Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Never fear the age of your forties. Yes all you girls and women out there, let me repeat, Never fear the age of your forties. This is what I have found to be true. When in my twenties I was a follower, and for the most part, was insecure. I have seen the posted questions here on GaG, guys wanting to know whey their partner is so needy/ clingy. Young women wanting to know how to stop being that way. Young women afraid that their guy will leave them. I believe one defines their identity in their twenties and into their thirties. Please don't ever dread hitting "my age". Some people ask me how I can write some of the opinions that I do. One Word: Experience. I have embraced getting older. I was scared to death of it in my thirties, but as you fall into it, something about us women, we tend to embrace it. Here is what it boils down to in my honest opinion: experience, hormones, renewed self confidence and, yes even extra-marital affairs. I cannot lie, it it not in my nature. My answer, and the answer from a majority of women my age and even older, EXPLORE your midlife sexuality and the hidden, unexpected joy to be found in it. That means many different things to different women.
You see at 46, I don't care what people think. I say things at 46 that I would have never dreamed of saying 15 years ago. It was only a year ago that I was thinking, I am just not who I used to be. I turned 46 and tweaked some things, and must admit I have had an avalanche of male attention come my way! And yes ladies, they are men of all ages. Some younger women ask: Why the confidence at that age? Truthfully, because I have been there, and done that. No joke. Sexually, spiritually, and emotionally, I have just about felt it, and/or done it all! I have taken risks. I have thrown caution to the wind, but I have lived, and I have loved beyond measure. Regrets? Sure, we wouldn't be human if we didn't have those. But looking back, you take the good with the bad, and you learn! As you learn, you grow!
There are things I want to explore even more, and there are some things, I may never do again, but I can say I DID IT!!! We women in our forties are full of pent up LUST and unexpressed emotions, and also of words unsaid. I cannot lie, I think of that "grown up" type sex that typically doesn't happen with a partner. We live in a society that puts all the spotlight on the YOUNG. I believe we also live in a culture that suggests older women think very little of sex. Why? Because that is the impression that used to be the norm. We are now in the "Time of the Cougar" Older women, getting those younger men. I mean not just sexual fantasy type "getting". Real relationships too. I believe our society has muddied the waters regarding the perception of what and who mid-life women really are. Here is what I can say from personal experience: We are full of desire. Medically,
Testosterone levels affect women as well. However, women create lower levels of testosterone and are more sensitive to androgens than men. Testosterone levels in women vary. According to the University of Rochester Medical Center, normal measurements range from 15 to 70 ng/dL.
A woman’s estrogen levels drop after she enters menopause. This makes her androgen levels comparatively higher.
(yes women produce the testosteron hormone too, we produce it from puberty)
At my age, your sex drive can be an incredibly powerful gift. Don't miss the boat. Embrace the gift of Middle Age!!!! That is my theory. We need to let go of outdated gender expectations, and just BE! I have learned that sex drive will fluctuate, so explore, play with it, but most importantly, practice honest sexual communication. At my age, you learn to voice what you want. You will tell what is pleasurable. You will not be afraid to ask a partner what it is they like most of all. I have learned not to get sexually frustrated either. We must explore constructive coping strategies. I am not afraid to treat myself to a new sex toy, or some new sexy lingerie. Not simply for "that man", but for myself.
I have promised to let sex serve my highest good. Sex can be just as much of a sacred spiritual act as it can be physical and emotional. Be mindful in the Present, I say!!! Enjoy today.
My advice comes from this quote: “Just because you’re grown up and then some doesn’t mean settling into the doldrums of predictability. Surprise people. Surprise yourself. (281)”
― Victoria Moran, Younger by the Day: 365 Ways to Rejuvenate Your Body and Revitalize Your Spirit
Best to you all, and just remember young girls and young ladies in GAG land: Embrace who you are at any age, enjoy each phase! Just don't be afraid of getting "my age". It is simply rejuvenating!
What Girls & Guys Said
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The harsh reality is women decrease in value with age because they become infertile (physically unappealing). Why her sex drive increases is biology and evolution is telling her because she's running out of time to find a partner. Look up the science of it, it will tell you women a woman's sexual marketplace is dictated by youth, fertility and beauty.
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Yeah like all those men would rather use their money, status and power to have 35-50 year old prunes in their photos and sleep with them on a daily basis (sarcasm). Men desire young women, its a fact am sorry to say.
Your mytake is just a belief that YOU and the other women want to hear or tell your selves to make yourself feel good. There's no facts or truth to it.
Donald Trump is 70 years old and should have a women around his age but he doesn't, she's 30 years younger than him but why? Men want young women as they can get, your mytake is delusional.
experience really makes a difference.
i say whatever i want now, too when i'm in that mode which is 80% of the time
Very few women in their 40's actually look good. It's the media with their amazing make-up and CGI effects.
I can't imagine any woman over 35 I would find interesting and smart and want to be around outside of sex. I've never met one that isn't prone to wild mood swings, depression, etc. they are headed for or already going through the "vaginal equinox" and will drag you into their world of hormone imbalance insanity. They like reading books and doing things I have no interest in. Most are no longer interested or capable of outdoor sports like hiking or mountain biking.
@kickme thanks for the heads up, because I've never dated over 35.
I'm very grateful my sex drive has greatly declined !! Ideally I want it dead & totally gone , also training myself to kill what's left. My situation = permanent celibacy. The younger men would LOVE a cougar... I did back in my late teens / 20's... they were happy too !!
Why do you prefer celibacy? & Young men love cougars?
@mistixs Celibacy is not " preferred " in my case , I'm a FT working single dad , which eliminates me from even dating as have too many commitments , plus NO woman will want a man in my situation. I have no desire for the silly games that are part of the dating scene. As you will be well aware , younger men have sex drives far higher than his female equivalent , so a sexually uninhibited older woman will be very welcome.
Had a fling with a 36 year old when I was 16
The main lesson it imprinted on my very being is the timeless nature of a woman. They get so refined with age and sparkle in their beauty/sexiness and sincere appeal
Jesus fuck was that even legal? Damn...
Yea I know right, everyone loves wrinkles.
I've always been attracted to mature women. .. Always been a huge fantasy of mine to be taken advantage of by an experienced ;nymphomaniac. Well written M. G. ... Your looking beautiful as ever...
Hey, thank you... glad you liked it! Happy Holidays!
Yup... and men do the same too !! Always been like that. I'm guilty both ways and love it
good one
Hubby says I'm sexier than ever.
You look very sexy, hubby’s right!
@jurgenmeister Thank you.
YW 😉
Women in their 40s are hot
Women in their 40s have that weird banana and baby powder smell. Then the boobs get saggy, you get wrinkles, skin starts looking rough. When 40 year old women put makeup on they look like nasty prostitutes. It's better when old ladies don't wear makeup.
For us men we just look more masculine and awesome.
Yea, you know old men and their saggy ass balls, and their wrinkled skin. Hell Baby Powder and Banana smell would be a pleasure compared to the old crusty ass sweat smell of old men- especially the ones who have to do a comb over to cover their bald ass head... Our boobs don't get saggy if we work out, and at the end of the day, men and women wrinkle, get saggy, and if you think men over 40 look good typically, and women don't , you need to get out more...
In the end of the day I have money and power. I can get hot young chicks to do as I say. You old ladies can't get shit.
You are 31 and have money and power, good for you. Get all the chicks you want, and in fact take your dumb ass and marry one or two and they can take you for the money, them in 15 years your old wrinkling bald self will wander what hit you... if you have all the money and power, get out their from GaG land, and get going... lmao
MyTake owner - You find banana smell better than the body odour of a man?
Sweet
Forty can be a good agae for women. However, they're too old for me.
Yes, my point, men like their 25 year old secretaries, and usually get taken to the cleaners. So what is wrong with older women liking that age group as well? Thank you I guess all in all both genders seem to appear the same in that manner.
It would seem so. There's nothing wrong with it either way in my opinion. Older women just don't appeal to me. And I don't apologize for it. I'm going to law school, so I know how to do pre-nups. But you're right, many men get taken to the cleaners whenever they marry the sweet young things.
good take
love the My Take. so I presume you have a high sex drive as what the take speaks. would you be a cougar then as well LOL?
go for it over forty girl, have fun, embrace and screw away. if not screw away then sext, chat, play and all other stuff away
Thank you for the kudos
you are more than welcome :-D ;-P
women over 40 are great for rebound sex as they need to prove to themselves that they still have it,, but don't get involved, there is always major emotional baggage attached and the clock is ticking LOUDLY on the looks.
I agree with what you say, but same with clock ticking on men at 50 plus too-------look out you are almost there too... lmoa
men are not at thier peak for sex long before 50, but women dont seem to be too fixated on that. trust me I know about both of these.
I think my peak must be now or something... lol
should've acted years earlier.
Cougars are all so sexy
if you look as good at this age you must have ben a on blefabull yuing woman and you know it so I'm happy for you your better that 90% of the rest and you know that as well
Yes, well said.