Why would my boyfriend intentionally hurt my feelings?

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Says he loves me to death. Its been two years. We drank and had sex, after we had sex he brought up a woman he had seen in the daytime. Described her as no body, no booty, was by herself (no boyfriend) and sooo pretty... i got mad and punched him up. There was no call for that

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Aerolyn Xper 5
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I'm gonna assume he said this when he was drunk.

It's hard for me to tell if it was intentional or not if he was under the influence, at least for me.
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- Asker
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  He had drank but was not drunk. He said it to bother me. he's done similar things before. Just not gassing up a girl. He has participated in exchanging interested type of eye contact with other females that had caused arguments solely based on the fact he was disrespectful to our relationship

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summiter Master
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That was way wrong for him to bring it up. Are you sure you want to stay with this guy? How was ther sex with him?
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- Asker
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  It was also wrong for me to react the way i did but he has done so many things to make me feel like im less than others when he needs to feel validated. I left after this scenario because i warned him that he will not make me feel threatened over a woman again. The sex was always fast and somewhat enjoyable. I just loved him so quick sex never bothered me

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Guy13 Master
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YOu are right and deserved although i am not condoning violence !!!
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- Guy13
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  It does sound like he has no real regard for you? What possessed him to do that? What was his excuse? Did he have an inebriated moment where he thought he was hanging out with the fellas? I mean for sure that's guy talk... bunch of married and So up guys over drinks-he said those things to you !!!
- Asker
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  He doesn't hang out w the fellas. He is around me all day everyday. He said he told me that to make me mad. When i told him it hurt my feelings and i did not understand what i did for him to hurt me. It was out of the blue and when i seen the girl she was exactly as he described her but she was not soo pretty. She was not ugly but she was plain. And im not a hater. I find women attractive and will tell them so i feel like he was thinking about her during sex.
- Guy13
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  Well that makes more sense to this man mind... He thought you would appreciate this girl since you are not afraid to appreciate women in the way you described. I can see mad... get you to check out/verify, and go from there. What? he looking for an "okay, go get it" from you?
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- Asker
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  No he was saying it to hurt me he admitted that. But said he was sorry to end the conversation saying he would have gave her sex. he's just an asshole
- Guy13
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  He does not sound like a keeper... is he younger than you?
- Asker
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  He is my age but is largely insecure. I am not even allowed to have male friends.
- Guy13
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  Oh my... you are so dedicated and he is so wrong in my view. This whole thing sounds like a classic Narcissist with secondary signs of sociopath behaviors. Look up Narcissism and grey stoning and see if some of your experience remind you of narcissism
- Asker
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  He fits the sociopath profile. His mother was a drug addict and left him and his little brother unattended for days at a time. Her father took him at a very young age to care for him and she would promise to see him and never came. He would wait for her to cry cuz she never ever cared. He has no empathy except learned empathy. He is very suave when he wants to be but lies almost about everything. I tried to tell him but he talks his way out of anything. He uses people and will not work. He will not make plans for the future iust says idc what we do or where we are long as we are together. Thats not good.
- Guy13
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  Some believe that the Narcisst is on a continuum or beginning of Socio or Psychopath ending. The question being whether it ends at Socio or Psycho... Learned empathy like don't know when to cry at funeral unless he's watching others. Same with jokes and laughing? Damn, you sound like a quality all-in soul. You know the Deal but still stay, why?
- Asker
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  I mean he uses what others have empathy for in general. When he cries it is fake. He can go from making tears and speaking sad to yelling and or defending himself normally. He got drunk and beat me up a year ago and when i asked why he said he didn't know. He did not apologize and had no remorse. Before that he never even raised hos voice. I asked if he felt bad he said he didn't know. I said he scared me and i didn't think it was a good idea to stay together that he wasn't evensorry. He then apologized. Which was clearly not the case. He is also envious instead of happy for friends accomplishments. He is selfish and doesn't see things from someone elses view. If i talked w him about something i didn't care for he would blame me. He refuses to take responsibility for anything he does.
- Guy13
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  It does not sound like a safe place to be? Are you in a small town or City-like place?
- Asker
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  I left him after this incident. I refuse to be treated less than human. I shouldn't have hit him but the depression built up and i made a mistake. I told him he could press charges. He begs me to stay even still today
- Guy13
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  Whew. glad to know that you are not in same location any longer...
- Asker
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  Thank you for your replies. I just dont understand why a man is with a pretty girl, that loves him despite his looks and past, and hurts her with another girl when he is the most jealous person ever. Especially when i had just fucked him.
- Guy13
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  Sure. No worries. Be safe !!!
- Asker
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  You do the same. 😊
D-Pad_Chad Xper 5
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Sounds like he's in an abusive relationship with an overly jealous woman. Hopefully he gets out soon.
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- Asker
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  You got that from one encounter i spoke on? I left him with plenty of scars on my body. But he has none. Have a great day. And i hope he leaves me alone.
Dargil Master
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He let the booze corrupt his diplomacy. Stupid, rather than intentional. Call him out on it , though.
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- Asker
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  I did. He said it to hurt me. And even laughed about it
- Dargil
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  It might be time for him to go. A mean streak will likely get worse.
- Asker
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  He is gone. This was his last mean thing to do. Not the worst but the straw that broke the camels back. I just dont understand what would possess him to hurt my feelings when i did nothing wrong.
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- Dargil
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  That mean streak. Good he's gone.
TheFlak38 Master
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oh you punched him? He was too gentle to you obviously. You abusive bitch.
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- Asker
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  Abusive bitch? Bet your family is proud of you.
- TheFlak38
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  Not just my family but my friends as well and a lot of fucking people who rely on my work. Thank you you dumb bitch.
- Asker
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  Ill be dumb. But at least im not a troll. I hope you can be more positive in life. Im glad people depend on you for your work. Its more than most men accomplish. Have a great day
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- TheFlak38
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  You literally said that you punched someone because he said that a random girl was pretty but I should be more positive in life. That's the joke of the week. Screenshot.
- Asker
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  He spoke on her in detail and admitted to wanting to hurt my feelings. This is a guy that is insanely jealous and does not allow social media or me to even see friends. I did react in a poor way. He told me he deserved it because what he said was wrong. You are judging a situation one sided. Who hurt you? Perhaps you secretly hate women? Either way i forgive you. you're wanted and loved sir. Take care
Twalli Master
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For hitting him repeatedly, agree.
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- Asker
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  I Shouldn't have hit him. my emotions got the best of me
In_Trance Master
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Because he's a douche. Why are you dating a douche?
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- Asker
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  Was... that was the straw that broke me.