Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
My answer to a recent question about "toxic masculinity" inspired this, which my answer was in turn inspired by real life events and experience. I originally wrote this out in question form but my details ended up coming out longer than I intended, so I decided to post this in Take form instead.
So tell us: how do you feel when you're in a group or chatting with 2 or 3 guys, and one of them is making it a point to joke about or try to make one or all the other guys look stupid to impress you? What do you think about that? Or when the one guy thinks he's cooler than the other and makes it a point to talk over him or completely disregard him period and dominate the discussion with you? Or if there's a physical job going on and the one guy is trying to show how strong he is to impress you - and he might even come over to the other guy and try to show his dominance by joking about how he needs to get some muscle, or he might even try to take over what the guy is doing to further show his strength?
As women, what do you think when you're in these situations? How do you feel about those guys being jerks? Often times - in a lot of what I've seen - the woman won't stand up for the guy the jerk is poking at even though she sees it isn't right, or she will even laugh along with it to appease the jerk, but then if the guy who is considered weaker actually stands up for himself and pushes back at the jerk and shows that he isn't really the pushover the jerk thinks, then the woman will think the guy who is considered weak is the one being a jerk.
Even worse, women don't like it if a guy is being an overconfident asshole in how he acts with her, but she sees no problem in it if he behaves that way towards another man in front of her.
I know there are women who are emotionally immature and underdeveloped in their sexuality and sense of what masculinity is and are sexually excited by men who are assholes, so I really don't need to cover them, but for all other women, what is your viewpoint on everything I stated above? How do you feel about men who act like assholes towards other men as trying to prove he is the baddest, coolest, or most masculine?
#MenWhoAreJerks
What Girls & Guys Said
51 23I’ve never heard of it. Always hear of women being assholes to other women.
Yep, but not to their face, we have class. 😂😂
This has happened to me a few times and it is an instant turn off. I don't know where men got the idea that being dickish to other people was at all a desirable trait because it's not. I dont care if you're the most attractive man in the room if you're being an ass I'll immediately be uninterested and probably call you out on your shit and embarass the fuck out of you.
An asshole is an asshole and it doesn't matter if he's being an asshole with a man, woman, trans, alien, whatever. I'm not interested in one either way.
Maybe. But I'm saying that the situation is different when it's about a man being an asshole to try to look cool or masculine for another woman.
Does it impress you if a woman bitches and gossips about other women to you in hopes that you get impressed?
@cubsterShura Regardless of right or wrong the man is showing dominance and has cont ol over the situation most girls find him as suitable prospect as he can provide security and display of power from ancient times women have liked heck loved guys who possessed power, fame, money regardless of the character or beauty and the guy would be loving be loving the girl but not others..
@CubsterShura That's an automatic No. But just because it is for me, doesn't mean it is vice versa.
@Aakash_Hangargi If a man has to be an asshole to people to show his dominance, it means he probably isn't a natural dominant at all to begin with, because if that was the case he wouldn't need to treat others like shit. A truly dominant man can be dominant while being kind. It's kind of like money, like if someone spends money in expensive handbags and fancy vacations but cannot afford to get treated for some illness because they were never wealthy to begin with, just trying to look rich before others. That's how it feels for me. @ManOnFire if you won't be attracted to a woman who slanders other women to make herself seem better, what makes you think that a woman would be attracted to men who treat other men like assholes? Sure, some do. I'd say they have bad taste.
@cubster Shura Dominant people cannot be kind to the people they are dominating that's why the term dominating pushing your will over others even if his kind he cannot be to the same person on the same subject i may be wrong here but girls will be attracted to the dominant one than victim because they will consider him less manly and not Alpha male Because secretly girls like rough and tough guys but kind to the girl if the man is dominant in the guys world its not necessary he will be the same mean person to a girl because even he has feelings he might not be rough but would be possessive of girl one more quality which girls would like in a man who they love she knows by that he cares and loves her
Hell no. If his way of dominance is being straight up rude to people I don't consider as dominance. You can firmly stand your ground and defend yourself when needed, sure. But that's not being an asshole.
Fair enough, being righteous and being dominant are two different things but i get your point different people have different mindsets so we already know it's based on people and what they want It's nothing good or bad it's just grey sometimes..
@CubsterShura Because even though those are my morals it doesn't mean another woman feels the same. I know there are plenty who do but still others don't.
And there are also been who have interest in women who backbite and slander others. It just means these people have bad taste.
My advice to women is this: If a man is being a prick to another man, do not intervene unless it involves you. When a woman tries to step in between a bunch of angry men, it never ends well and only incites the men further. This stands even if the man being mistreated or being the jerk is your boyfriend. Let the men settle it. If it gets physical, either let them fight it out (which is best if it is just a fist fight) or call the cops if it goes beyond fists (choking, weapons, pounding on an unconscious man, etc.). Once the situation has cooled down (usually about a day or two after) talk to the men and tell them exactly what you think. Men usually do not hold grudges as long as women if they feel the issue is settled AND they do not feel interfered with or pressured to keep the grudge going. It is not a woman's place to intervene in a dispute between men, just as it is not a man's place to intervene in a dispute with women.
Depents on the situation I guess.
You didn't read the whole Take, did you?
Wait is a take? Wtf here it shows me only the question
"Is it
Oh ok NOW it shows me the whole thing. My opinion is: I would cringe really bad and stop the fight/scold him. I mean if he can beat/insult another guy then how don't I know that he will do the same with me if I decide to date/be in a relationship with him?
"I mean if he can beat/insult another guy then how don't I know that he will do the same with me if I decide to date/be in a relationship with him?" - Good observation.
Eyebrow game is strong with this one.
Depends on the situation and who's involved. If I'm with someone and he's being rude to some random for no reason it's definitely a turn off. Tho if they are just two friends of mine fucking around and talking shit in fun I don't have a problem, since that can be amusing.
Huge turn-off. Being an asshole shows immaturity and makes the man look insecure.
It just shouts insecurity to me.
It's unnecessary, he sees others as a threat so his ego takes over. I find it very sad.
I don't like assholes of any kind. Anyway, I would probably not defend someone against an asshole if I believe i wouldn't be able the defend myself either...
If anyone is just a cunt to someone else I'm not going to view them positively and it's certainly a turn off, especially if he thinks it's attractive.
Depends if its warranted then he can be an asshat. If the weaker male is right then I'm defending him. Idgaf. I will call you out on you tom foolery lol
April 14 2020 I learnt 2 new words asshat and idgaf🙏thank you
And also learnt more girls like the word asshole and like to say “asshole is an asshole“ sorry for littering over your comment but it was funny 😂and I consider you as the Venus lady man your views 👍
Depends, who started it? Is it mild enough where I can grab popcorn and enjoy the tea, or have to intervene?
I have seen it really few times but i have seen it. But i see more girls doing that to other girls more often. Its more a female thing
That's there problem, not mine. I don't feel anything or get involved unless they make it my problem.
I don't like it.
It makes me laugh because of how idiotic they are
It happens in everyones life. Many times every man over react to the situation, so its normal. If its daily routine then this friend is not a smart guy (Dont know how to react, or simple foolish person) or having a lot of daily life problems.
I had a classmate, when i tried to pull a joke, One thing at that time was he never understood the joke even the very comman ones and second was, he came down to use bad words.
Yeah he was pain in ass. But what i think of this guy is that he was never able to solutions for her simple life problems. Like he is not mature enough thats why life is just asking questions (as he is growing) and he is not mature enough to answer the questions and the pending question list making his life miserable. My word "question" simoly mean daily life problems
"Like he is not mature enough thats why life is just asking questions (as he is growing) and he is not mature enough to answer the questions and the pending question list making his life miserable." - This is very interesting.
Thanks, first compliment on this app
I have had two guys fighting over me at the same time before
r u hot? or have big melons?
I personally don't have time to waste, even on correcting assholes. An interaction with asholery can only lead to more asholery.
So what I do instead is simply telling them "sorry, I don't participate in abrasive conversations".