Why would he still sext me?

[Anonymous]

so there is this guy I sext a lot and when we do he says sexting doesn't get him to cum. So I asked him why he still does it with me? first, he says it's about my pleasure but I keep saying I want you to have fun too you know. Last night he finally tells me the truth and all I got was that he does it as a distraction. I asked from what? all he said "from a lot of things" and will never give me a full answer. can someone tell me why a guy would sext as a distraction even though it doesn't get him off?

[DannyUk2017]

I think he is playing you, or doesn't know how to do it!
I use text, voice messages, pictures, memes, gifs, even clips!
And he can't get off from you?
I guess his sexdrive got no "fuel" anymore, or his "libido" is crushed! For me, if u can't get to a person but she likes to sext, My God! I'm getting horny no matter where i am...😁

[Asker]

is it cringy and how?

[DannyUk2017]

I might be cringy for you couse you can't get him off? Or he feels cringy?

[Asker]

I can get him hard but just can't get him to cum.

[DannyUk2017]

Well then i guess either his imagination is not working properly or something you two not doing properly.

[Anonymous]

Omg i wish a guy could pleasure me via sexts, they usually cum within like 3mins of starting and then completly forget that I was horny aswell.. He maybe doesn't really know exactly what he wants yet and just trying things out. If u want him to cum tho I'd meet up with him and really show him how to wank so he has something to think about next time he doe sit to himself

[Opinion Owner]

Obviously as long as its safe to meet him and u want get groomed or whatever

[hellknight666]

Obviously you haven't had a good chance to enjoy yourself if he comes that fast

[Opinion Owner]

I haven't tbf uggh

[hellknight666]

Feel free to follow can give you some tips

[Anonymous]

For him, it might just be something he does as an escape from his normal life. You don’t have to overthink it. If you’re having fun doing it and he’s content with whatever his motivations are, then why does it matter? It doesn’t need to be defined... carry on and enjoy it for what it is.

[knottywriter]

I don't understand what the purpose of it being a distraction would be. I mean the point of sexting is to help your partner get off and im not sure why he wouldn't want to get off. That seems a little odd to me honestly. I mean good for him on making sure you get pleased but I think your pleasure would be that much greater knowing you got him off too.

[Hangry22]

It's a stress release or something to get your mind off things irl. He may also be hoping for a nude from you after getting close through sexting. It's like how some people put off things for later under the name of masturbation

[Asker]

can you explain a little futher

[Hangry22]

Like he said, a DISTRACTION. It's fun to sext with someone you know even if you don't get an orgasm at the end. You're his stress-reliever. He probably doesn't have a girlfriend. So any straight guy would be happy to have the company of a girl even without any labels. Just to talk and then leading to playful little sexting.

[Asker]

I asked him last night if he meant it was like a happy place for him and he said sure you could call it that and he no longer wanted to he would have already have told me,

[Hangry22]

Stress-reliever is a happy place

[bowenw]

It sounds like he's playing you. If he's looking at you on he phone it's up to him to make himself cum. He can't blame you that he can't get himself off.

[Cellestial]

He's not horny anymore because you've probably been doing it a lot. He didn't want to sound like a jerk by refusing or ghosting you. Just take a step back and he'll reach out to you once he's horny again.

[Asker]

no only about 5 times now

[Cellestial]

That's enough for him if he doesn't have a high sex drive

[Asker]

from what he tells me, he does I think

[Twalli]

Because even if we don't cum it feels good and we like knowing we can make a girl cum.

[Valnac]

I don’t like sexting, it requires two hands and you are typing a lot.
Phone sex only requires one hand leaving the other to go between your thighs.

[Anonymous]

He's bored and enjoys interacting with you by sexting.
It's fun and kinda challenging.
He gets to share his fantasies or pretend to be someone else.

[Asker]

He likes the master and slave concept of BDSM and we have only been about 5 times. he begged me first and when I gave in it got really heated. after that he then goes on to tell me that he is hard to please and proceeds to tell me stories of him taking hours to cum with other girls he actually had sex with. Yes, it's a fantasy world we play but there was one time he said he wanted to fuck me for real. I don't know all I know it bothers me that I can't give on my side.

[Asker]

Just so you know I have no intention of having a relationship with him.

[Asker]

Just curious

[Opinion Owner]

I see. I have? ots of experience with sexting and sharing fantasies with women, but I definitely don't know much about BDSM and sex slave stuff. I did see a show on tv about a guy that was into making women his online sex slaves and eventually would meet and lock her in his basement. He was abusive. Just be cautious. Good luck with everything.

[Asker]

No no I met him in highschool, he is an old friend of mine. I introduced master and slave to him. He just really likes it that's all.

[Asker]

It all started when we were texting after years of not talking and were debating on submission and when I told him I prefer that he got really aroused.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh, well it sounds better that you know him. Are you into being the slave or having him as the slave?

[Asker]

I am the slave

[Opinion Owner]

Cool. It's interesting to me. I have a dominant type of personality in regular interactions with people. I don't like rules or being told what to do, but if I was into BDSM type stuff I think I would be a willing sex slave to a woman. Not sure why, but it seems like fun to a point.

[Asker]

I am a natural submissive. I like to please my partner more than myself. that's why it frustrates me and confuses me that he wants to as a distraction even though he doesn't cum from it. he says the fact that he just has a hard time doing so and pleasing him is hard. I don't get it since he told me he likes the way I look naked and he would actually drill me if we were together in reality.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm a giver in the bedroom too. I understand the desire to be submissive. Is it that we have some type of fetish for acceptance? We like giving pleasure, we want to be valuable? I don't know what his deal is. I've always found the sexually dominant types to be lazy and selfish at their core basically. Good luck trying to understand his mixed signals.