Would a guy that is inexperienced with sex not know how to eat a girl out or be intimidated to do so?

So I’m seeing this dude. We’ve had sex twice. I’m not sure of his past sexual experience except he has been alone more than in a relationship with someone. We have amazing sex, honestly the best chemistry I’ve had. except.. I want him to eat me out and he hasn’t yet.. :( I’ve given him head each time.. we’ve only had sex twice and one of the times I was on my period so that one doesn’t count as I wouldn’t expect it there but next time should I ask him to?
Do some guys not know how or are shy to go down there right away? I’m trying to give him the benefit of the doubt and *hope* it’s not because he just doesn’t enjoy it or refuses to.
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  • Ask him outside the bedroom how he feels about it. Yes, it's certainly possible that he's inexperienced or nervous, just as many girls are about BJs, but for many guys, they're even MORE worried about looking ignorant or unmanly.

    There's an unspoken expectation that guys "should just know how to have sex with a woman" and if there's something he doesn't know, he might be afraid that you'll judge him as unworthy, and that would be a huge hit to his ego and self-worth. So if he is nervous or shy about it, be understanding, and assure him that experience is far less important than enthusiasm, and that skill comes with practice and feedback, which you'll happily provide to him. Also, be sure to tell him how much you love it, and how wild it drives you. If he knows that he can send you into orbit that way, he'll likely be more enthusiastic about doing it.

    Remember that you almost always get better results with positive reinforcement than with negative reinforcement. TELL HIM when he's doing a good job, or at least let your noises, facial expressions, and other reactions tell the story. That feedback is important.

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  • It’s entirely possible you are correct. He may have never done it so he has no experience on what parts to lick and how best to do it. As a result he never attempts it because he doesn’t want to embarrass himself. It is also possible he may not want to do it. Some men and women don’t like oral sex. I would say you should ask him if he has but do it in a half joking way so as not to put him on the defensive and embarrass him. Then volunteer to guide his mouth through it the next time you guys do the deed.

    • Ok thanks, I’ll do that. He’s pretty crazy in bed and seems open to things sexually and in life so I’m hoping this extends to oral sex (especially since he likes me giving him head...). I’ll bring it up in a very light way to him next time

    • Cool. I’m betting if you make it fun, maybe even throw in some whipped cream, he’ll be game. 👍

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  • Maybe his style dont sync with your preferences, dunno... every woman is different. I've learned to pay attention to her body language and she'll tell me everything I need to know without actually having to ruin her mood explaining it to me.

    ... but chances are he has been with givers and hasn't been expected to reciprocate. Also, could be an intimacy issue. That's a pretty intimate commitment and it spooks him.

    Train him.

  • Yes just ask. Or if he's reluctant, find out why. Maybe he's not only inexperienced, but maybe had a bad experience as well?

  • Ask and you might receive. If he is grossed out by it, maybe see if plastic wrap as a barrier would help. If he is totally inexperienced maybe start with him fingering you. I think I resort to giving head because fingering can get exhausting.

  • I dont know about other me. When i had my first sexual experiance, it was me going down on a girl. I totally knew what to do. I found her clit, i saw her reaction. Same with fingering, i did that the next time, and eating her out helped me to know how she works.
    It was just like an instinct

  • He may be inexperienced or just not like it. You could broach the subject by telling him you're going to play a little game where he tells you one thing he enjoys sexually and you'll tell him one. Repeat until you get to cunnilingus. If you mention it first, ask him if he would enjoy pleasuring you in that way.
    If you're shaved or neatly trimmed it may make it more enticing for him to eat you. Also he may enjoy using some flavored lube like Pussy Licker.

  • yeah, guys are not born with the ability to eat girls out xD some are shy about it. there's also some that don't like doing it. i'd ask him about it, if i was you.

  • Maybe he's shy, or maybe he's never done it before, or both.

  • Communication and trust is the key. Discuss it and be open with each other and hopefully you can both benefit with a little guidance if you feel that's necessary

  • He might be nervous

  • Maybe not good at it but no harm in asking him to do it but inexperienced guys have a problem with that

  • I've never been with a girl and it would terrify me to eat her out wrong but I would also like for her to ask me to try

  • Don't even ask him, but just stop sucking him. If he can't figure it out, then find a smarter guy.

    • I'll try that with my partner too, I go down on her but she doesn't on me. Will report back with the results

    • @Peanuthead87 I don't know how long you've been with her, but this should have been resolved in the beginning.