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Why would he get upset?

Me and this guy dated before took a break but decided to try it again. So we have been talking and getting reacquainted and the topic of sex came up. So I don’t like having sex with condoms. is it wrong for me to want me and my partner to both get tested before intimacy. I thought he would be happy but instead he got upset insisting that he was clean and he thought I was just playing games with him. Why would he get so upset? I thought he would be happy I wanted to do things in a safe way.

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  • It's difficult to say exactly why he got upset without more information about your situation and his perspective. However, it's possible that he felt hurt or offended by your request for both of you to get tested before intimacy, or that he felt like you didn't trust him or thought he was dishonest.

    It's important to remember that communication is key in any relationship, and that it's important to be open and honest with your partner about your needs and expectations. If you're feeling uncertain or uncomfortable about a particular aspect of your relationship, it's important to express your concerns in a respectful and non-judgmental way.

    It's also important to prioritize your own safety and well-being in any sexual situation, and to make sure that both you and your partner are comfortable with the choices you're making. If your partner is not willing to respect your desire for testing or safe sex practices, it may be important to re-evaluate the relationship and whether it's a healthy and fulfilling one for you.

  • Congrats you dodged a bullet

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  • You got me there, I always enjoyed raw dogging the most myself, and there's no lingering fear or anxiety if you have a partner that you got tested with rather than keeping to a routine of getting tested after x weeks or y partners if it's casual.

    Like in a monogamous situation where you're both tested, clean, and not cheating that's pretty ideal as far as the D&D free deal goes.

    Only two things that come to my mind would be that he has something like herpes, something more serious, or he's not as monogamous as you are. Like if you're both clean now, but he's raw dogging other women too, and you get chlamydia later, there's only one possible source for that.

  • Some people might take offense to it I guess cause in a way you suspect they can be dirty and I guess if they aren't, it wouldn't make sense if some might take offense to it, but I don't know tbh

  • It's a fair ask, especially since it's possible they were unprotected with others during the break and you are protecting yourself.

    I'm normally on a 3 or 6 month test schedule depending on partners so the window works out usually if a new partner, or can use condom until the next test kind of thing.

    • Condoms make you smell like a prostitute lol just my opinion

    • haha, I don't disagree! especially smell of lambskin condoms, even though they feel pretty good but not as good as unprotected.

    • Right.

  • No idea, but if he is refusing to get tested then that's a red flag and I wouldn't have sex at all with him

  • Who knows? To me testing can give a false sense of security because the other person can be infected and not yet know. For example, current Herpes tests do not show positive till several weeks after infection, and the infected are most contagious three days before an outbreak. And of course testing does not preclude the other from cheating afterwards and getting infected.

  • Why do you want to rail him if you don't trust him?

    • It’s not that I don’t trust him but just to be safe

    • But if he tells you it's safe...

    • Fuck that

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  • I don’t blame you one bit. I am STD tested monthly and is stamped on a card I carry. He should not object. Too much STDs being transmitted.

    • Thank you for the Like

  • That is a. Very wise choice chrystalynw1. If I cannot understand that then is not the one for you.

  • It's possible that he may have felt insulted or offended by your request to both get tested, especially if he has already assured you that he is clean. Some people may interpret it as you not trusting them or not taking their word for it. However, it's important to prioritize your own sexual health and safety. It's perfectly reasonable to want to make sure both partners are tested before engaging in sexual activity without condoms. You can try to explain this to him calmly and respectfully, and assure him that it's not about not trusting him, but rather making sure that you are both being responsible and taking care of yourselves. Communication is key in any relationship, and it's important to have open and honest conversations about sexual health and safety.

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