Will my dominant think I’m a whore or not want me if I’ve been fingered (no orgasm)?

I’m 19 and a virgin. I want my firsts to be with a Dominant that I can devote myself to. But I’m afraid a dominant won’t want me as their sub.
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  • Nope.

    it’s got nothing about previous in regards to D/s.

    In fact a lot (if not majority) would not be comfortable with a virgin.

    As someone that has owned subs, it’s not a persons history but their present, how they are physically and emotionally.

    then of course Trust is the key part of this lifestyle.

    I would advise against any Dom that looks negatively against your sexual history or sexuality, to me that a red flag in regards to D/s relationship.

    for me your knowledge and experience of the lifestyle would be far more important, how much you would need trained, before a collar was even considered.

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  • As Chris said below, a dom would have no issue with your experience, if anything they would feel more comfortable with someone who is already experienced, has knowledge of the dynamic and understands their own desires, needs and boundaries.

    You can't fully trust another person if you don't even know what sex does for you psychologically.
    "Reading" about it somewhere cannot ever replace first hand experience.

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  • Let me explain something to you. Before you decide the whole dom/sub thing with someone, you first pick the person to be with. Not the other way around.

    • Yeah I think I didn’t articulate well. I’m definitely not saying I’d pick someone just based on that. I’ve been in a really serious committed relationship before, and I found that despite being hesitant to engage physically I was more than attracted to my partner being dominant just sexually. I found that I liked my partner to be dominant as a partner, someone I can trust to fall back on and let them take decisions for me (again not COMPLETELY). So I think it’s more than likely that if I’m seriously interested in someone again it’ll probably be someone who is inherently dominant in their nature, hence my question.

  • No, and don't tell him anyway.

  • there's worse out there so i think you'll be fine

  • Seems like maybe you need a shrink. You're barely past childhood and already getting weird. Who's filling your head with this bullshit?

  • 👍 your probably fine.

  • There is much worse out there, there's nothing wrong with you.

    • Wdym much worse?

  • Just be patient and the right one will come along.

  • I think you watched porn
    Dominant and category lot
    I think you are really horny as well as scared

    • Interesting analysis but sadly no, porn scares me😂 I just found what I liked and leaned towards after being with someone. Just realised I liked having someone be in control in general :)

  • Depends did the fingering broke your hymen? If so then you are considered to have lost your virginity in some culture or to some people, but according to Wikipedia you're still a virgin as you only lose your virginity with sexual intercourse which you haven't experienced yet. So according to Wikipedia you're still a virgin.
    According to me you're no virgin if your hymen is broken.

    • It definitely did not. It was barely fingering to be honest. My clothes were all still on and apart from a little bit of penetration nothing really happened. Disappointing to say the least.

    • Well then you're definitely a virgin. Don't worry about a thing you're brand new.