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Sexual Health Women lead sex is the best for mutual pleasure?
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Not implicating men are bed in bed, but In my experience when I've controlled the tempo and position it's been to mutual benefit not just his or mine
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1 29Yes it is a different approach
Maybe you should try
Hence the post?
Okay
May be
Women lead sex, what does this mean?
nah im good
Nah, most women would hate that. Most women prefer to be dominated and controlled in bed. There are exceptions, like you, but not many.
Yes and no, I'm not dominant either but I want to actually have my own pleasure.
There is no reason you can have your own pleasure without "leading" in the bedroom. Just have fingers and clit... just use them. Unless you want a submissive man as a partner... and if you're not dominant, as you say, then I suspect you don't... then your notion that women leading sex is the best for mutual pleasure is going to fail.
There is no reason you can't*...
Because sex is a 2 way thing hum
What's your point?
As in it shouldn't just be you who orgasms
And I never said anything different. Why would have have any bearing on who should "lead" during sex?
Dominant men are not going to stick around long with a woman who wants to "lead" in the bedroom because it's "best for mutual pleasure". That's totally unsustainable in the real world. But hey, do what's right for you.
Maybe that's why only 20% of women get orgasms 🤷🏻♀️
Do you really believe only 20% of women have orgasms? You poor thing. Regardless, let's think about why some women don't have orgasms. Why would that be? Could it be that they view themselves as completely helpless in the matter because they sit back passively and helplessly hoping their partner will "make them cum"? I think so. I have never had a partner who didn't orgasm every time, at least once, but only after I coached them to take a little ownership for their own pleasure rather than sitting there helplessly hoping I "make them" cum. That isn't to say I don't make them cum often, but my current partner is a great example of how a woman can put in just a little effort and get a hell of a lot more out of sex. Whether I am fucking her pussy or her ass she is almost always diddling herself (or using her little vibe) and as a result she typically cums 2 - 4 times per session. And she doesn't have to have sex with a submissive man to get all that. Open your mind.
Sure thing bud
You poor thing
How so?
Yeah I think its true. Since women find it harder to orgasm generally. Every woman is different. Therefore initially its probably better for the woman to lead the sex. But once the guy is more familiar with her partner then I dont think it's as important since the guy will know how best to pleasure her.
Exactly its familiarity and understanding.