Guys, Woke up to boyfriend watching shemale porn several times.. is he gay?

My boyfriend and I have had some issues recently. I have found him watching porn many times. To be clear my boyfriend has told me specifically that he doesn'tt need sex and that porn was here before i was so he would not stop watching even if It bothered me. I explained how it made me feel and how i wanted to know why he constantly would rather watch porn than have sex. He would reply with the bed is uncomfortable and having sex is too much work.. its easier to masturbate. When He said this i felt very hurt and not attractive at all.. which up until recently i was confident in my looks. .. now i find that he watches shemale masturbation to completion.. He has asked me many times if I'dd be with a man who was gay and if i would still love him.. i replied with Im sorry but i don'tt want to be with a man that is bi or gay because that is not something i can live with.. Is my boyfriend gay.. and should I openly ask if he is? I know he has a porn addiction but if he's gay im just hurting myself and lying to both of us if i stay. And honestly our sex life is terrible and lazy.. I've never felt so neglected.. we have had infidelity issues in the past and are currently trying to heal our relationship.. Its been very difficult for me to trust him even now And before anyone says anything.. i have tried to watch other non secrete porn types with him and even give him oral while he watches.. hell i give hime release several times a day but im lucky if i climax 3 times a week.. i have gotten to the point where i can'tt climax as easily anymore. I feel like a used toy and not an equal partner. Please help me what do i do.. i love him more than anything and it breaks my heart every time im overlooked.
Thank you and please be honest.
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  • i think he might be gay or have some kind of weird disturbing fetish, i ain't ganna judge but honestly dont expect anything to change unless he wants to change and work on his addiction which really doesn't seem like he wants too, he doesn't appreciate his girlfriend either, not with just sex but your company he just wants to sit there and watch porn, talking it out didn't seem to work, i see you care about him but i honestly dont think you should stick around and be in such a unhapoy relationship if he isn't willing to change for you for a thing like a porn addiction then trusting him with something more important like with your future kids lives is far off the picture, the choice is yours weither you wanna leave or stay or maybe try and convince him to change his addiction, of course if he is bi or gay you would have to accept it if you are ganna be with him

  • He's not gay based on that. I'm seeing more and more of that genre so it just seems to be a thing.

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  • Definitely a fag that’s addicted to porn

  • Damn. I wonder if he ever slows down realizes that he's hurting you... Personally... I think he doesn't

  • Probably wishes you had a cock of your own

  • He could be, some guys like the 🍆

  • This is a grey area. Porn addiction leads to more extreme types of porn. Hard cock provides a visual state of arousal.
    A shemale can look like a women but also have this visual state of arousal. This is needed in a stage 3 or 4 addiction.

    It can develop into trying to seek the same thing in real life.

  • Sometimes people get tired of "normal" and want to see something weird. I mean, who would want to watch a movie about their everyday life?

  • No.. He is just kinky

  • He has some issues. Don't know why if he's straight would he be looking at cocks

  • I don’t know but I’d dump him if I were you. If he isn’t interested in you, no reason to waste your time on him and stick around.

  • Get him a boyfriend and you can do threesomes.

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