Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Women will treat you how you perceive them. Not many will acknowledge this. But women will act how you act to them. So treat them as a girlfriend or sweet girl and she will act pure and like an angel to not be seen as "a slut" or someone naughty. Treat them like a slutty, dirty sexy woman who craves sex and she could be one of your sexy mistresses or you her lover for the night, and the same woman will be a wild woman indeed.
A slutty woman (all women have an inner slut and love acting like that in the bedroom) will be like that to a man who treats her as such
ALL WOMEN ACT LIKE PURE MADONNA'S WHEN THEY ARE REALLY SLUTTY NAUGHTY GIRLS AT HEART
But they are worried about the slut label and thus present the anti slut defence. They feel they have to act as society wants them too. Thus the paradox of not wanting to be sexual with a guy who shows an interest in them or displays value as a prospective boyfriend or provider. She decides to take it slow. She doesn't act naughty or sexy around him. She may even keep the guy waiting as an orbiter. It all boils down to this concept.
ARE YOU A LOVER OR PROVIDER?
Women will say they don't think like this even though they do. For unless you are in a solid relationship (which is the ultimate aim for both man and woman), then more often than not a woman will act differently to different people and not actually act as she says she wants.
This is evolutionary biology at its basic.
A provider will see this:
She presents herself to him as a nice innocent girl. She will act that way around him. Maybe flirt, but she will hold back on revealing her slutty side. And she will go on many dates, extracting the benefits of a boyfriend from him, without giving him the sex unless she's totally committed to him. She trades sex for other benefits.
The guy might actually be a really nice guy, charming and be into her. He might actually text her nice things, listen to her and actually do all the things women say they want:
- He treats her well
- He listens to her
- He is there for her and a presence
- He takes her out and pays
- He is her cheerleader when she is down
- He cares about all her problems
Yes I know he's not really a great guy. He was sexy and it just happened. Oh that other guy? I really like him. Yes he's relationship material. I'm going to take it slow.
He acts as the perfect companion perhaps. Now unless the guy becomes her boyfriend, she tends to string him along. And this is wrong. Especially if at the same time, she meets other guys and sleeps with them quickly, very quickly.
So you have to strike a balance between being like a boyfriend, but being purely sexual as well. That way with a push/pull, she feels like she has to work for you. And then she commits and reveals her inner sexy side.
A woman will postpone sex with him because she fears he might think her slutty (the very thing he wants to see from her) or that he might "leave after sex".
The lover on the other hand:
First he sees this:
And very shortly afterward (on the first day/date/moments meeting her) sees this:
- The lover isn't looking for commitment.
- He is purely sexual and just states what he thinks without subtlety.
- He escalates fast
- He does not care about her personality or interests
- He does not text her nor really reply to her texts that much at all
- He does not care about her problems
The woman acts very different to his guy. She acts like the inner slut she really is. This guy is talking dirty to her, so she acts dirty. She trades sex for sex. Fast.
There is none of the "oh he might leave after sex" is there?
And to those who think that some women wouldn't be dirty like that, well there are women who will behave one way to one guy and another to another.
Whilst the nice charming guy takes her to a nice meal, pays for a nice gift, treats her sweet and texts her back, she's enjoying all that whilst dreaming of getting a cumshot facial, being fucked hard against the wall or from behind by her lover. In short she dreams of being a naughty slut. And the lover treats her like a slut.
Innocent women are often the naughtiest.
Some women who act sweet with a serious prospect and at the same time act unbelievably dirty with a lover. With the former, she'll act like a good girl. With the latter, she'll be saying things like "Yes I'm your dirty slut" - "Fuck me, fuck me harder!"
THE NICE GIRL/BAD GIRL PARADOX
Women will often have very very dirty sex with a lover, yet don't reveal it to a nice guy? Isn't it paradoxical? The way to see that side is to show her you value her sexual side. For you are what they supposedly want right? A nice caring guy. So make sure you give off the vibe of a ruler who has a harem of mistresses who are extremely hot and very naughty. And they provide you with hot dirty sex at will.
So then if your nice lady won't show you her sexy dirty slutty side, then another woman will. Suddenly the woman will chase and be turned on by your attitude of abundance as well.
The reality is, that every woman is a bad girl and wants to be one. Imagine a world where she is actually a dirty slut for a nice guy? I mean that would be hot for both sexes wouldn't it?
A woman seems to not be sexual with a guy who treats her special?
EVERYONE WANTS TO BE THE LOVER
Even the woman, for it is the lover who gets the sexual benefits and hot steamy arousal. Remember, compliments validate her ego, but don't help you be a lover. For some twisted reason, she then deems you lower status as she seeks what she can't have or desires males who are desired by other females, not those who actually show care for her. She feels sexual desire for the man she can't seem to woo. This man must then bed her fast and hard, otherwise by displaying too much interest and talking to her about her dreams, interests etc., if her sexual arousal state goes down, the logical good girl side takes over to not act easy and may even view him as a potential partner given his interest in her.
You have to bring out and enforce her bad girl/slutty lover side, not her good girl persona for society.
THE TRUTH OF HOW MEN ARE TREATED
As an orbiter, you get what is virtually the illusion of love. The woman will give you a "girlfriend experience" without the sexual component. In fact, even this may be in doses so as to keep you wanting more and reeling you in like a fish. It only happens if you keep giving her validation and support.
If you want a demonstration of whether you are valued, does she text you on special occasions? Does she initiate texts?
SPECIAL SITUATIONS
There are situations, e.g. college/uni/work where you can't just hit on women immediately. They might even have boyfriends (probably who are in the provider category ironically). That's fine. Be a respectul man, and there is no problem befriending her. When she becomes single, be flirty with her and be sexual. Just build it up gradually.
The friendzone does exist but it's complicated.
- A guy who meets a girl who has a boyfriend and is in her social circle, or a caring friend - is NOT friendzoned. Nor is he ruled out if she ever becomes single. He is totally an option if he so chooses. But he may have to work harder to flirt and be sexual than if he simply bumped into her from scratch. But it's still a decent position to be in. He must demonstrate he is a fun guy as well though, not just serious provider material, if he is to succeed.
- A guy who meets a brand new girl at a bar, who makes his intention clear, who ends up going on solo and group meets, but doesn't see her sexual side quickly is friendzoned for sure. Especially if she leads him on. When the woman does this she is so WRONG. She is using him as a provider whilst not being a lover to him.
- A guy who meets a girl who is single, and doesn't reveal he likes her and this continues, is FRIENDZONED. This also applies to a girl. This makes it very hard to get out of, though much easier if you're a girl. Note, this does not apply if you meet someone when taken as in the first point.
- A girl who is friendzoned can get out like they walk through automatic doors. A guy will have to take a leap of faith and climb out of the pit of doom.
WOMEN CAN BE MAD
Seriously you meet a guy, he showers you with affection, sends you sweet texts, makes an EFFORT that he wouldn't do with a guy friend. Women, clearly he LIKES YOU. Don't pretend that it isn't clear. Would you do that to a guy you didn't like?
So don't use guys. Sometimes guys are that nice that they don't just state bluntly "You are fit, let's bang". Yet if they don't you say they never made it clear? He's texting you ffs. Why do you think he is doing that?
LOVERS IS PREFERABLE AND WOMEN GET ATTACHED TO SEX
They often feel closer suddenly to those who bed them. A flaky girl will suddenly be texting you often after you bed her. She won't be "accidentally" not replying to your texts anymore. That girl who asks you how you are by text then ignores you? She'll be not only replying but begging to hear about your day. That friend who was acting pure toward you? She is going to be so slutty to keep you interested. That cute girl at the bar who thought she was above you? Well she is going to be "below" you a lot to make sure she outdoes every other girl you have your eye on.
The truth is that women also love sex. You need to tell them that, but NO ONE KNOWS HOW.
Women will be extremely dirty with those who make them feel that. This also applies to those who have known each other for years. But make sure every interaction is sexual. Just give that sexual vibe and you will get it back.
WOMEN WON'T ADMIT IT BUT THEY WILL ACT VERY DIFFERENTLY TO THE SAME COMMENT MADE BY TWO PEOPLE BASED ON THE VIBE
You look so hot, I bet you're a dirty girl," said the nice guy who had been caring to her for all these months and texted her back and listened to her, whilst looking at her seductively. She then proceeded to take it slow, or ignore him.
You look so fit. Damn you are hot girl," said the guy who just came out of nowhere eyeing her up and down. He had no interest in who she was, or what she liked. Nor did he reply to her texts or send her a sweet message. She had dirty sex with him, loving being called a "slut" in the process.
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What Girls & Guys Said
11 21You are not wrong with your assessment, but people are more complicated.
If you plan on being in a LTR, then you will become the provider and the lover, especially if she's pregnant. :D
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Yes that's true in a long term relationship and also people who end up together with their ones. But in terms of dating, and single life, and also just interactions between women in your social circle or the people you know, this seems to be the case, and its messed up isn't it? 3 guys: 1. Boyfriend - they met early. She acts pure around him. He is caring + providing. They end up breaking up. 2. Fun guy in social circle who she knew before she broke up - he makes her feel great. They click well. He listens to her, sends sweet texts and raises her spirits. He also would make great boyfriend material. He is also a little wild sometimes. Neverthless, she keeps her inner slut hidden which he has never seen, at least for now. She doesn't act dirty with him. 3. Random new guy or entry to social circle. He is just crazy. He isn't interested in who she is unlike guy 2. He isn't caring like 1&2. He doesn't text her that much at all. He is just a fb friend, but she acts dirty round him?
Listen, man, if you keep getting hung up on how and why women act in certain ways you will never succeed with them, just like guy 1 and 2. Guy 3 doesn't give a shit. He actually interacts with her sexually, something 1 and 2 are missing.
So explain "interacting with her sexually"? What is he doing the others are not, in particular guy 2? Let's say guy 2 meets her when she has a boyfriend, and now the girl is single, just to clarify. Guy 3 also meets her when single from the very beginning. Guy 3 isn't sending as cool texts, etc. So explain your thoughts?
Body language
How then
I agree with you... Please don't hate me. 😅
Nice, so why, pls explain?
I don't even know why. We're so complexed, we don't understand ourselves.
Lol ok i see ur point
since i was blocke don someones answer im gonna say it in here: don't take girl advice from girls. If you want to catch a deer, you wouldn't ask a deer how to catch it since its never had to catch itself, it's only been caught. Youd ask the hunter.
Take girl advice from guys, not from girls. girls will naturally make you intoa cuckold with their shit advice.
LOL I like the analogy. That's a good point. It seems like women say they want a nice sweet guy. Yet the guy who is in their social circle and like the man they claim they want - he doesn't see her slutty side. It makes it hard for him to read whether she likes him too. Whereas a guy who just enters her life, who isn't as sweet to her, she acts slutty/sexual around him. Yeah that really fits with a woman saying, "oh I would sleep with a nice guy and not the one who isn't interested in who I am". LOL. What do you reckon of this example: Guy meets girl at uni who has a boyfriend. They guy and girl really click. He is respectful and doesn't hit on her given her status. She finds him exciting, fun, uplfiting. She chooses to stay in touch with him after, texts and meet ups. She later breaks up with her boyfriend. Now is this guy now a possibility? Cos she still acts pure around him (even though they do have fun times). Whereas guys she has just met recently, she acts naughty/dirtier around?
Well?
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This is just so much bullshit. I never thought i'd see an article that would mix bad dating advice with "evolutionary biology facts" as a coverup. Its the worst thing since "not masturbating releases pheromones".
Treating women well, listening to them, caring for them, for their problems, never got them to feel the same for me. Ever.
They will never look at you as anything more than a friend. Believing that women are mirrors just proves how you barely have a single drop of experience, and also doesn't know shit about psychology.
Please, go outside. And go read Freud, for fuck's sake.
Ok so you're saying that acting nice and they won't mirror you, but actually be their slutty dirty self then with that nice charming guy in their social circle? Or would they be dirty with a totally random?
Yet you haven't actually suggested ANYTHING that a guy should do then lol
The attractive guy friend - someone funny, exciting and hot. The douche guy friend - objectifies women, less good looking, not sweet Yet she would probably act innocent to the first guy even though she likes him more and be sexual/slutty pose like a cheerleader round the 2nd guy
Man.. Melanie Iglesias has a cute ass smile
She does right? Damn it's hard to even read the take tbh!
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a27854-woman-hears-the-exact-same-thing-from-two-guys-but-she-reacts
this guy knows his shit. do not ever expect women to admit the realities you present here though...
they dont even realise it themselves. their conscious brain tells them they want the provider nice guy. they keep fucking the asshole me. go figure... .
Thanks. It is a bit shocking tbh. And it does not make any sense. Ironic that most women will not admit this. They claim they want a nice guy and someone who cares/listens/texts them sweet stuff yet are not dirty with these guys. Take: 1. A boyfriend. He's caring, but not that exciting. - She acts pure around him. Eventually they break up. 2. A great fun guy in her social circle. Now he is great boyfriend material. He is also really fun and outgoing. Makes her laugh. Listens to her, texts her great texts. She really gets on well with him, and finds him sweet and charming. She still keeps her fun slutty side hidden for now so as not to be seen as a slut. 3. A brand new random guy or new entry to her life/social circle. Now this guy isn't interested in her, certainly no texts etc. He is just crazy in bursts. She finds that funny, though it's not as fun as guy 2. And he's not as serious as guy 1. Now this guy, she just acts slutty with and her dirty self. WTF?
Yeah point they seem to not know what they want
This is not fair, She gives nice guy nothing but lover everything.
Agreed
A lot of the girls here are pissed off or trying to dismiss your post nonchalantly because you're hit the nail square on the head and revealed their secret.
You have defined the truth so well! =D Well said. Yes I think it seems like this is the case, but it seems totally paradoxical does it not? So they would be sexual with a guy who shows up and isn't interested in her versus a guy in her social circle who actually sends her sweet texts and cares about her. Makes no damn sense? What do you think? Also:
What about: 1. Girl has a boyfriend (A). Then meets new guys at uni including guy (B). She really clicks with guy B. He finds her incredible, tho out of respect he doesn't openly hit on her. He can't help be around her given they work together and in the end is in her social circle. She chooses to keep in touch with him after uni (texts and meet ups). She loves his sweet, witty texts. He lifts her spirits, makes her feel great and is boyfriend material. He makes her feel fun. She acts pure and innocent and doesn't exude sluttyness let's say. There are great texts and interactions in person. 2. Guy A is caring, but eventually the relationship breaks up. The girl is now single. Now would she consider Guy B to be more fun/sexy around/with? 3. She still is pretty innocent around guy B and they still keep in touch despite distance. She also meets guy C in her new city and is a bit more slutty/fun around him despite he doesn't care as much or is interested in her as guy B?
Hahah the trouble is how do you then crack a girl who is say a friend and who becomes single?
Just a word bullshit
Why so? Is it not true that a woman will act totally slutty with a random new guy who just talks dirty than a great boyfriend material male in her social circle who is caring to her?
No, she ll just think the random guy is a creep who only want sex from her
1. Yet she acts dirty/slutty with new random people versus the male in her social circle? 2. What about: Girl has a boyfriend (A). Then meets new guys at uni including guy (B). She really clicks with guy B. He finds her incredible, tho out of respect he doesn't openly hit on her. He can't help be around her given they work together and in the end is in her social circle after uni as well. She chooses to keep in touch with him. She loves his sweet, witty texts. He lifts her spirits, makes her feel great and is boyfriend material. She acts pure and innocent around him although there are fun moments. But she doesn't exude sexiness let's say. There are great texts and interactions in person. Guy A is caring, but eventually the relationship breaks up. The girl is now single. Now let's say: 3. She still is pretty innocent around guy B and they still keep in touch. She also meets guy C and D who
3. continued: who are brand new people. They aren't nearly as sweet nor uplifting as guy B. They are a bit crazy fun occasionally. Now neither really listen to her that much. C is a bit of a player. He takes selfies with lots of hot girls in her post uni social circle which he posts on his fb. She knows C through one of her hobby clubs. She participates and often is dressed a little hot too. Guy D hardly listens to the girl either. They are mainly friends on fb though he is known to be a talented person in the hobby club when he shows up. She finds him very fun in the short bursts he sees him given he is just very outgoing in a party maniac way. He is not interested in her problems, nor send any sweet texts etc. He is not boyfriend material though he has a girlfriend. She acts a little more slutty around him at parties when they are all dressed up. Explain?
I explain that's she's a whore. But women in general don't do this things. When you like a person, it's exclusive you don't go to club or be flirty with other guy. Is it a real scenario?
Yes it's based on real scenario. But is she a whore? She's single now lol. Ok so explain her behavior given she met guy B when she was with guy A. So what can guy B do then and what can he do now she is single? And separately what is her behavior between guy B versus C and D (roughly the same)? B is very fun, but hasn't had much facetime chance to show his moves (distance etc). So if B is in person with the girl what can he do? And from both her and his perspective what do they think?
Can you re explain please. I have a hard time to understand you, you confuse me. But if B guy like her, he just have to ask her to be his girlfriends and if she said no, he can insist but not much than 3 month. You know be always here for her, protect her, etc... prove her he's the best.
I've tried to break it down as much as I can there. Pls tell me which part you don't understand. if you read it slowly, I've defined each guy and wonder how guy B would be perceived by the girl. He is fun, caring and charming. They met when she already had a boyfriend and thus became friends/social circle. Now she is SINGLE. And so is he. How would he prove or be perceived by her? And versus the other guys I have mentioned?
I think she would only see him like a friend cause if she like him. She ll don't go to club. Can you explain me guy c and d cause for me it's the same guy
Ok so guy C and D just consider them the same. Guy B though, she met when she had a boyfriend. Now she is single. So is he ruled out sexually?
No i don't think but what kind of guy would date a girl like that serious?
True, can u help with this then pls? www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2141337-who-would-a-sweet-fun-girl-flirt-be-with-have-dirty-sex-with-based
Great so now you gave me a word, pls answer the take
This is so true, and of course women are going to deny it
Yeah why tho? Why are they not slutty and dirty with the nice charming guy? E. g. Guy 1 - Boyfriend - serious, sometimes fun. She acts pure around him so as not to be seen as a slut. She breaks up with him. Guy 2 - Fun guy in her social circle. He is also boyfriend material. He listens to her, sends sweet texts, raises her spirits. He is really fun and someone she really clicks with. Despite this, she keeps her slutty side under wraps for now. She holds herself back. Guy 3 - Random new guy or new entry to social circle. Just crazy in bursts. Not interested in her that much, just a fb friend. No listening to her. Not that good with texting. Just invited to the party. She does feel fun around him and releases her slutty dirty fun side.
Why?