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Why Your Sexual History Matters

Today we live in a world of absolute hypocrisy. As people- we strive for companionship and love and to find that special someone. And yet we don't even know why. To put it succinctly people- the purpose of life is to reproduce. Not to play golf or video games or bake the next delicious Instagram photo. As far as evolution is concerned- if you die childless- then you are a failed gene code.

I know that may sting to a lot of unmarried, still looking, childless women out there. But that is the cold fact of reality. We spend our lives in silly pursuits and just assume that when the time is right, magically Mr. Right will be there to make it happen. Let's be adults people. The purpose of adult bonding between males and females is to ultimately produce children. We have sexual intercourse to facilitate that. And that's the part that we like.

Men have a very instinctual and good reason why they prefer women who don't have many sexual partners. A woman who is able to sleep with many men while still not producing a child is infertile. She is not a good investment of his time and money because ultimately- she probably isn't capable of producing children. If said women WERE capable of producing children, then she likely would have, and she would have sought to secure a good home and resources for those children via a strong committed relationship with the father.

This is why men are instinctually REPULSED by a women with a high 'number'. This new false paradigm of 'female empowerment' is anything BUT empowering. Girls are being told 'your value is not determined by your 'number''. It's not empowering. It's enabling. It's enabling women to stay where they are and feel okay with it- instead of being able to get what they want out of life; which is usually a sense of self actualization according to maslow.

Why your sexual history matters

As you can see- most women today hover midway of level 2. Society may permit a single woman to achieve her basic security needs, but her family usually isn't complete without a husband. A woman instinctively feels incomplete when her children's primary male role model is the principal of their school or her gay 'bestie'. When we tell people that this is untrue because we sympathize and want to sooth their ego- we actually do them a disservice. They stay at the lower levels of the hierarchy of needs- and lingering too long near the bottom is not just unhealthy; it can be dangerous. People in general, but especially women have a tendency to suffer from depression which often results in suicidal behavior if they do not ever move up the hierarchy. Just pay attention to the commercials on TV during an hour of your favorite programming if you don't believe me. Chances are- at least one of them will be for antidepressant or other mental health medication.

I'm not giving men a free pass here. I just haven't gotten to them yet. (ladies first) Men also have a consequence to their sexual history. Women are more forgiving than men though, because biologically it's not as important for a woman to have a virgin man. Men aren't the bearers of primary consequence of pregnancy. As long as a man is capable of insemination- evolutionary speaking- his job is done. The only concern at that point that the woman may have is the possible sharing of the man's resources with children of another woman- which is not in the interest of her own children. That is why women are more forgiving of a man's promiscuity. So long as he doesn't have children by another woman, usually women more easily look the other way.

I'm not saying that emotions and common interests and all those relationship things don't play an issue. I'm explaining WHY they are important in the first place. Consequently, this means that no matter what your opinion on the matter is, the reality is that the number of previous sexual partners you have had DOES matter to your current relationship and your current partner has every right to consider whether they want to take the risk of the investment in you- or move on to greener pastures.

With all that said, I'm not willing to entertain geriatric romance or homosexual relationship straw (wo)man arguments. Those are topics for a different mytake. This mytake only covers nominal heterosexual familial development. (notice how I used the word 'nominal' instead of normal because that word has been so conflated. these days everyone gets to be 'normal'. "OMFG I'm homosexual and you said I'm not normal? WTF! you can't tell someone that their minority situation isn't normal because it might trigger them, and that's not PC. People, can we please let others make their points? let's not turn into billy bob clinton and argue about the definition of the word "is".)

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  • Sex is far easier to get for women, this is because of simple reproductive fitness dynamics. As in a man can knock up 5 women in a day, but a women can only get knocked up once in 9 months, so you only need a small percentage of men to knock up all the women. This makes men more sexually driven and women more selective. A man will need
    a lot going for him to have the same potential sexual success as the average women. This is why male promiscuity is celebrated (because it's hard to do) while a women will just be considered a slut (because all she needs to do is open her legs). A man also doesn't know if a child is his while a women will always know, thus a promiscuous women is subconsciously seen as a risk that a man will waste his time and resources raising someone else's genes, it is a risk to male reproductive fitness

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  • I'm a firm believer in the sexes are not the same but equal as are all people until proven otherwise by the actions of the individual. That's important because I believe in the sexual freedom of both men and women and don't accept slut shaming. I consider myself to have been a player in my younger days and now that I'm pushing 30; I've acknowledged that I do not desire children for they'll disrupt my life. Overall a failure according to your position.
    That being said I agree with your post. I think it makes a lot of sense. You bring up a very good point. I recently read an article about how the c section is changing evolution patterns in humans because those who would have died during birth are living thus passing on genes such as narrow hips that would have died out. Your point is similar. We've invented means of artificial infertility with products such as the pill and condoms; it is changing how we pick mates. Technology also plays a factor as more screen time means less interaction and less sex.

    • Intresting! Liked. May I ask you how many sexual partners you had in the past? And why did you like sleeping around? Are you know in a steady relationship and is your boyfriend ok with your sexual history? Thank you in advance 😊

    • @FlorandFauna Speaking sticky Intercourse 20. I slept around because I could. I was a late bloomer, an ugly duckling. I got cute right on the cusp of 25, lost virginity and made up for lost time. 1St was a drunken one night stand known as a 1st time only to me, which fits my personality much better than the whole "someone special first love story" young girls usually desire. Learning how to be desired and pick up men is an art form I enjoy, and sometimes miss. It's a rush and I don't feel the shame many talk about from being so adventerous or casual (I'll add that I always carry condoms with me and have never had sex without being on birth control). I was always smart about it, and in control (I don't mean dominant). I am now in a relationship. I met him by moving in with him and then we realized we were dating. Instant serious relationship (my 1st) He was number 20. He's had sex with 1 girl besides me; a relationship that lasted 5 years. He doesn't mind my past; it isn't relevant.

    • Wow! So you lost your virginity at 25? Yeah maybe if that happened to me, I would do the same (sleeping around). I lost my virginity only 2 months ago, not to my lover :( but to a fuckbuddy. I kind of regret my choice, and think I want to wait for my first boyfriend again (the ''one'' to me). Do you think that is good or do you think it is better to gain some sexual experience before setteling down in the future? And your boyfriend, he knows that you had sex with 19 guys? And he is ok with it? Hope you will answer my questions! And maybe give me some advice on the subject :)

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  • You live just to reproduce? Boring af life🙄 #IMO

    If that's what you want than that's all you got to live for and call erbody else sluts because dats the matures👍🏻 But I want lots of things from life and sex is just one of them. Not important, just something to do for fun someday.

  • It's the sad truth I guess. Well, I'm not into fucking many men anyways. Just one partner that can help me gain sexual experience, to put it like that. And then later on a love relationship, but without the whole idea of marriage and children bc no, I don't want that. Maybe one day I will adopt a child so I'm not that gen code mistake like you were talking about. Hey, after reading this article I do wonder how many men in bed is considered a lot for a woman. Anyone can answer that question?

  • "A woman who is able to sleep with many men while still not producing a child is infertile. She is not a good investment of his time and money"
    Boy do you have that wrong!

    Imagine, a woman who has slept with many men (or only one) and had lots of children. That is what you call a time and money pit.

  • Thanks for sharing!

  • Is it because of all my HIV that my sexual history matters?

    • LOL i believe that it could be said that the two are closely related ;)

  • Well the same could be said for condom users. Every condom they use, they are preventing another potential birth. So if dying childless is shameful, so is dying when having 5 kids instead of 9 kids because that's 4 kids you could have had more that would have further passed the genes. See how that can be said too?

  • Lol your Take is comical and strictly your preference or opinion. You don't speak for all women (or men). Anyone, without regard to gender, may prefer a virgin.

    • Preferring virginity isn't about biology or fertility, it's a preference concerning personality and trust and STDs, which applies to both genders.

    • all desire for sex is rooted in the drive to reproduce. some prefer the shotgun method in hopes some of their conquests may result in a child, while others prefer investment into a consolidated effort with one mate. (usually) a potential mate who either consciously, or subconsciously, knows that they lack significant ability to care for or be present in an offspring's life will use the shotgun method. those who have higher reproduction value prefer to ensure the survival of a fewer number of offspring in hopes that their offspring- while fewer in number- will be able to out-compete their contemporaries in the game of survival of the fittest. this understanding comes from studying pure sexual drive and reproductive methods, and is not a moral evaluation of a subject's choice to choose a virgin or not choose a virgin. men who choose a non-virgin have a lower standard than men who can afford to be more choosy, because they have less to offer a mate.

    • Overanalyzing! Virginity preference has nothing to do with sexual desire. Just trust and personality.

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  • Sexual history matters but I'm sorry.. You're just a nutcase. I couldn't read past the first paragraph.

    • are you illiterate? if so- you might want to take a reading course before joining an online forum. you go bake to making america great again while the rest of us thinkers have a real conversation instead of spewing insults. if you had bothered to read- which i can understand why you didn't- because reading is a waste of your time- you would have realized that my arguments are not based in existentialism. of course your life can have meaning to you personally if you don't have children. but your existence is wasted energy if you don't help perpetuate the human race- and your willful desire to not reproduce is actually a weakness in your genes that allows you to go extinct- making room for more worthy mates who can and desire to reproduce. so live free and fuck whoever you want- especially if you don't want kids.

    • Wtf are you talking? 🤔 First, If our job is simply to perpetuate the human race and nothing more then we would be no different than animals. Humanity would have ZERO technological advancement whatsoever and we'd still be cavemen fucking every fertile female we get our hands on (incest and pedophilia included), because that's exactly what animals do. Second, if that's our to simply perpetuate the human race, then since the male anatomy makes millions of sperms EVERYDAY, we could assign ONE man at a time to perpetuate our existence while the rest of us work on technological and social advancement and entrust our legacy to the next gen. I literally just destroyed your mytake in no more than 2 paragraphs... by the way, if you're going to call someone illiterate, please fix your damn grammar.

    • your defense for not bothering to read- is that you're a grammar nazi? how original. you're the one who said that he COULDN'T read past the first paragraph. i asked if you were illiterate. i didn't accuse you of it. and no- your ideas on social engineering where billions of men entrust the entire fate of the human genome on a single lucky man who gets to mate with all the women in the world while all the rest of the men go make the world great... is fucking retarded. it destroyed nothing except any credibility of intelligence you were claiming to have had as the basis for not having bothered to read the article in the first place. i refuse to engage with you any further on this as my IQ is actually suffering from it.

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  • I agree. Sloots are disgusting

    • Are you aware?

  • I am SO sick and tired of this shit. So many women are so defensive at least a whore is a whore. But the worst type is women who pretend to be good girls and just frankly aren’t. It’s men too. Women who are saving themslves. Don’t want men who sleep around all the time. It works both ways. So many men want to marry virgins and aren’t one themselves

  • Well, considering that I was born with a reproductive hormone disorder that gave me a small penis, I've already failed at life right out of the womb.

    Fuck reproducing. I'm just going to play computer games and create music until I die. Relationships are a waste of time for me, since she'll reject me or cheat on me after we get intimate.

    • unfortunately survival of the fittest leaves some otherwise very good specimens out. if you want children you might try alternatives to traditional monogamous marriage. there are other ways to please a woman but you're right there is an increased chance of infidelity if a woman isn't with a satisfying penis. if you can live with a wife who loves you but just needs an occasional larger penis just for sex it might be a good option. as long as she is fine with you using strip clubs or porn or escorts to satisfy your needs when she gets fat and wrinkly. some people just think in the moment- they don't consider what can happen 20 or 30 years down the line. 30 years from now a woman won't be nearly as desirable so she should consider a marriage partner for much more than penis size. usually women do just that- because we know when we get old nobody will want us- and it's very likely even the husband we have might toss us to the curb.

  • good.

  • Interesting take.

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