Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
My answer to a recent question about "toxic masculinity" inspired this, which my answer was in turn inspired by real life events and experience. I originally wrote this out in question form but my details ended up coming out longer than I intended, so I decided to post this in Take form instead.
So tell us: how do you feel when you're in a group or chatting with 2 or 3 guys, and one of them is making it a point to joke about or try to make one or all the other guys look stupid to impress you? What do you think about that? Or when the one guy thinks he's cooler than the other and makes it a point to talk over him or completely disregard him period and dominate the discussion with you? Or if there's a physical job going on and the one guy is trying to show how strong he is to impress you - and he might even come over to the other guy and try to show his dominance by joking about how he needs to get some muscle, or he might even try to take over what the guy is doing to further show his strength?
As women, what do you think when you're in these situations? How do you feel about those guys being jerks? Often times - in a lot of what I've seen - the woman won't stand up for the guy the jerk is poking at even though she sees it isn't right, or she will even laugh along with it to appease the jerk, but then if the guy who is considered weaker actually stands up for himself and pushes back at the jerk and shows that he isn't really the pushover the jerk thinks, then the woman will think the guy who is considered weak is the one being a jerk.
Even worse, women don't like it if a guy is being an overconfident asshole in how he acts with her, but she sees no problem in it if he behaves that way towards another man in front of her.
I know there are women who are emotionally immature and underdeveloped in their sexuality and sense of what masculinity is and are sexually excited by men who are assholes, so I really don't need to cover them, but for all other women, what is your viewpoint on everything I stated above? How do you feel about men who act like assholes towards other men as trying to prove he is the baddest, coolest, or most masculine?
#MenWhoAreJerks
What Girls & Guys Said
51 23I rarely see this. Men are always mentally butt fucking men by always defending them for the asshole shit they do to other women
My sister had assholes for ex bfs, I nor any man I know defends their shit, makes the rest of us look bad, Some of those girls mistreated where our dautghers, sisters etc.
@lucas262 BS, guy friends will hide the fact that they are talking to other girls even if they are friends with the girl
I don't know about other men, but my brothers would never do that. They would never be friend with a men who are assholes.
It's just the classic assholes cover other assholes.
Ay if a dude is being an asshole to another dude that just so happens to also be an asshole to the other guy then let them be assholes thats just dude shit its cool
It depends on the situation they are in
they get aroused
That is sadly true.
Why is he dominating? Because he can. You just have to learn to be quick with sarcastic comebacks. In short order you can make that guy look foolish. And if she still takes his side. She was lost from the start it wouldn't have mattered what you did.
I have done that actually. Which is why I noted how she will think you're the jerk for actually pushing back at the asshole. Those situations told me a lot about a woman.
Wereyou being funny? Because that's what i meant. Most women i know dig sarcasm.
If a woman thought i was a jerk i'd probably start making fun of her next.
Women do dig sarcasm. It's probably because they themselves are often sarcastic and have this thing for liking it when somebody is getting roasted.
Turned on.
Why turned on?
Man: *shouts at other guy and being bad person towards other guy Her: *breathes heavily I'm going to regret this comment in 5 years time
@MuffinBoi she's fake
Well why is he bring an asshole in the first place?
Many women secretly love these kind of asshole guys. They see that confrontational behavior as strong male aggression, even though it’s often rooted in deep insecurity. They also lose respect for guys who don’t “fight back” even if the other guy didn’t want to lower himself to the dbag.
I dated a girl a few years ago who tried to “test me” one time by purposely walking through a group of drunken college guys. I can hold my own (former pro mma fighter) but I don’t seek out that shit. But she was hoping some guy would say some shit to her or me and see how I would react. She only did it once, but she still did it.
And that is exactly the kind of shit I hate too.
Women usually improve with age on this but not always. They are supposed have better relational understanding but they can’t resist that hormonal high they get when they see an aggressive dbag. Just don’t have the insight to see what’s really going on. Then they spread their legs for those guys, motivating them to keep it up.
Dude, that is so crazy how you just said exactly the same thing I was thinking about the other day.
Not all women are like this. Just a high percentage of them. But all women test men, period. Most of them don’t even realize they are doing it. You got to be on your guard at all times.
"But all women test men, period." - That is ANOTHER thing I was thinking about too. This is scary.
Just get used to it. The more they like you the less the do it though. But they all do it.
I'll lose respect toward the jerk and think low of him (since acting like that IS low) but I wouldn't interfere and defande the bullied, I'd rather let him handel it (since I might make it worse by butting in)
And one thing is sure IT IS NOT APPEALING/ATTRACTIVE to be a jerk
Fantasies and movies are not real life
This post is toxic, people make jokes, no big deal. Dont try to get girls to hate on guys just because, I'm assuming, they dont act like you or are you.
Okay, so you like assholes. Live your life. A guy doesn't even have to act like or be me to not be an asshole. He just needs to be a respectful guy.
Why so angry about it? It's a bit odd how big of a deal you're making it
Lmfao. You were the one who got angry about it, that's why you needed to call the post "toxic."
Its complete trash indeed. Why do you care so much about what other people do if it's not you?
isn't this entire post a bit ironic that you write about how some guys want to make others look bad, yet here you are trying to do the same?
Why are you calling men assholes and jerks?
Why are you calling women emotionally immature and blah blah?
My view is LET PEOPLE BE
Why not leave guys alone who act a way YOU don’t like. Because the world doesn’t revolve around you and girls still like these guys so get over it. Then, leave girls who like them alone too cause guess what, we can like whoever we want to. And laugh at what ever joke we want to.
P. S. you sound bitter AF
Okay, so you're also an asshole lover. Keep rolling with those types, you obviously have little respect for others as much as they do.
You’re just another guy talking shit, disrespecting men for what they do and women because they don’t hate these men. Chill out. Work on your self. Don’t worry about other guys. Don’t worry about what women think of these other guys. Get yourself a girlfriend and focus on her. Don’t talk such shit about others.
Lmfao. I'm disrespecting men who disrespect other men. That doesn't even make a lick of intelligent sense. "Get yourself a girlfriend and focus on her." - And you obviously don't even have a real boyfriend to even be defending assholes who are short-term. "Don’t talk such shit about others." - And yet you're supporting dudes who like talking shit about others to build themselves up. Your whole unintelligent gibberish is pure Gold👍🏽
I'm just so tired of hearing men tear down other men. There will always be those type of people out there. All you try to do is insult, you called them names and you called women names and you had more insults in the comments, because someone doesn't completely agree with you, come one grow up. That's why you need to work on yourself and leave others alone. You're not some great superhero out to get these guys. You're a trash talker just as good as them.
Lmfao. I'm disrespecting men who disrespect other men. That doesn't even make a lick of intelligent sense. "Get yourself a girlfriend and focus on her." - And you obviously don't even have a real boyfriend to even be defending assholes who are short-term. "Don’t talk such shit about others." - And yet you're supporting dudes who like talking shit about others to build themselves up. Your whole unintelligent gibberish is pure Gold👍🏽
Your comment is funny. Do you understand 2 wrongs dont make a right. But keep talking shit about other people, let’s see how far in life your get with that 😚😁
This is too funny. You got in your feelings over this Take because it made you see that you yourself are shit and you probably identify with the behavior I noted in it. No amount of you trying to play reverse assault is going to work nor does it impact me whatsoever. You already let me see everything about you.
You're a bit looney, just because people dont agree with you , you call them shit? You haven't changed my mind at all about you , not wanting to help yourself and just blame others , must be having a great fun life. Keep it up and be alone for ever. 🤷🏿♀️
An asshole is an asshole regardless of gender and the term "toxic masculinity" is sexist towards men. So you should not use it
I personally dont understand these women who like assholes. I dont have emphaty with these trash men and women