Will my boyfriend forgive me for cheating if I told him?

My boyfriend's best friend and I traveled together to my grandparents because my grandmother's sick. We stayed there for few weeks and we got really close each other, and one night he was like screw it and he kissed me passionately. Honestly I didn't resist and we ended up sleeping together. Now that we are back he said that my boyfriend needs to know what happened because it's not right. I know he loves me long ago but I don't want to lose my boyfriend and afraid of telling him.
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  • The guilt of holding in a secret like that won't do you or your boyfriend any service in the long run, especially if his best friend says it first. If you really cared for him, you'd confess what you did as soon as you could, then let him decide how he wants to handle this. Personally if you could, I'd get your boyfriend's best friend to apologize too since cheating is nothing to be taken lightly, especially when it's such a relationship breaker. It's never easy to confess the truth and it's even harder when you have to live with a lie, especially if someone else might spill the beans creating even more trouble. You got this! Just be honest and straight-forward about how you feel and apologize. Hopefully your boyfriend will forgive you and if not, let this be a lesson you'll learn for future years to come.

  • Nope, he won't ever forgive you, he might try saying he will forgive you but it never works. The idea you cheated on him, will always popup in all your future fights with him. Best is to not tell him. Or just admit it and end it, and get his friend which you just had sex with, be your new boyfriend. There will be drama... no way around it.

    • I love my boyfriend.

    • You just shattered all his trust in you, the moment he finds out you cheated on him, even if he will accept it and try make it work, he will always have a little doubt in his back of his head saying "she did cheat". So you can lie to yourself, that you love him, which i doubt you do, you might confuse love, to admiration. Truly loving somebody means you will do anything for them to be happy, even if that means you are not part of their life anymore.

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  • you should tell him. its not ok if you dont, and itll hurt him more when he finds out from someone else, cuz he will. If he decides he doesn't want to date you anymore, its his choice and you kinda have to deal with it

  • If you didn't want to lose your boyfriend, you wouldn't have cheated in the first place. 🤦🤦

    • Why everyone's blaming me and not his friend?

    • His friend didn't make the commitment to remain faithful - you did. Yes, his friend is also a jerk - and if I was your boyfriend, I'd kick both of you to the curb. But you were the one who got into the relationship presumably with the understanding that you'd be monogamous. You could have told the friend "no" and stopped it, but you didn't, because you didn't want to. You need to own up to that.

    • You both fucked up. A) you're the one with a partner not him. B ) you're the asshole who's even thinking of not telling YOUR boyfriend while the friend is. C) your excuses are shit and selfish. D) you're the cheating bitch who's asking. So yeah, you're going to get hate. Because cheating is one of the WORST things to do to somebody you supposedly "love". Cue the damn eye roll at a whores words.

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  • He might or he might not. Can't blame him if he doesn't. The only way you'll know is if you come clean.

  • Don't say a Word Here, dear. He may Become, hun, As Sick As... My Grandmother's Sick.
    Talk to this Guy and Try and make him See, That if he Dumps You, Your hunny, Will also Dump HE. xxoo

  • If you didn't want to lose him, you shouldn't have cheated on him. Pretty simple logic.

    Tell him, so that he can dump you, and find someone else.

  • I'm betting your boyfriends friend is looking to tell him, not only to unburden himself but so that you two will break up and thinks he can get you easier. he's being manipulative. You chose to shit where you eat and now your boyfriend is going to be hurt. Learn from this. The longer he doesn't know, the bigger fool he's going to feel. Everything after you cheated is a lie, until he knows.

    • This is what I think too.

    • @desidoll Thanks doll.

    • "Everything after you cheated is a lie, until he knows" and what if I asked him and he denied?

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  • Don't be a shot tell him and give him the choice hate people like you and his "friend" such a fucking betrayal

    • It's not like i planned it to happen.

    • Like that matters

    • If u loved him you would tell him and not be asking if u should

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  • Doesn't matter, if you don't tell him his "friend" will. You deserve to lose him regardless.

    • I love him

    • LMAO she has the audacity to say "I love him" after banging his best friend. If that's not a hoe I don't know what is.

    • @asker you don't love him, you don't know what love or respect or loyalty is.

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  • Why did you take a trip with your partners best friend I mean that’s a bit bizarre.

    • I didn't take a trip with my parents, my boyfriend wanted to go with me but he couldn't. He worry too much about me that's why he asked his friend to go with me

    • Bit odd for him to even suggest that, I mean I’d be more worried that my partner was going away with my best friend (female) the trip itself wouldn’t phase me. Anyway, I’d just tell him as it was a shitty thing to do and he deserves to know.

    • I feel awful for him as not only his so called best friend but his lover had been dishonest, awfully sad for him.

  • Probably not

  • Keep your mouth shut if you want to keep the relationship.
    If you need closure and your bf's going to blab his big mouth anyway your boyfriend is best hearing it first from you. You'll probably end up breaking though, unless he's into that kind of stuff.

    • His friend's planning on telling him. It's not going to be easy for us.

  • Tell him and let him decide if he wants to forgive you or not.

  • "My boyfriend's best friend and I "
    This is freaking awful
    You did such a horrible act, now the important thing do you feel guilty?
    And do you still love your boyfriend , or you just fell for his best friend, or should i say his ex best friend?

  • Tell him the truth. You know what you did was wrong, let him know. If you lose him, that's life.

  • He will find out and no he won't forgive you and thats how it should be.
    He deserves better.

  • Sounds like his best friend is a bit of a dick for making a move on you

  • You screwed up.

  • The chance he will forgive you slim to none. It is something you did and you need to keep it to yourself.

  • İf you love your boyfriend why you did it?

    • Just happened.. I don't know if he didn't kiss me none of this would happen

    • That's not excuse.

  • U need to tell him own up face the consequences if you truly loved your boyfriend you would have not have cheated don't blame anyone but yourself ! If he will forgive you probably not you don't cheat on people you love

  • My girlfriend did something similar to that I forgave her for it

  • You are a Bitch, and the friend is an asshole, your boyfriend is too good for both of you, so tell him so he can get rid of both you.

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