Women, do you prefer a man with sexual experience or no sexual experience or?

[YosiEl]

[_Maya_]

Doesn't matter to me. As long as he or she doesn't have anything I'm okay with experience or no experience. I'd like to know before if the person has no experience since first times are pretty special. I'd try to make sure it was special for them if it was their first. I look at it like this... we were all there once with no experience. So why would I turn away someone that was a virgin? I was one too at one point.

[YosiEl]

Very reasonable

[Light_beam]

wow.. you are being so nice.. but how would you make it special for him? just curious here

[Pacquet]

I think women tend inundate themselves with feeling responsible for a man's experience or lack of. What you said sounds nice but women aren't typically attracted to inexperience because they're looking to be lead or in other words "swept off their feet". The "special" part of sex for most guys is that it's happening to begin with.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't matter and let me tell you why.

Someone asked a similar question I had an answer for. He asked if women do not want to have sex with a guy who never had a date before.

Most of the girls said "it doesn't matter if he never had a date before."

But what you don't realize is that the girls are not thinking of a nerdy socially awkward weirdo, even though those are the only guys who never had a date.

The girls are imagining an attractive guy with social skills who isn't a weirdo.

So no, sexual experience doesn't matter for women.

What matters is that the guy is normal and fun and socially aware and adept.

It's just that we all know that the guys who lack dates and lack sexual experience, are the guys who are awkward, strange, socially inept, and so on and so on.

It's not a bad thing to lack sexual experience. It's a bad thing to lack social skills and self awareness like a good chunk of men do.

[cunnilinguist]

"It's a bad thing to lack social skills." Says who? You sound like you're proclaiming a universal truth. You can't use that as a one size fits all statement like that. Hunters in the taiga tend lacks social skills. Yet they have a wife, a family, and they tend to be happier than the average westerner. Their divorce rate is sure nowhere near 50%. It would be unthinkable for their women to leave them because "they lack social skills". If they have company and he stays quiet... he is accepted. Like he should be. "Lacking social skills" is not bad. Not accepting someone because they lack them and denying your love and respect from them is bad.

[AviatorTom]

I know this question is aimed at girls, but let me give you a guy's opinion.

It really doesn't matter.

If he's experienced and she's not, he can teach her.

If she's experienced and he's not, she can teach him.

If they are both experienced, they can teach each other.

Anyway, it can be a lot of fun.

[MrNameless]

I think girls are less likely to want to teach guys. Men are kinda expected to have experience and take the lead, unless they're both virgins

[BoopBoopBeep]

Plus, as I said to a retired O-6 one time that got mad when someone much younger than him turned out to be his senior rater, "just because you've done it a while doesn't mean you're any good at it"

[BoopBoopBeep]

crap that was supposed to be @aviatortom

[chrissykerdock]

if a guy got an erection experience or no experience the 1st experience would be to put it in my mouth and give him a blowjob... from there other things would happen... so you don't need to be a guy who had a 100 women... the best blowjob experiences i had were with guys who were most excited by me sucking their penises... not so much oh here we go again... i mention blowjobs because that would be the 1st intimate step with me... i like giving a good blowjob then kissing fondling getting felt up etc... all those things a guy without experience can catch on to rather fast... i like a guy who enjoys caressing my thighs... who wants to kiss my boobs and lick them... experience to me doesn't matter at all.

[aCrazyPassionate]

wtf XD

[Paul_in_Indy]

I have NEVER gone into a blowjob thinking “here we go, again!” I am excited like a 14r year old boy every single time!

[Julie_TS]

Mehhh... it doesn't really matter. No experience might be fun, I don't know? And, sometimes not all experience equates to good, well rounded experience.

#gowiththeflow #takeitasitcomes (pun fully intended)

[Drooogie4]

It doesn't matter. So long as me being "more experienced" isn't held against me at some point

[Light_beam]

are you more experienced?

[smashleyy]

sexual experience

[Sour-rose]

Couldn't care, as long as he doesn't waste my time and keeps up with my life.

[Apple1996]

I prefer a man with no experience. I don't like men that have been inside other women. That's just disgusting and I could never have sex with them. It's a ick thing for me 🤮

[Shamalien]

Never say never 😛

[Apple1996]

@Shamalien nah its definitely never. My ocd/anxiety doesn't like dirty men so unless I get on meds I don't ever see that changing

[mandyfire98]

Sexual experience

[electromagnetic]

I want to say I don’t care but that would be a lie. I think even a little experience is better than none.

[Losalt]

Pretty much my sentiment.

[FreyaRed]

Dedication is important and this can't be learned. Technique is easily to learn if the motivation is there

[Light_beam]

lol, looks like an expert here!

[Stressyalaire]

I prefer a man who I really get along with. It doesn't matter if you know what you're doing or not, we're going to fuck.

[Justmeagain1]

I don’t think it really matters , but more so if they treat you right. Everything can be learnt, early or given in this instance.

[thatshydork]

So long as they don’t care about my experience (or lack there of), why should I care about theirs? As long as they’re remaining loyal to me for the duration of the relationship, why should I care about how many they’ve had sex with?

[Jemini_Crocket]

No preference. Both is fine with me.

[MikeTheBartender]

I am fairly surprised how many females actually said no sexual experience.

[Drumlin2001]

Whilst I understand the preference for someone with experience, I wouldn't rule out someone with none.
I was a 35 yr virgin, never even had a kiss. Over the space of a weekend, I had my first kiss, lost my virginity and she'd had multiple orgasms. It may take some patience but people may surprise you

[haiuyu]

If he's had a lot of sexual partners, it's gonna be hard to have sex with him. What if he got STD? Haha

[Light_beam]

so are you a virgin yourself?

[haiuyu]

@Light_beam No

[Light_beam]

what if you had an STD

[haiuyu]

I'm not a virgin, no. But I had 2 sexual partners only. And I have been tested. so there

[Light_beam]

well, what is the number of sexual partners you consider too high?

[Reem12345reem]

It does matter , if he's more experienced he can give me better orgasms and great sex leads to better connection

[Alexz0]

As much experience as possible.

[nastyb]

i prefer a guy who is sexually experienced but not a man whore.

[Nikki1989]

Why would anyone want someone with no sexual experience?

That is like getting into a car with someone who doesn't know how to drive.

[YosiEl]

Loll. I'd say a lot of men are attracted to women with no sexual experience. Generally men tend to initiate relationships or sex so it makes sense that they would need experience but girls wouldn't need as much if not initiating or taking the lead.

[YosiEl]

Does your response mean you see the man as the driver of that car?

[Sasha0426]

I’m 30 with no experience. Honestly, I expect no guy to accept me.

[Nighthawk_10]

@Sasha0426 You don't have to be experienced. You just have to find the right one.

[MrNameless]

@Sasha0426 You just need to work on yourself. It's mostly a confidence thing.

[Sasha0426]

@MrNameless Your confidence will be lowered too if you get told you’re not good enough

[Sasha0426]

You basically lose all hope

[DiegoO]

I had my experience. I never cared that she was virgin, but her insecurities were just to much for me.

[Sasha0426]

@DiegoO That’s because she knows deep down you do care. Even though you say or show you don’t care, in the back of your mind, you’re wishing for someone with more experience. Virgins have to compete with experienced women.

[DiegoO]

@Sasha0426 Well, I really didn't care. I am been honest. Her "virginity" didn't bother me. Her insecurities truly affected my mental state.

[Sasha0426]

@DiegoO Because she knew she wasn’t good enough for you.

[DiegoO]

@Sasha0426 Now and then she told me that, when we were together. Not that she wasn't good enough for me—although that's what she thought—. Her selfsteem is just to low. She didn't needed me, she needed help.

[DiegoO]

Her selsteem was*—hopefully: is* low.

[DiegoO]

Dammit.😆 ****Her selsteem was low—hopefully, is not anymore. I haven't heard from her again.

[Sasha0426]

@DiegoO That’s why people should stick with someone on their level when it comes to sexual experience. I wish men would stop going for virgin women if they’re experienced themselves. It’s just going to cause problems.

[DiegoO]

@Sasha0426 "Virginity" doesn't cause problems. Not been confident enough to believe in yourself and know what you want and with who you want to be, it's by itself a problem. I am not perfect, I hold on tight to my expectations instead of seen things as they were.

[MrNameless]

@Sasha0426 I know it's not easy, and it's not an overnight process. But changing your mindset is the biggest step we can take. Forget what they say. Don't take it to heart. You are good enough! But you can be even better if you work on what you know needs improvement.

[MrNameless]

@Sasha0426 No, I guarantee most guys won't care that you're a virgin. It works in women's favor more then men's.

[William_96]

@Sasha0426 tbh you haven't found the right guy yet i think you are pretty. i'm new on here and tbh i would like to message you but i don't have enough xper to message u first.

[MrNameless]

I think you mean you don't want to teach someone.

[William_96]

@Sasha0426 i'm 27 and i've never done it tbh i'm a christian is why and waiting for marriage. and never put yourself down <3

[collie22]

A guy with non has been going fabulous

[dinojames22]

Why?

[collie22]

@dinojames22 he dose what ever I tell him 😊

[dinojames22]

Nice

[collie22]

@dinojames22 yep

[dinojames22]

And what would you tell me

[dinojames22]

I mean... him