Why would your boyfriend get mad at you for catching him masturbating?

[Anonymous]

I didn't mean to walk in on him, but I accidently caught him masturbating. I'm not mad or anything.

He asked me to help him up, so I did and he was laughing and asked me why my hands were sticky. I told him I just washed my hands so it's problem him (as a joke because he just got done masturbating).

Immediately, his behavior changed and got mad at me. Still stonewalling me and turning a cold shoulder.

I don't get why he's all mad because he always makes jokes to me that I'm playing with myself (even when I'm not) and talking dirty to me when he kinda catches me touching myself.

[Katie1964]

First time I accidentally walking in on Hubby masturbating, I was shocked, he was embarrassed. I pulled myself together and told him it was fine and normal.

I asked if he wanted me to leave, he asked if I wanted to leave. Then I said, I would like to stay mainly because I didn't want him to be embarrassed and I figured it he thought I wanted to stay he would not think I was looking down on him for doing it.

Now he regularly wants me to watch him masturbate, its a normal part of our sex lives now.

[Alex-Snow]

He probably was embarrassed. But as you know all younger guys jerk off frequently... but I think many will not admit it. Maybe try masturbating with him it could be fun? How is your sex life with him otherwise?

[Asker]

I tried to. When we talk about it, he's into the idea of masturbating in front of each other, but he won't actually do it. He has seen me touch myself, too, and he has this shy look but he'd be giggling and jokingly ask me what I'm doing. He would rub it for me, but not for long, especially when he's getting hard from it. We do have sex or quickies after that. But it doesn't seem normal to get mad over your partner walking in on you, accidentally, masturbating. Because I would want him to join me or ask him to join me if he walks in on me.

[Alex-Snow]

There is no reason he should still be mad at you... you did nothing wrong

[HSalenko]

My guess is there's something about that session he felt privately about. Maybe he's cagey and wants true alone time. That's a guess though, this is pretty off.

[siferius90]

Have you made any derogatory comments about masturbation in the past?

[Asker]

No. I've always expressed how much I like it and that I would like to watch him doing it for a bit or play together.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Immature? Insecure? I can't figure this one out.

[boggboss]

Sounds like somthing u would need to ask him

[Asker]

I tried to. He won't talk. So I try to talk to him about it another time when we have our relationship talks and still just ignore me at that time, too. I just genuinely wanna understand what's the purpose of getting mad at a joke that he makes to me.

[boggboss]

🤷🏽‍♂️ its nit normal behaviour so I can't even begin to guess

[Asker]

That's what I kinda thought. I've never met a guy who would be mad about it.

[MementoMori777]

Lol wtf, that kid got problems

[Asker]

Fr! He's 30! I've never met a guy who would get mad for that kinda thing. If anything, the guy would be inviting the girl to join him. .. but not my boyfriend..

[MementoMori777]

Will trying to find out why he's angry piss him off too or it's flipping a coin with this one? Either ways you should try figuring out why, I doubt you'll do that by asking it here tho ha

[Asker]

More like flipping a coin. Or he'll just say "it's nothing" but continue to be mad. I tried to talk to him about it. He just won't really say anything. He'll just claim that I didn't do anything wrong but he'll act like I did.

[MementoMori777]

Then you ask him why he's being like this and he will be "like what" then you call out all the different ways his mood changed and he will have to give answers

[Dargil]

Embarrassment. How would you feel if you were sitting on the throne and digging away when he opened the door?

[Asker]

I would want my partner to join me.

[JosyJosy]

Maybe you broke his momentum HAHAHA guys is this a thing?

[Goofy9009]

You do anything eise that might of upset him , like was he asking for something?

[Asker]

No. It seems like he gets offended or something for making the same jokes he does to me.

[Goofy9009]

Was your response any different

[smilelots]

Maybe he is upset with himself and is taking it out on you.. some people think that if your masturbating that your girl or guy is not for you is not enough for you and there wrong.. so maybe he thinks you think that of him

[smilelots]

my x caught me a few times she did say what im not good enough for you. and my reply was yes you are more then good enough for me but we only make love or have sex 5 or 6 times a year thats not enough for me so i take care of myself and my needs and I dont cheat on you. you should be happy about that and not mad that I have to take care of my own needs I did when I was single and still do now when married.

[Wise4myage]

Was he whacking his weasel to some other girl?

[nudeNhorny]

I see no reason to get but hurt over it

[bananathunder]

maybe he was embarrassed?

[Z1pTD]

He sounds like he's either toxic or he has something bugging him from his past.

[jimmy2]

He is embarrassed

[MasterKS]

He being asshole!

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Yeah if anything he should let u help him or just have sex instead of masturbating. 🤷🏼‍♂️😂

[Anonymous]

Its weird tbh