Will this count as cheating?

I agreed on hooking up with a guy who used to love me 6 years back but now has no such feelings. Ground rules were simple, no strings attached. Apart from kiss, nothing much happened.

But then he became possessive of my body and asked me to never have sex with anyone but him.

So I never hooked with him.

But when he came to know I booked a hooker for a threesome he became angry and upset and stopped talking to me.

He acts betrayed and hurt (he communicated that part with me)

It is normal for flings in such situations to never hookup again but acting betrayed is unacceptable.

Is hooking up with others considered cheating in friends with benefits?

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  • It just depends on the agreement with you and your FWB’s? Me personally won’t be FWB’s with a girl if she is screwing other guys just like I don’t screw other girl’s , When I am in a FWB’s relationship , We both agree if we meet someone else that we will drop the benefits part and just remain friends , So if this wasn’t addressed in the beginning of your FWB’s then no it isn’t cheating , that’s something that should of been discussed in the beginning. FWB’s in my option is good as long as you are both on the same page as things , If you aren’t on the same page it will not work out because one usually catches more feelings for the other without realizing it , if he did t want you seeing anyone else then he should of committed to you and ended the FWB’s

    • why do you expect the other person to not screw others in a no strings. Provided they aren't passing onn any diseases. And will you at any point be possessive of their mind

    • I mean possessive of their body and act as jerk

    • Yes I don’t want to catch STD’s and think it’s dirty for people to have multiple partners to be honest , I Like FWB’s so both of us aren’t rushing into a relationship , gives us time to really get to know each other to see if we can make it for the long haul , I don’t just have sex with a girl for the hell of it , not how I am

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  • All of this hinges on whether you and/or he were in an agreed exclusive relationship. If you were not, neither of you had any claim to limited access.

Most Helpful Girls

  • You aren't in a relationship with him or are you married to him so no it's not cheating

  • A guy that used to love you?
    How did that matter disolve in the past?

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  • It is not cheating as you did not agree on sexual exclusivity with him.

    From his side he declared that he does not want you to have sex with others, but that counts nothing as long as you do not accept.

  • How in the world did he find out you booked a hooker?

  • Hoist the red flag and RUN

  • Pretty much yes but might depend on how both of you feel aboutvit

  • No, that is not considered cheating.

  • Just sounds like you used him hun

  • I think friends with benefits is all good if it’s just you two, but if u have sex with another person ur friends with benefits needs to know so they can decide whether or not to continue

    • ain't friends with benefits and fling all the more same. A casual hookup

  • Yeah

  • So are you going to do it again? Cause once or twice it'll count as cheating. Not about how many times you do. Also do you have feelings for him yet?

    • I do have feelings but not planning to become exclusive as of now. However we are just hookups/flings

    • Than why did you breakup? 😂

    • It wasn't breakup. It was hookup

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  • Nooo not cheating
    He may be love u thats why

  • Yeah so while I don't know the full deets, it sounds to me like he caught feelings.

    It can be extremely brutal for a guy to fall in love with someone that desires him as a friend, the best bet--if you at all care about other human beings--is to cut a friend of a friends with benefits off quickly, if ever a situation like that arises again; they catch feelings and start getting territorial over you.

    If you use them as an ego boost you're potentially stirring him up to never approach a girl again--I know it seems extreme but it happens, and when a guy doesn't make the first move, unless he's got the face of a doll or the body of a greek God chances are, he'll die alone.

    Guys are not tougher than you--in fact, because we're all on varying scale, you will meet guys that are more sensitive or put in more generous terms--feel more intensely--than you do, it's a statistical guarantee. Don't let the shell fool you--it's just another soul--just one with a penis on their body.