Why would my girlfriend like gloryhole porn as her choice to watch when she does? She's demisexual if that helps?

[hardboiledink]

I've been dating for a year and me and my girl talked about porn. She said her choice is usually gloryhole porn. I was curious as to why psychologically this might be? You don't really see the guys and she's demisexual so maybe that's why? Demisexuals aren't sexually attracted or lit unless they have an emotional connection I've heard? What else could it be?

[Anonymous]

Demisexuality is a sexual orientation in which an individual does not experience primary sexual attraction. Let's be honest about most of these sexualties. They are trending options girls choose to stand out as unique and different. Pansexuality is another. It's much like the non-binary, gender fluid, gender neutral stuff. You still get to be Hetrosexual while identifying as part of the LGBTQ and not having to remove your genitals or have hay sex. A few years ago the trendy thing was to identify as bisexual or biqurious, basically you kiss a girl or experiment with a girl which gains intrest from guys but drop that after college when you settle down and have kids.

Basically your girlfriend by identifying as demisexual gets validation and fits in even getting her own demisexual flag. I suspect the vast majority of the LGBTQ are now straight white women at college who are trying to fit in and gain victim status and avoid microaggressions.

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/a/a7/Demisexual_Pride_Flag.svg

[_Maya_]

You know for sure she is demisexual? Maybe she is even unsure. Why not ask her about her kink for it? Doubt anyone here can climb inside her mind and know. I know I can't nor know the psychology of it. Sometimes people have kinks or fetishes that jt. surprising and don't make sense to their personality. I've had that happen with a partner before. I was really surprised. Just didn't fit the image she gave off but there it was. Best ask her about jt.

[hardboiledink]

She says she's demisexual and the last relationship she didn't feel anything, but with me she feels all types of emotions and says I love you to me. So that's what I think, since the penises aren't attached to anyone in a gloryhole it's something she likes as she doesn't like or get attracted to men unless she knows them. Some guys get attached to certain female pornstars and objectify the whole person so I think she is just narrowing down the sex in her case watching what she does. Thanks!

[_Maya_]

Yeah that is a strange one. Sorry couldn't be more help.

[Lliam]

Maybe she's demisexual and needs an emotional connection to have sex, but a gloryhole is about the mystery. It's the thrill of sex without a face; without the intimacy of sex.

For women who often feel objectified by society, a gloryhole can be a turn on because it puts them in control. Breaking a taboo can also be erotic.

Fantasies are weird. People often fantasize about things that they wouldn't want to do in real life.

I wonder if she would enjoy kneeling blindfolded and sucking your dick.

[Lliam]

Thanks for the MHO.

[007kingifrit]

the trick is... demisexual is always a lie. there is no such thing. people can get horny when they're horny

the term is absolutely useless, the fact that she is watching porn AT ALL indicates she isn't "demi sexual"

[hardboiledink]

LOL. That's what I think, but I think it's more a term that is for a better way of "love." FOr guys and girls to get to know eachother before really being "turned on." Like many girls she just isn't turned on by looking at guys, unlike guys looking at girls. She like most girls has to get to know a guy to want to have sex. Males and females are kinda different in that way though of course even guys don't want to sleep with every girl that would give it up. I think demisexual just helps define that a person doesn't really get as sexuall attracted to someone right off the bat than not. Now, anything I do is attactive to her because she loves me and I can have sex whenever, but isn't that any relationship? So like you I question the term "demisexual" I'm not sure if it's useful or not, but I think in our case as a couple it kind of is. If it's a fluid term even I am more towards demisexual now and only attracted to my girlfriend and watch less porn than before, so wouldn't that make me demi kind of? LOL. But it's just a term to help narrow that down, at least to me

[Avicenna]

Maybe it appeals to some other characteristic of hers

[Anonymous]

I like looking at that sometimes even though I would never do it the fantasy turns me on.

[hardboiledink]

Is the fantasy for the anonymousnous of it all? Or what is the fantasy about?

[Opinion Owner]

Sucking a bunch of guys cocks and having them cum on me.

[hardboiledink]

Thanks!

[pierre7i]

To be honest I just don't get what could excite a girl about that 🤔 I know lots of guys fantasise about it too but Isimply cannot relate to it, possibly because I actually want to see the girl who is 'milking' mine (especially if I'm naked and she's clothed = cfnm !)

[hardboiledink]

@pierre7i It seems to be either 2 things. Either they like anonymity of it as many women have a predisposition to want to have sex with multiple men as uncovered in the sex research book "My Secret Garden." Or it's the fact that girls often need an emotional connection to want to have sex I know you know women don't just F every guy or would if they could that comes along. MOST men would F most good looking women though regardless of knowing them, hence why most porn is watched by men. So again it's slightly anonymity and the the fact that the guy isn't a whole guy they are watching to get a little attached to like a guy gets attached to a female pornstar and objectifies her whole being. Which is what guys often do to girls in the real world. THey just see women as a sex object FAR more and in degree than women to men. So that's what I think. Some women just like looking at and getting aroused at a penis and thinking about whoever they are with or the anonymity of just having sex without thinking too much who the guy is since they don't actually see them