Why would one's wife decline the offer to sleep with other men as long as I knew about it but she cheat on me behind my back?

[Itonlytakesone]

So I met my wife in high school we were each other's 1st. And over the years me being the person i am felt bad that she didn't get too experience sex with other people So with great difficulty and years of hard work learning to get use to the idea of her sleeping with other men, and not with the intention to being able sleep with other women that had nothing to do with it and wasn't even a thought in my head but i wanted her to beable experience that and actually became a fantasy of me watching Of course that wasn't the only way i would be ok with it if she didn't want no don't know what she would is if I could watch that made her feel uncomfortable then I wouldn't and I just would like to know what she was doĺing and texting well , say it would help thank you

[Gummy_Cluster]

I once worked a shitty 12 hour grave shift, with nothing to do. I talked to lots of people online. Your question came up a lot. Your situation is very common. The answer is very simple. Guilt. Women are 10 thousand times more likely to cheat than to accept a hall pass. Cheating makes women feel guilty, but accepting the hall pass is worse. It doesn't make much sense, but that's how it is.

I talked to a guy who tried for 10 years to get his wife to try his kink, and she refused. But when she went out of town for two weeks for work, she cheated everyday. He found out by snooping on her phone. She admitted it. Lots of things in life don't make sense.

[Itonlytakesone]

I get what your saying and thanks for the Clarification that's pretty much all I could come up with too.

[Gummy_Cluster]

Once you hear the same story a thousand times, it's the only conclusion you can come up with. I talked to a guy who said he married the "town pump." He said she did every guy in town, and had her FIRST gangbang at an age I can't say on here. But she refused the hall pass. She wouldn't accept his permission. But after marrying him, she cheated on him. Some things don't make sense.

[Itonlytakesone]

That's a life lesson that has made my life a lot easier since I've changed that. And it's just that things used to have to make sense to me and I would stress when they didn't then one day I came. to the conclusion that not everything has to make sense to me for it to happen.

[Gummy_Cluster]

I told a guy on here that hot water freezes faster than cold water. He said I was lying. I don't understand why that is, but you're not going to change it. How have you changed?

[SueShe]

You know, some people have what one might call principles, decency and dignity.

Not everyone has those 3 assets but your wife is one of them. Why would you motivate her to lose those 3 assets? Is it just because you want to watch her fornicate with other men and to get infected with STD/STI?

Well, then it tells me a whole lot about you and YOUR dignity, decency and principles.

Why don't you just forget about this kink and fantasy of yours and leave your wife be the person that she wants to be and not the one you want her to be?

[Itonlytakesone]

As i stated this started because I felt bad for her it took a long time for me to even be remotely ok with it. How does getting an std/sti have anything to do with what your saying. Tell me how it's different if she cheats behind my back and doesn't tell me or has sex with other people while I know about it. I'm not motivating her to loose any of those she did that on her own by cheating on me. And forget about this fantasy of mine? It seems your basing everything off of my fantasy when that's not what it's about. So put fantasy aside where in this did I say that she couldn't be herself? I simply asked why

[Guy13]

She has values and loves you. Who knows now as I am sure she no longer respects you.

[Itonlytakesone]

Would you beable to explain the she loves me and has morals part I'm not seeing the difference that you seeing. And as far as the respect things goes I think your totally right about that cuz that's exactly the kind of feeling I get from her now even tho she denies it but I get it why tell the truth to someone you don't respect

[Anonymous]

She wants privacy with the other guy.

[Itonlytakesone]

Yes that's def an option as well