Will he ask me out again?

[Anonymous]

Dated a narcissist he broke up with me and wants to stay friends. After a week he asked if I wanted to sext him back and forth. I said no and ended the conversation. He is the first to check my snap stories. He said he doesn’t love me and ended it. Then is hot and cold about it for the past week. Will he ask me out again? I want to get back together. I said no to moving in but I’m ready now and told him. He didn’t want me making a rash decision in case it didn’t work out.

Confusing…. Haven’t messaged in two days. Not going too. He said if we stay friends on Snapchat he’ll snap me when he is horny

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Classic narcissitic pattern of love bombing and then cold shouldering.

Just leave him in the dust.

Narcissists are incapable of change and are only interested in controlling others.

You deserve better than that.

[Asker]

Sadly. He is hot and cold right now. ‘Not much besides myself will change my mind’ about us dating again. Sigh he keeps changing his mind which makes me think he is in fact a narcissist. Now he wants to do sexting…. You are absolutely right though.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Leave him and no matter what he says don't take him back. Just get the popcorn and wine and enjoy his hissy fit as his entitled ass doesn't get what he wants.

[Asker]

He left me. I have tried and compromised and he said no. We still chat and I stopped which lead to him messaging me. He didn’t life that I was living my life even though he encouraged it. Said I’ve changed so much I said I wanted to grow with him but he said no so I am growing independently then he gave me that line ‘Not much besides myself Will change my mind’ so confusing

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Leave him in the dust. He's right, you're growing.

[Asker]

The last two days he has reached out me without asking for sexting. Just conversation and snapping random pictures of what he was doing. He is so hard to read

[guyinterested]

Oh my god! a narcissist? Really? All they think about is themselves. They don't have partners, they have victims. The ultimate emotional abusers. You must be crazy!

[Asker]

He messaged me today and started to put the break up blame on me. I in the last week have started to move on. Travel work on my bucket list and he made me out to be a bad guy. Said I was different then before and changed to much and so much. Now he says ‘not much besides myself will change my mind’ about getting back together. I’m so confused. Is he trying to do a safety neat or just trying to control me again? I just don’t get it. I said we can work on stuff and grow together he said he supports me. Them is blaming me for living my life. You are right it’s a mess

[guyinterested]

Of course, he will try to put it all on you. That's what they do. I'd not try to work anything out... it won;t happen.

[Asker]

He was so willing a month ago. Wanted to move in, get married in a year. I got nervous and put a year to move in and two to get married if we got along good. Now things have changed in the matter of two weeks. I hate it.

[Asker]

Even compromised to move in early and he gave me the not sure now if I wanna take the risk when you weren’t so sure.

[Yourfriend2021]

You will just get heart broken, move on and forget about him.

[jennette465]

True talk

[spartan55]

You aren't very bright are you?

[Asker]

First relationship and he was my first intimate partner so my emotions and thoughts were balanced now I’m kinda letting my emotions lead a little and I can’t control it

[spartan55]

Are your emotions telling you to be with a piece of shit who treats you like trash?

[Asker]

Sadly. He is hot and cold right now. ‘Not much besides myself will change my mind’ about us dating again. Sigh he keeps changing his mind which makes me think he is in fact a narcissist. Now he wants to do sexting…. You are absolutely right though

[In_Trance]

i doubt it