Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
First let me say that I know everyone is different. Everything I write here is based on personal experience and other opinions I got in my questions like this:
https://www.girlsaskguys.com/girls-behavior/q1986777-are-women-as-visual-as-men
I don't speak for all men and I am not saying all women behave a certain way. Keep in mind that this is my first myTake. To clarify things, I am straight (Heterosexual).
I know the type of attraction isn't restricted to a certain gender. Most of us have heard people say that "Men are visual creatures" implying that women don't find men attractive in the same way. The media and society wants us to think that men are easily sexually aroused just by the sight of a attractive woman. Society and media also wants us to think women only care about a man's personality and what he can do(how strong he is, how many skills he has etc). Personally I disagree with society on this part.
Most of the women that replied to my questions said that while they do check men out, they do it subtly. Women know when is the right time to check a man out. Here is were society comes into play, society still shuns women who actually ogle men. Society labels them rude names.
On the other hand not every man ogles women. Men like myself actually care for both a emotional connection and physical attraction in a woman. It's like this, a type of smoothie isn't a smoothie if you omit the milk or another ingredient. Same goes for when it comes to attraction to a woman, if I only find the woman physically attractive but abhor her personality, there is no way that I will consider dating her.
Same goes the other way around, I might think she is a very polite woman but if I don't find her physically attractive I still won't date her, because just like the smoothie she is missing one of the components/ingredients. From most of the opinions I got(I know they don't speak for every woman, I am just going by the majority) Women tend to feel the same, that they need like his personality, feel emotionally attached to him and obviously find him physically attractive to consider dating him.
More proof that women can be visual(personal experiences and opinions from women on my questions) is the occasions when a man that is considered physically attractive is present in front of women, all the women tend to start whispering to each other "Oh my gosh, he is so hot!" and they start talking about kinky things the women want to do to the man.
While a lot men tend to look at the breasts and buttocks of a woman(I prefer the female abdomen and navel) at least in this society, Women also look at certain body parts of a man(mostly arms, abdomen and buttocks) also a social experiment was done to determine if women also checked out a man's body, the experiment(which many of you might have seen) involved a man wearing a crotch cam and a fake erection. The camera caught various women constantly glancing at the man's crotch and some even smiled. So that's further proof that women can be just as visual as men.
Here is what I've noticed when I hang out with my friends(males), I notice that whenever a good looking woman walks by, they will simply look at her and whisper to me and each other, "wow, she is hot!." I admit I look at her, but I only glance at her, I don't stare. After that they will stop looking at her and we resume whatever conversation we were having.
A hot woman in a bikini whether it's a picture of her or if she's standing in front of me, isn't enough to sexually arouse me. In order for me to be sexually aroused I need to have kinky thoughts in my head(thinking about erotic things she can do to me etc). That's simply sexual arousal(Body is ready for sexual activity), but in order for me to consider sex I have know the woman personally(if the woman is my girlfriend) since we would have a emotional connection, but I would let her initiate the sexual activity.
A lot women assume only men can be perverted creeps. The truth is both women and men can be perverted creeps. As I mentioned in one my questions, one day when I was 12 years old, I was at a local park. I was having fun in the playground but eventually a group of young women who looked like they were at least 18 years old came up to me and told me I was "hot" and that they wanted to have sex with me.
I was only 12 years old so I didn't exactly know what sex was. I didn't even know women had genitals. My parents never gave me the "sex talk". I walked away from away from them as they continued to stalk me around the park until I got close to where my parents were. That's a day I'll never forget. So yes women can be creeps as well.
What Girls & Guys Said
27 29I think that healthy people have more similar sex drives, regardless of gender.
As people age, they acquire less "normal" or "gender neutral" modes of attraction. For example, men tend to start focusing less on the face, and more on hypersexual features (large butt, hips, thighs). Women tend to start focusing less on the face, and more on power, status, and superiority.
When men accumulate estrogen, their adrenal glands usually produce testosterone, or they convert more testosterone into DHT to make up for it. This makes them "hypermasculine" in some respects. When women develop excess estrogen, they develop a more submissive, "power" based sex drive (estrogen is known to promote sexual submissiveness).
Interesting!
These myTakes just keep getting stupider
That's just your opinion, you don't speak for everyone else.
I think the confusion comes from women thinking we're instantaneously horny and aroused when a pretty girl walks by. Which isn't the case at all for most of us.
Exactly, women assume men get sexually aroused by the sight of a hot woman. That's not the case for me even though I am straight.
I agree completely.
But I have to say women are actually more disgustingly perverse than men overall. Women are the majority of child sex offenders. Women at strip clubs are grotesque compared to men. Women rape men at almost an equal amount as men rape women (it's simply ignored most of the time.)
Women are simply given a green light for most of their disgusting behavior while men are generally shamed for every and all sexually related things.
I can't say if woman view men like men view men because I've never been a man and I really don't know. If it's what soceity makes it look like a lot of the time then no, not in my case anyway.
What I find attractive or more to the point intriguing about his looks usually gives away a piece of his character and makes me want to find out more (eyes - if they are expressive and what they are expressing, posture, the way they form words, how they talk, things like that, eye contact, the ways their eyes move, etc.). If I like what I find out about them then I will start to feel attracted to him.
So do you find a man's face attractive?
Based on things I feel I can tell from their face (if they have expressive eyes and what they seem to be conveying, where their eyes look when they talk, how animated their face gets, how they speak - how their lips move). I will become intrigued if it is all stuff that I find attractive, then I will try to learn a bit more about them and then I will become sexually attracted to them when I can confirm that they are who I believe them to be.
What about aesthetically.
I don't know that I personally see that way. I mean on TV I am guess the well built guys with the stone faces or maybe the pretty faces... I've read that it's supposed to be squared jaw and more or less equal face? I don't know, that's not what I'm looking for, none of that's real. In real life... I told you what I found attractive. I can usually pick out what other woman will fall for and sleep with but it's off of what I said... what the look meets personality is. I've always been the girl that found a guy no one got yet and if there's an after me they do well, great even. If not... well I married him, after every girl that he asked out that was interested in him came back and said they had always loved him. I'm weird I guess. I have Asperger's with a ESFJ personality mother (my complete opposite) so maybe that's it. I'm like you lost in the sauce but what your looking for is out there. I used to worry about the same things, hoping guys thought and saw things the way I did... to know
that it was all worth it. that I wasn't alone. I felt alone younger. I was the weird kid who flapped and lived in their head and played with paper... but I took a second (years actually... to watch the world without me in it and to figure out how it worked and that worked! Years of not getting anything anyone did, internet was my friend-lol.
Agreed. Humans are visual, regardless of gender. And also I agree about the 'subtle looking' part about women. There is definitely a stigma about women wanting sex or being forthright about checking out men. And for the men saying this take is wrong.. How would you know? You aren't a woman so you can't possibly speak on behalf of them.
Very well said! I feel the same. I've also learnt that it's a mind thing for a woman to be aroused. Not just visual. You have to take them to a place in their mind. It can really get them going lol
yes definitely.. i remember when i was seeing this girl i was leaning against a wall and i pulled her in. i can't describe distinctly what happened but i just started teasing her. we werent kissing we were just close to doing it. our faces were touching and our eyes were closed. i just kept leading it and i was like lets see where this goes. eventually we kissed and bloody hell it was the most experience I've ever had with a girl. i defo got wet and i know she did cause we both had to go to the bathroom afterwards. it didn't lead to sex but it could of. you defo have to simulate a girl to get them going for sure
Women definitely appreciate a good looking man with a nice body. From teens to middle aged women and beyond, if a man worth ogling walks by, WE NOTICE.
I personally can get aroused just by looking at or being around a man with a nice body or face or even just a strong presence. I'm generally less emotional and have a higher drive than the "average" chick though.
I check guys out a lot, but I'm bad at subtlety if u want to talk to him. I can get caught staring or even wave. Lol
Yep, I guess you're right, that's why I'm still single :(
Good mytake. Women often do check out men the way we do only they are way more subtle about it.
To be honest I dont care if the work out or if they have a 6 pack or how tall they are. All of my crushes are so different I dont care to see men shirtless I am not a pervert. I honestly do like their qualities.
Makes sense, since everyone is different.
It inherently different. Have you never heard of the "male gaze" analysis?
No, I've never heard about this "male gaze".
You should read up on it than you will understand better why it's two totally different things.
Yeah I read about it, but since it was coined by a feminist, I'm not really believing it. It doesn't really explain much. It doesn't even mention how women view men.
You don't take anything said by a feminist seriously?
I don't agree with feminism, I believe in egalitarianism.
You do realize that feminism is egalitarian in nature. By definition it's a movement for the EQUALITY of the genders.
No, I disagree. If feminism is egalitarian why does it focus on women instead of everyone including both genders? I've seen the true face of feminism already to know that feminism isn't egalitarian. I support the rights of everyone as humans. Even for the groups I disagree with, unlike feminists. Anyways let's stay on topic.
What I mean by unlike feminists is that many feminists are known for trying to silence their opposition by denying them the right to speak and calling them "Misogynists" When their opposition is usually people that are egalitarians.
You're a sexist. If you fail to realize that women are at a bigger disadvantage in the world, you're a sexist. If you were an egalitarian you would understand that we need to focus specifically on gender and specifically on women/girls. Not to mention that tons of feminists dedicate time to advocating for the rights of men.
There you go labeling me as a "sexist". I support both genders equally, I am just tired of all the double standards against males. You are implying women are more important than men, when in reality both genders are equally important. Many shelters for male victims of abuse were shut down, because of feminists protesting against them.
You people don't understand the point here. I'm not even going to waste my time arguing. You obviously don't care for both sexes if you are comfortable with the world as it is + added benefits for men.
Did I ever say the world is perfect? No I didn't. I like the world we live in, although there could be some improvements like ending bigotry. I am starting to suspect that you are a misandrist.
"Added benefits for men" yet you expect me to believe that you want true equality? A lot of men nowadays are victims of misandry, if the bring up the issue of misandry, people label you a "misogynist". I don't hate women, I live women. I just think both genders need to work together instead of trying to compete to see who is the superior gender, which is pointless because neither gender is superior. Both genders are equal.
You like the world but you wish men had more. Lol. It's always funny when people try to say I hate me. I studied criminal law. I work in the criminal justice system helping MEN that suffer torture and rape in prison. I do this in my country where prisons are really bad and most men are subject to gang violence. I do it all for free. That's why I get so mad at Meninists and other anti feminism people who use men's suffering as no more than just a point of reference.
typos and autocorrect. *people, *love