So a lot of you guys are always worried or wondering if women are ever into you or want to know about you, and the answer is Yes, they do. But there is a catch: it may not always be in the way you would want or expect from them.
It’s not always romantic
It’s important for men to know this one. Believe it or not, sometimes women can appear to like you in a romantic way but aren’t necessarily interested in you like that, they just find you interesting and think you’re a cool guy, and this is perfectly fine. They aren't required to love you just because you're a cool guy. Women, in my opinion, tend to have more curiosity about a person than men do. Even if it’s other women.
I think it’s something in the female mind where they have some kind of appetite for knowledge/information about other people, which is why so many women tend to play detective or do reconn on others. I can say that as a man I too have more of this kind of curiosity in a woman as well. Most men only start being deeply curious about a woman if they are strongly attracted to her. I don’t have to be in order to want to know about them.
So even if you don’t think so, and even if they pretend you’re not that important at school, work, etc., women are still looking at your social media if they know you have it, browsing through your posts, sometimes even combing through your followers, reading what you write or what you made as a caption to a photo, taking note of who you mention, and even reading through your hashtags. They may not always look at your stories (unless they use a third party site that let’s you view stories anonymously) because then you will know they’re watching you.
So instead they are silently observing and think you have no idea. And you might not. They might think you’re a cool guy and they love all your posts or comments but they never say it, never speak to you, and maybe never even follow you. They just want to observe and like you in silence. It even happens here on GaG.
Sometimes it’s to try to humiliate you
Again, this interest females have isn’t just with men, they do it to other females they know as well. And it isn’t always for good reasons either. You have women who are silently studying you or others and what they do online not because they think you’re cool but because they don’t like you and are being messy and adversarial. They want to gather as much info about you as they can so they can try to anonymously exploit you.
I had a case like this some years ago. It was a girl who was related to someone else I met online at the time, and we fell apart, so the girl decided she would try to anonymously harass me with information about me and even photos of me, and also post them on an open forum. At the time I had no idea who it was, until something clicked and I figured her out. To make a long story short, I messaged the girl on Facebook with screenshots of her anonymous messages and she shit herself. She got back to me in minutes and admitted it was her, saying she was sorry, and said how stupid it was. She was just scared and ashamed that she got found out, a terribly overweight girl with a perpetual sneer on her very unattractive face in all her Facebook photos. Clearly not happy with herself or maybe even her life.
Women who do this - and I’ve been met by some on Instagram as well with blank profiles - are sad to spend that much time studying people they hate or dislike just because they made a comment they didn’t like or deep down they knew they identified with it and hated the truth, which is almost always the reason why they try to be anonymous cowards in confronting you.
Girls will often act uninterested when they are into you
But when a girl does like you in a romantic way, it is a very common thing for many to actually act as if they are uninterested in you, and they really don’t realize just how much they give themselves away by doing this. Many girls will say, “If she’s acting uninterested, it’s because she is,” which can be true, but they’re not looking at the broader picture of the situation.
Often times when a woman likes a guy, he will be the only person she won’t speak to or look at in a group setting, or even when they’re alone. And the guy has usually never interacted with her enough for her to have any reason to dislike him or not speak to him as some women would want you to think. In so many of these cases, it’s because the girl is attracted and feels shy around him, so she can’t or won’t speak. She will also still watch him when she thinks he doesn’t know it, and she’ll try to put on a quick frown or look away fast if he looks right her way. They don’t realize how ridiculous this is and that the guy is picking up on everything. This is why guys ask if a girl likes him from these indicators, not like girls who think it means a guy likes them simply because he said “hello.”
Other funny indicators
Sometimes women can do other strange things when they are interested in a guy. One common one is if she always seems to start talking louder when you’re around, and I’ve experienced that one more than once myself. Women are just more excitable and can really show it, sometimes they can’t even control it, which I also think is linked to the female orgasm and the way the clitoris and a woman’s body becomes extremely excited at climax, hips rising, giving out moans or hollers, or squirting her brains out everywhere repeatedly. This same excitability exists when they see or are around a guy they’re really into, which is very cute and very curious to observe.
Another one is that she’s always trying to be near you or hover around your general area more than once, yet not talking to you but still grabbing peeks at you. Other cases are when she actually does talk to you but it’s small talk where she gets really goofy or awkward because she can’t help that she’s into you and she wants to have a conversation but isn't really sure how. You’ll know if it’s only about you because if there are others around she will talk to them just fine. But with you she’s turning into melted ice cream all over the place.
Sometimes it can even be a combination of behaviors, acting uninterested in you yet still talking louder when you’re around, acting uninterested but still trying to be near you, etc.
Just pay attention
Like I tell a lot of guys: always pay attention to what a woman does much more than what she says. The way she acts, things she does, etc. always say a lot more about her than her words. This is because a woman often says things she thinks someone wants to hear, is scared of being honest, or even because she thinks it’s what she’s supposed to say, when her thoughts and actions are the total opposite.
And this applies to trying to figure out if she’s into you or not. Take note of things you notice in how she acts, and like I always keep telling guys: especially the way she is behaving with you vs. with others, and also the way she behaves with you when others are around. This is very crucial knowledge and you will rarely go wrong with it.
Namaste, and good luck.
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