Several of those people that turned against it are from the very same former kids that were abused like that.

    • “Why?” doesn’t really matter. The fact is that sparing the rod and spoiling the child has proven detrimental to society. You can’t change the world to protect your unprepared children. You CAN prepare your children for a tough world. Ours is a society full of people who file lawsuits over WORDS. There are abusive parents, but mildly hurting a child to teach them that something is dangerous or deadly isn’t abuse. The rules you’re referring to are completely arbitrary because nobody defined the lines. Now, everyone is an overly sensitive, whiny, entitled asshole who thinks they can walk in front of moving trains. Let ‘em! Let them breed and train themselves right into extinction as far as i’m concerned. They are of no use to society on the whole.

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  • It works or you can watch the kids die because of stupid shit. Fun actually. 8 girls stabbed a guy. Now those girls are done.

  • It is child abuse, and the only thing it teaches them, is to be violent when you don't get your way (Which long term, is much worse than the bruises.)

  • Yes. There is a difference between spanking with hand or belt and abuse. I was spanked at very young age. I turned out fine. Did my parents leave cuts or bruses? Probably. I didn't look at my but after. I was to busy crying. If they put me in time out to think, all i thought about was getting out to play or figure out how not to get caught. Not about what i just did. I deserved most of mine... lol

    • No one deserves bruises and cuts. The stories I've read are those parents that overdo to the point of leaving bruises. That's overdone and straight forward abuse.

    • I agree. To a point. I don't believe my parents over did the discipline. Some parents don't do enough. Sitting in corner and just wagging a finger doesn't do anything.

  • Because it is part of their belief system. They are called fundamentalists. They think they're doing the right thing, as twisted as it is. They have been brainwashed into believing that that is the appropriate way to raise a child.

  • Nothing good comes from hitting children.

    • I can understand 2 light swats with the hands to avoid a small child touching someone hot but can't understand the point of hitting a child's bottom with object that's hard enough to leave bruises. H

    • It puzzles me to know many parents so abusive but what they were doing was disguised as ''discipline''. It was a disgusting generation.

  • I don't know. I don't think anyone should hit anyone

  • is it sexual question?

    • No, the dumb system automatically places it under sexuality and won't let me post it under family and friends.

    • @celinebv sorry to know!

  • Spanking is fine with some children under certain circumstances, IF done appropriately. But what you described is definitely child abuse.