Women, honestly, how do you feel about a man who has been with A LOT of women?

[Anonymous]

My team leader, absolute stud muffin, has been with a lot of women, I mean, A LOT.

We’re bored during our training mission, so we decided to talk about the hottest women we’ve fucked.

Me, another buddy of mine, and our team leader.

TL got us beat by a wide margin.

Not so much hotness of women, rather, numerically.

He shows me hundreds upon hundreds of nudes he has gotten from women, whereas my buddy and I do not have nearly as much nudes.



Personally, my buddy and I are very similar, in that we’re not really the hookup-type or ONS or friends with benefits type of man.

More of a long-term relationship/marriage and/or one woman type of man. Life may not work out that way, but that is the direction we go.


Got me thinking, “How do women feel about this?”

I’m sure some don’t care, but is there a majority that DOES NOT like this?

My TL is a super handsome man, successful too, so would that have any impact on him being with a lot of women to women who do not like manwhores, prostitute men, etc.

[ChrisMaster69]

I appreciate it’s aimed at girls, however there is a thing about trust and respect that really comes in to it here.

pretty much anyone in the military who wants to can fuck around a lot.

Single on say The Red Arrows, hitting various places for Air Displays or 6months in Las Vegas , is wall to wall girls, it’s really hard NOT to pull.

The thing is you try and keep to that trust and respect in place, sort of my word is my bond.

@ninani and @smashingdoozy hit it spot on with the showing pics etc, especially showing them to a new girl lol.

[Asker]

Yeah, I don’t understand why a man would show a new girl he’s seeing the nudes he’s received. Well, I understand it, but it’s one of those unclassy and distasteful things. It may be to show her the capability he has of attracting women so that the woman he’s seeing will be more loyal, will be more attracted to him, won’t flake out on him, etc. It’s not an entirely nonsensical thing to do on PAPER. But, I would never do it, unless we’re talking and she kind of insists to see the nudes I’ve received or the women I’ve fucked. Never had this experience though and most likely never will.

[ChrisMaster69]

A bit like a persons previous history, trying to show yours off is pointless, it’s all about the there and now, nothing else matters. It can very easily come across as bragging and crap. Also most of the time it’s a club or something and it’s a crap chat up line ‘these are girls I’ve shagged’ Really just being open, showing respect, works better. Actual numbers either gender has been with just don’t matter.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Wouldn't be interested... Not just because of the fact he's been with lots and lots of women, bad enough... The fact you said he showed nudes... And exactly why don't send pics like that... People don't have enough respect not to share those pics whether the sender would want them to or not.. And that's just disrespectful to me

[heatherlou]

It doesn't really bother me how many people someone has sex with.
There's nothing wrong with casual sex between consenting adults and I don't believe that just because someone engages in casual sex that that is all they are worth or all they are capable of.

[OlderAndWiser]

I have ever had a woman ask me for my number.

[softlyautumnal]

I think it's gross

[Mortdikeuu]

I'm a borderline and I've had quite a number of men in my time.

Tbh, sex is just a hobby really. Like collecting stamps. So therfore I wouldn't care a jot!

[Apple1996]

I find those type of men disgusting🤮

[Asker]

Ah, you do?

[Apple1996]

Yeah I assume they have/have had a std

[Apple1996]

It's more attractive if a guy is a virgin

[Asker]

Oh, you think so?

[Smashingdoozy]

I honestly don't respect him solely based on the fact he showed you nudes he had been sent in confidence.

[Asker]

So, just that reason?

[Slingblade1126]

A girl got pissed at me once 'cause I deleted her nudes she sent me. Us poor guys just can't get a break!

[Asker]

Don’t women know that men show their buddies their nudes they receive? Im not sure women do it to the same extent that men do, but I’m sure they do it somewhat.

[Smashingdoozy]

No we don't know that. If we did we wouldn't send them. That shits disgusting. We are trusting you with an intimate thing and you're parading it around like it's some prize. Dis-fucking-gusting.

[Asker]

@Smashingdoozy Well, how could you not know this? It’s men we’re talking about. You have a lot of male friends? I’m sure you’ve heard them talk about this

[Smashingdoozy]

My friends don't do this. They have respect for the people they sleep with.

[Asker]

I don’t know about that smashingdoozy lol. They may have respect for them, but that doesn’t mean they won’t occasionally show the nudes they receive to their boys. Maybe you being there may “alter” what they say or talk about because it’s a girl in their group. You know? So, they may naturally mediate or filter what they say without really knowing it because they have a girl in their group. I don’t know your friends, so I’m just guessing.

[Smashingdoozy]

Literally the only thing I can ever think of that comes close is them sharing around a picture of me in my underwear laying on a dressing room floor looking like a zombie within our friend group that I gave permission to be shared because it was funny.

[Asker]

Hmm okay.

[Smashingdoozy]

Just asked them, they all said various no that's gross, no thats just disrespectful, what's the point?, You girls would kill us if we ever did that type responses

[Asker]

Well, I wouldn’t expect them to be honest with you with this topic. I mean, they could be, but it makes sense that if they would hide something from you or would lie to you, it would be these types of topics.

[Smashingdoozy]

I don't think you understand... My friends aren't assholes. They don't lie to me. I've heard details of their sex lives and I mean DETAILS but they would never be that low of a human to share nudes.

[Asker]

Alright, if you say so.

[Smashingdoozy]

You have to think about the type of people you are surrounded by. They are different to my mates. I assume pretty much the majority of men in your life are military men, hate to say it but they tend to be toxic. Men I'm surrounded by are lawyers, psychology majors, philosophy majors, science majors, computer programmers, artists. They're a different bunch who have been brought up in different ways I assume compared to the people in your life.

[Asker]

Well, you may be onto something when you say military men are toxic lmfao. Specifically infantry I’m not even going to fully disagree with that.

[zaharuh]

Doesn't matter to me 🤷‍♀️ I don't see a problem with casual sex

[Ninani]

I was with a man the other day who showed me nudes of women he'd been with before me. I had to ask him if he had permission to show me those photos, because that'd be a deal breaker for me if he had nudes of me that weren't his to share with others and he did anyway. I like that he has experience and I don't care how many he had before me, it only matters how he treats them and me.

[Asker]

I can understand this, but at the same time I also am confused by it. I’ve always thought, if someone has been with a lot of people, their capacity for caring about and/or loving an individual person has or is diminished, either by them being by many people or they were that way to begin with hence why they have been with a lot of people. They may see people as sexual objects and/or another tally mark to add onto their long list. Also, as someone who is or has been with these types of people, feeling like just another number is nearly inevitable. Unless you’re the same way, then maybe you may not care. Everything feels somewhat detached or fleeting with people like this. Great to have fun with and party with perhaps. It gets somewhat more complicated the more long-term things get.

[Ninani]

Several of the 70+ women he's been with were serious girlfriends, one is even the mother of his child. I'm actually not his usual type as he travels a lot and has mostly been with women of colour, though he's a blonde dane. What's funny is that he was wary of my ability to connect with him as he knows about my lifestyle and sexual history too (I'm very transparent with that), but we connect very well as we have a lot in common both sexually, personally and interest wise. He's had many partners all through his adult life, whereas I was married to one guy for the most part and has mainly been active with multiple partners for about a year now.

[Asker]

By “several” what you mean?

[Ninani]

@EmbraceThePain he showed me a full list of the women he's been with (yeah, he actually made that) and he'd marked which country they had sex in. Several had "all over the world" listed and he explained that they were girlfriends he'd been with for longer periods and had travelled with. We didn't go through the whole list or anything, it was just for me to get an idea. We were talking about previous partners and he thought it was easier to just show me.

[Asker]

Ah, okay.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Instinctive prejudice against him but it can be overcome if he plays his cards right

[Razp_Sorbet]

I don't really care that someone's been with a lot of people. Kinda weird to brag about it though.

[Subarugirl]

Total sluttts! They should be ashamed I would never be with a man who has a worn out dick and suck little self respect.

[pink_and_inlove]

That would really bother me lol my boyfriend has been with like 3 women before me and that already bothers me 😂

[Nazgol]

Disgusted && not amazed 😒🤢

[PunkinAnnieCurtis]

Most guys have been with lots of women, it's natural human nature. Some guys have been up to with 1000 women or more! Have fun just use rubbers so you don't get STDs lol