Will teasing my boyfriend work when he's sad?

I mean teasing like, making him horny or aroused so that we can have sex, or should I just leave him alone? He cried because he told me he's having financial problems. If this doesn't work, what should I do?
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  • Depends, obviously it could help, guys rarely will turn down sex and such sexual activity’s, but if he declines it or pushes away when you try to initiate, don’t continue cuz it won’t help, getting sucked on does help most of the time I’d say, cuz us guys love it, but it’s not a fix to the problem it just masks it but every situation is different, a few times when I’ve been down my girlfriends have tried to lighten my mood with stripping naked for me or letting me strip them naked or playing with my dick and a Bj, not much tho has it really helped, it just is nice for the moment

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  • Let him take you in a position or scenario where you're submissive to him.

    You can't fix his finances. But you can let him feel powerful for a bit, even if only in the bedroom.

    And lots of aftercare too. Massage him, shower him with kisses, tell him he's your perfect man, etc.

    • Although I'd also say, you shouldn't start doing anything totally out of character, because if your behavior changes overnight (even with good intentions), he might wander if you're taking pity. The point isn't that he needs your pity. He doesn't. The point is that you want him to feel like the powerful, capable man that YOU KNOW he is. When men have financial troubles, it can wipe out our serotonin and testosterone levels, leaving us feeling like an animal that just survived a vicious attack in the wild. So we need to be reminded of our own power (in a healthy way, preferably, not via unhealthy means like crime or violence!) in order to get back to our old selves.

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  • It really depends kn the guy. Try it and if he doesn't like it, then just try to comfort him by cuddling him or something and talk with him about stuff.

  • Try to support him through his financial problems.

  • Can do

  • Not in this situation , it may have the reverse effect. Give him some support , and a bit of space if needed.

  • Hold him until he feels better. Tease afterwards

  • If your going to follow through and screw him after the teasing ends, then its all good in my book.

  • Give it a shot.. can't hurt

  • It might, it depends on his mood really. If you're going to give it a shot, don't take it personal if it doesn't work; he may not be in the right headspace. It's sweet of you to try and cheer him up though, it's very caring.

  • probably not

  • Yes, sex is the ultimate anti-depressant. But as a depressive, it’s very clinically cured with mild meds.

  • its gonna sound weird given the topic, but will work, hug him..., don't say a word about the problem, only tender things. keep him hugged. believe me, we need a huge amounts of hugs, but we do not receive enough. please try this...

  • Depends on how much of your brain does not think of sex in such situations.

  • have you tried a blow job?

  • Yes it generally does.

  • Generally not.

  • I wouldn't try to force it or tease him to get him into the mood.

    You've got to be careful with how you handle it as previously I've teased a girl to get her in the mood, gone through with it and the next day she called me out claiming that by teasing her into the mood I took advantage.

    You also dont want to give the impression you care more about sex than his wellbeing.