Sexual Relationships
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Will I regret loosing my virginity?

Basically i’m female in my early 20’s and have never been in a relationship, not because men don’t approach me but honestly it’s more my fault (working on it), lately i’ve been thinking a lot about when I’ll be able to have a relationship or when will I loose my virginity since I have no experience at all. Like normal I have curiosity and my body has natural urges. there's this one guy I like and we’ve talked a bit, it doesn’t look like he wants something serious so I’ve been debating on whether to propose something casual to him, I just don’t know how much of a good idea might be having sex for the first time w a one night stand or casual sex. Virginity isn’t that big of a deal to me (like i don’t think it should be something special or to wait for my wedding night) but at the same time I don’t know if I should choose being patient and waiting for a potential partner. I know this is stupid and some may say it’s my body but I also think about how future partners might feel about my sexual history.
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  • I share your attitude... "Virginity isn’t that big of a deal to me (like i don’t think it should be something special or to wait for my wedding night)."

    I place zero value on virginity. What's so great about never having sex?

    It sounds like you would like to experience sex and become a woman, but you are wondering if that will "lower your value" in the eyes of future partners. Am I right?

    It's true that some guys harp about "body count" and have old-fashioned patriarchal attitudes toward women. But I disagree with them. I think it's an immature and misogynistic attitude.

    I can't imagine why someone would place value on NOT experiencing life. You are supposed to enjoy your body.

    I would guess that most guys appreciate women with strong libidos and experience.

    So I'd advise you to do what YOU want. Once you have experience, sex can be transcendent. It's better than tasting amazing food for the very first time or going to Disneyland as a kid. It's one of the best things about adulthood. I doubt if anyone at the end their life is glad that they didn't have amazing sex when they were young.

    Some people like to indulge in fantasies and extreme experiences. And that's fine. But if you want to preserve your status as a potential partner, it's best not be promiscuous and have lots of casual sex.

    I would advise sex with committed partners. Boyfriends and girlfriends have sex. And most people have been in relationships before. Plus, when two people are infatuated with each other, the sex is the best. You can't get enough of each other and you give yourselves completely.

    Those kinds of relationships indicate that you are physically healthy and mentally mature.

    Few relationships when you are young last. Most people have been in several. Having boyfriends is how you search for the one person you can spend the rest of your life with. But instead of being failures those relationships growing experiences. They help you to learn and mature while having fun and enjoying life to the max.

    Most people have sex for the first time in their teens. The older a person is, the more likely it is that they've had sex. So being sexually experienced is the norm.

    My advice is to ignore the small percentage of guys who want a virgin or who think that women who enjoy sex are "used goods". Those guys aren't worth a second thought. I imagine that they are insecure and boring in bed.

    I, personally, don't think there is anything wrong with losing your V card to a friend, even if it's just a one time thing. All I would hope is that the guy has the experience to make your first time pleasurable. He needs to be sensual, gentle, and attuned to your experience with lots of foreplay.

    Once you are ready to become sexual, the only other thing I would advise is getting on the pill or some other form of contraception. Be in control of your own body and don't rely on condoms.

    I had girlfriends from the time I was 16. None of them were virgins and all were on the pill. They were all good girls with healthy values, hopes and dreams. They weren't slutty or promiscuous, but they did love sex with a partner. They all wound up married with children eventually.

    For what it's worth, I hope this perspective is helpful.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Honestly. If you want to know my view. Keep it until marriage. It will be more special for both you and your future husband.


    Don’t just let any dude put his wiener in you. Because good men don’t like degenerate sluts and men who sleep around is the only kind of men you will get.


    Especially if a man wants sex on the first date. DUMP him

Most Helpful Girls

  • I've never understood those who want to lose their virginity to someone casual. Just sounds like it wouldn't be great that way. It's the best when you actually have the comfort from that person you trust and care about, and that you can continue to explore together instead of just... being left alone afterwards.
    But that might just be me.
    Follow your own gut and what your wwould feel best about.

  • Yes, it's a pretty sure thing that you will regret it in one way or another and for one reason or another. Sex life with a permanent partner is fairly important, and first impressions are extremely important. A good way to make your sex life with a permanent partner more difficult than it should be is to pick up bad habits and a bad mindset from casual encounters.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • It’s your life but keep in mind you always will remember your first time. If a guy is truly into you tho, the lack of experience isn’t gonna bother him.

  • Don't do casual I'm sure you will regret it, especially for your first time.

  • Do you want to start off your sex life on the wrong foot? casual is slutty and you a virgin.

  • Losing it will be a blessing, because you will never again have to think about it.

    And waiting until marriage is a huge mistake. I know a woman who waited, and her reward was to not have an orgasm in 20 years.

    • @Revvl6pro interesting.

    • @MasterKS Her asking this question proves my point. The woman who waited for marriage, married a guy who thought only whores liked sex. Once her daughter was killed in an accident, the wife dumped her loser husband.

    • @Revvl6pro sad to hear.

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  • I would raise the bar a bit. First timers should be strongly fond of each other. Casual contact can lead to disappointment. Even if he doesn't last, you want a fond memory when you're 70.

  • Save for the right person and right time. That way, when you look back on it later in life, you'll be able to wear it as a badge of honor than one of regret.

  • Virginity may not be a big deal but first se* of life defntly is
    You are going to hear virginity a your life and everytime you will remember your first se* and will remember events realted with it.
    So if you happen to create good memories you will always smile remembering thm and if you create bad you will always regret.

    So from my side, you should go for emotional bond or one night stand, the most imp thing is trust and your enjoyment.

  • may be if he is not the right one?

  • Those who mind that you're a virgin when they date you don't matter. They're not the type of guys you should be with. Of course, people will have preferences, but anyone who refuses to date you because you're a 20+ virgin isn't someone you should date. My girlfriend was a 32-year-old virgin when we started dating.

  • 90% of females and their first time it is never good due to it hurting and breaking the hymen so most women regret their first time whoever it's with.

    Don't worry about the thought of future partners and what they think. I think the best thing to do is find some you feel safe with, who will take it slow on your first time, someone you feel comfortable with

  • 100%..
    save ur virginity for serious guy or for ur husband

  • What makes you think you will

  • Not if it’s a positive experience. If you’re bullied, peer pressured then sure. But I’d get to know the dude.

  • Neah it is just a brainwashing thing, I do hope it will be pleasurable for you

  • I regret loosing my virginity before marriage.

  • LMFAOO. “I also think about how future partners might feel about my sexual history.” Im sorry but women like you are what is wrong with this laughable society. All of you dogs which includes the men go into relationships expecting it to be some cancel anytime membership. Imagine going into something and expecting it to last a couple days 🤦🏻🤣. You seem like you want instant gratification and not longevity. Furthermore, it seems like your planning on banging 10 dudes after this one. You lack maturity and are not fit to be in a relationship let alone maintain one. Come back and ask this again once you know what it actually means to be in one. If I were you I’d do what the rest of the dogs are doing and hookup for that instant gratification and move on to the next. If you ever feel insecure then just hide the fact that you banged multiple people.

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