Would a guy react this way if he was just using you for sex?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been seeing this guy for 3 months and we had sex after like 2 and a half months. Although my friends keep saying he is probably using u for sex. We talk everyday and yesterday my friends lpinions got to me so I ended things with him and said it’s not working. When I did this he called me and texted me twice and was trying for another chance and putting in more effort and begging saying sorry. Would a guy do this to keep a girl round for sex? He tells me he wants a relationship but everyone’s opinions around me affect me because apparently he’s got a bad reputation and because he’s 27 and I’m 20 they think it’s weird? SURLEY he wouldn’t have a reaction like that unless he really wanted to keep me around for that?

[MrOracle]

What evidence do you have - other than your friend's opinions - that he's just using you for sex? I'm not saying that that's impossible - it's definitely possible - but it's also completely possible that he's happy to be in a committed relationship with you.

How do you know the difference? Mostly, you look at how he treats you OUTSIDE the bedroom (never, ever judge a relationship by what happens INSIDE the bedroom). Does he spend time with you? Does he introduce you to his friends? Does he take you places? Have you met his family? Does he make plans with you? Does he generally treat you well? Has he talked about his hopes and plans for the future, and are you in them?

A guy who is just using you for sex won't do those things - he's generally going to bang you and send you home, and he's going to minimize how much you see him outside of sex.

You don't need to post the answers to these questions, you just need to know the answers yourself.

And, in the future, you need to set boundaries and expectations IN ADVANCE, so that you have clarified your expectations and everyone is on the same page. You have to be willing to walk away from a guy who, say, doesn't want a committed relationship, even if he's hot and you REALLY like him. But you also have to be willing to take "yes" for an answer. Don't sabotage a relationship that's actually working.

[Reece12345]

How much time did he spend with you? Did he like to hang out with you all the time?

Actions speak louder than words. If he doesn't hang out with you that much, I don't think he loves you or has deep feelings for you. Just logic... if he really has strong feelings for you, we would really want to spend time with you a lot. A guy taking the time to hang out with a girl is like the acid test for real interest and seriousness in a relationship.

If he doesn't hang out with you that much, it shows he's not into you, and he only wants you for sex.

If this is the case, I would stay away from him and not go back.

[spartan55]

Oh wow, you are so naive. Of course he would, he doesn't want to lose that pussy... Duh

[Yellovv]

Maybe your friend is right..