Will I ever get to have sex again?

[Inthecraphole]

I am 27 and haven't touched a girl since 2015 (around 7 years now). I had sex once and only once at the age of 20, losing my virginity to a 16 year old girl who was also a virgin. I haven't done anything since.

I am horny all the time. I want to get to experience sex again.

The thing is, love and relationship wise, I only want a woman who has never had her first love or a boyfriend before. But who says I cannot just have fun in the meantime until I find that woman?

[MrOracle]

I'm not saying that you can't find a girl who is fine with just casual sex, because they exist, but they are a fairly small percentage, and they mostly only sleep with really good-looking or popular guys, and you clearly aren't in that category given that you haven't had sex in 7 years.

You are also holding out on some very high expectations for a girl, and the older you get, the harder it will be to find what you are looking for. You haven't found it in 7 years - age-wise the most likely years you would have found it - so you may have to lower your standards or remain single forever.

Most women aren't looking for casual sex, they are looking for a relationship, and you will get far more sex in a relationship than without. You will also have far more opportunities if you are offering a relationship than if you are only offering casual sex.

in my opinion, your unreasonable and unrealistic standards are keeping you from getting sex. It may work for guys who were fortunate enough to be born more attractive or who busted their ass and sacrificed to become wealthy at a young age, but it isn't working for you. If you don't change, your situation is unlikely to change. You want a "new Ferrari" girl but can only afford "used Chevy" prices, and you are surprised that you are still walking. Either raise your value to women or lower your standards to what you can afford.

[Subarugirl]

Agreed. You should hold expectations for someone else you wouldn’t hold for your self.

[clampfan101]

Of course it’s possible, but you’re going to have to pick a kind.

“But who says I cannot just have fun in the meantime until I find that woman?”.

If you’re looking for friends with benefits or whatever you’re going to be too distracted to look for a real relationship with real love.

[howhigh420]

No offence if u are really horny pal u should bye a toy that feels like a real vagina like a fake one and put it over your cock and wank try and get one you can cum in though obv wash it clean afterwords maybe watch some porn to set you off more during wanking jst go slow looking and thinking about how good this feels andcwhst you are lookingvat is turningvu on jst use the toy that feels like a real vagina until u reach ure goal to the kind of women u want sex with i suggest

[Inthecraphole]

It is not the same as the touch, smell, and taste of a real woman

[howhigh420]

The touch soes feel the same as a rwal vagina go to nicole adams website u will see it i got a friend one he says it feels like a real one nd he said put ure finger init nd a said yeah it does cause av felt my own but its your desition plus cumming takes the feeling of the hornyness away so u can relax but its ure chioce

[Inthecraphole]

But I wanna be able to smell a girl's ass and pheromones

[howhigh420]

Smell her ass not my thing anyway smelling ass but each to there own umm its upto u i sujest it was a good idea until u get to ure destiny

[420Rachel]

Why are your standards so ridiculous? If you really think you can attract an 18 year old that's never had a boyfriend what makes you think that she will stay with you? If you're this picky about this particular quality I'd hate to see your standards for an actual relationship.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Ughhh... gross philosophy.

[Inthecraphole]

What do you mean? I want to have sex for once. I haven't touched a girl in 7 years.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Then go have sex, but it's completely asinine to go out and have sex with whoever you want and then ask for a woman who hasn't even had romantic feelings for someone else to fall in love with you.

[Inthecraphole]

I don't know what to do then. I know I am horny and crave sex. But at the same time, I don't want to give my heart to a woman who has given hers to someone else before.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Then either modify your requirements or continue celibacy to show her the same respect you want her to have for you.

[Inthecraphole]

Well how do I find a woman without a romantic past?

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Different question and the answer is you probably don't. It’s nearly unrealistic in the way you want it (not even having romantic feelings for someone else) short of her being a child bride and if that's ever the case in this country, count me amongst the people looking to personally lynch you. If you are talking about a consenting adult though, she would have to be so extremely conservative and repressed that you'd have less of a wife and more of just a naive slave who wouldn't know any better.

[Inthecraphole]

Having a crush on a guy is fine as long as she wasn't close to him. I am talking about a woman who has never had a romantic bond with a guy before. Meaning no first love or previous boyfriends.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

See my answer above. It remains the same. Unless the household is ultra religious and repressed or there is trauma, most kids experiment when in school whether its a boyfriend/girlfriend for a few weeks. Kissing happens as kids explore their own feelings and sexuality. Thats all healthy development. Expecting that not have happened isn't likely.

[JohnMarston]

Don't take advice from a beluga whale feminist who has 10 wineboxes at her home.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Nah, just take advice from a woman who has been having sex longer than this little boy (@JohnMarston) has been alive. Also, wine is gross. Do better with your jokes.

[JohnMarston]

Wine still isn't as gross as your face.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Oh my gosh, you are showing your years with those terrible jokes, aren't you kiddo? I bet you are gonna call me a doodyhead and say girls have cooties next. Go on. Give it your best shot! If it's a good one, I'll hang it up on the fridge with the other kids' accomplishments.

[JohnMarston]

Classic feminist response. Acting like I'm a little kid because you know that you will never find a man that will give you any children.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

I have 2 wonderful children actually! So yeah, another swing and a miss on those insults. It's ok though, we can still go out for ice cream, champ! And you are a little kid. I mean let's be honest, you barely know anything in this world yet. You'll learn the same as we all do. I hope by the time you get to my age, you figure it out, but if you are still rocking a mindset like this and childish attempts at humor like you are doing here, someone will still be there to treat you like the child you are.

[JohnMarston]

Lol I highly doubt that but if it makes you feel better go ahead and pretend like you know anything about the world. Your probably the type of person who cries about the gender wage gap lol.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

And you are the type that comes into a thread about a guy trying to have sex with anything that moves but expects his future girlfriend/wife to be completely chaste in both body/heart and posts stupid jokes about wine and gender wage gaps. Know your audience and follow the topic, kiddo. I know you are still working through those remedial English courses, but trust me, they come in handy later in life. Or hey, you know, don't do that at all and let me continue treating you like the child you are. I can do this for days.

[jaybee281]

@JohnMarston First of all huge respect for naming yourself after the legend himself - Maybe I'll change my name to jim Milton or rip van winkle at this point - But hear me out - What she means is that you're 27 - If you're looking to be with a girl as of this moment that is anywhere close to being attractive then she definitely has been involved with other people romantically by that age range let alone when you're 33 or something - You could be her first love if you're talking to i don't know 15 to 18 year olds (and that's definitely not what I'd recommend) but from then your chances get slimmer and slimmer unless she lives under a rock which makes what you want unrealistic - like 18-29 is dudes hitting on them all the time what do you expect - That's all she meant

[jaybee281]

@JohnMarston ohhh and I just realized you weren't the original asker - don't mind me go at it again with your personal issues together

[JohnMarston]

Maybe you should take care of your children instead of waisting your time with me Lmao.

[JohnMarston]

@jaybee281 thanks for the compliment mate.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Kids are in school at this time, but you should know that considering you should either be in class yourself or barely graduated less than a year ago.

[JohnMarston]

I don't live in the same continent as you do lol. Different time genius.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Lmao my bad. Must have missed that being blaringly obvious by your US video game inspired name. In that case, I'll do the time for you. It's only 1030 am on my side of the world so the kids are in school.

[JohnMarston]

Good to know.

[loves2learn]

Nope you will die alone with those unrealistic standards.

[loves2learn]

Yes. With this unrealistic criteria you will end up alone. Also 17 is too young!

[ChrisMaster69]

You are living in a fantasy if you think you will get what you want.

You need to change your criteria, or face life alone.

I would suggest seeing a counsellor, as you appear to have some complex issues going on.

[rachel776]

you will have a hard time finding a girl like that

[Xtcy2083]

Why do you want someone who has never had a boyfriend before? That's a little unrealistic and unreasonable, don't you think?

[slatyb]

"I only seek a woman who has never had her first love or a boyfriend before."

That's why you will never have a partner. There is no such woman of an age appropriate for you to date.

[Inthecraphole]

What about early 20s women? I even know a guy who is 28 and dating a girl who is 19.

[slatyb]

Who has never had a boyfriend? Extremely unlikely. Are you willing to date women that few people find attractive? Maybe you should see a therapist and get over your extreme insecurity and fear of being compared unfavorably to someone she knew before.

[loves2learn]

Yes, this^ @slatyb is right. You need to get over your insecurity or you will die alone.

[AviatorTom]

If all you want is sex, there are many ways to do that, including paying for it. Do whatever you want, just don't hurt anyone.

[FunkyMonkee]

Try being in my shoes! As of 2 weeks from now, it's been 26 years!! and I was almost 25 by the time I got my first one!!

[FunkyMonkee]

Seriously? You're ONLY in your 20's!!! I'VE still got hope, but it IS dwindling!! If Jerry Lewis can do it in his 60's, I see no reason why I can't!!

[Inthecraphole]

I may be only in my 20s, but I seek a particular type of woman that is not as common and becomes rarer as I get older.

[Inthecraphole]

I am seeing most of my peers I have known over the years get married and/or have children. Meanwhile, I haven't even had an actual girlfriend before!

[FunkyMonkee]

But, you've only been at it for a decade, at most! Try being MY age and not being able to find someone!!

[FunkyMonkee]

I was 3 weeks shy of turning 25 before the first girlfriend I ever got!! She was my first EVERYTHING, that night!! I'd never held hands, kissed, felt up, fondled, fingered or even got my baloney bopped by a girl before that night!! We were together for 3 months, then, she broke up with me and it took me nearly a year to get girlfriend #2, who I was with for another few months before she went back to her ex. Then, it was another 8 years before I got girlfriend #3 and, although we were together for 10 years and I nearly married her, the little mini-bitch started cheating on me so, I dropped her like a hot brick!! There's been no one since except for a very short kissing spree with #2 a few years ago.

[Inthecraphole]

I see. Wow. Yeah, I am very picky when it comes to women.

[FunkyMonkee]

Beggars can't be choosers.

[exitseven]

@inthecraphole will indeed ride again,

[Subarugirl]

Wait just a second... you as a 20 your old male had sexual intercourse with a 16 year old female?

[Inthecraphole]

Absolutely

[Subarugirl]

I don’t know where you are from but in the states that is considered rape…

[MrOracle]

In SOME US states it is considered statutory rape, but the Age of Consent varies from 16 to 18 depending on the state, and several states that have an 18 AoC law have exemptions if you are within a certain number of years of the person under age. Much of Europe is 16 or less - Germany is 14 for example. It's best not to assume that every place has the same laws or standards. Prior to the mid 1960s, AoC in the US varied from 13 to 16. Rock N Roll pioneer Jerry Lee Lewis married his 13 year old first cousin, for example.

[Subarugirl]

@MrOracle so you think it’s okay for an adult male say 35 years old to have sex with a 13 year old child?

[MrOracle]

This has nothing to do with how I feel about anything. It's simply stating the facts of current laws, because a lot of people believe things that aren't true.

[genericname85]

Your question is similar to the following question: will i ever be able to walk again, if i don't wanna use my feet?

Of course you can find love and sex. But your own self imposed, unreasonable Standards will keep you from that, if you don't consider dropping them. And then you have nobody else to blame for your situation but yourself.

[Inthecraphole]

I can have sex with just about any girl, but when it comes to love and relationships, I only want a woman without a romantic past.

[genericname85]

Yeah. Then your probably not gonna have that. I'm saying how it is. Drop that or be ok with never finding love.

[Dchrls78104]

I can relate. I am unfortunate with women. Every girl I've ever looked at has been unavailable or unsuitable. What you are saying might well become true for me.

[Inthecraphole]

Have you been alone your entire life like I have?

[Inthecraphole]

I am seeing most of my peers I have known over the years get married and/or have children. Meanwhile, I haven't even had an actual girlfriend before!

[Dchrls78104]

Yes, and the same thing has happened to me.

[Twalli]

Your stipulations are too strict to realistically find a relationship.

[IHateBeingaMan]

to each their own, this has always been and always will be a controversial topic of discussion, there are always going to be tons of people out there that are either for it or against it, but thats why i feel under certain circumstances, there is nothing wrong with a guy going to a sex worker or paying for sex, but like i said, to each their own

[MJtheCoach]

There’s a couple issues with you usually guys that are young because the high testosterone and because you don’t have a lot of experience with a woman you come across needy and very horny and I think you throw yourself a girls which actually turns off girls oh boy I can’t tell you how many attractive girls I lost because I wanted them way too bad. That’s life you’re going to learn and you’re going to fail and you’re gonna look back part of the progress.

[Tstrbrainer]

If you go on looking for casual sex, forget the pure girlfriend

[Anonymous]

what do you have to offer? You want them young, in their sexual prime, virgins, but you're ugly and short... so how much money you got? You're literally no different from the girls with impossible dating standards. You can want those things all you want, doesn't mean you deserve them. I can understand wanting a virgin, I can understand wanting a younger girl. Expecting a younger girl to have the mental capacity of a fully, mentally, developed woman? Very unrealistic.

And so far you've only listed superficial traits. I don't want a promiscuous woman but I'm not expecting a virgin either. That's just a huge bonus if she is one and I'd be trying harder to get with her for it. But not at the expense of total naivety. You're not the best looking, so dont expect the best looking. You're short, don't expect all the girls to want you if you're short just like you won't accept a fat chick. They met your criteria but obviously you didn't meet their's. Work on yourself first or basically... die alone with those expectations.

[Anonymous]

No unless you pay for it of course

[Anonymous]

Just pay someone for sex but if you start doing that, you’ll never be able to land the girl of you dreams with no past blablabla she’s not gonna want someone who’s not held onto the same standards as her

[Inthecraphole]

Well if I hold off, do you think I will be able to find a woman that has never had a boyfriend or first love?

[Opinion Owner]

For sure, the problem is not you finding one tho (you’ve found two already) but it’s whether or not they like you back lol so better work on improving yourself like your confidence, style, looks, income etc

[Anonymous]

I'm on a dry spell as well too and I've considered going to an escort just to break the dry spell, even if it means paying for it.

[Inthecraphole]

How can I acquire an escort? I don't even know how to get that.