Would a man want to know if she's a 26 year-old virgin?

[Anonymous]

Well I was always shy during my HS school, then from ages 20-22 personal issues in the family happened and I was depressed for the longest. Lastly, from ages 22-24 (I barely finished my last year of college, barely graduated; was still taking classes while on low hemoglobin levels) I was under some treatment on the weekends for strange blood loss. Then doctors were able to find out where I was bleeding and had a surgery.

It's been 18 months later since the surgery, I'm now 26 and both mentally and physically healthy again. I'm ready for a serious commitment but yeah I'm still virgin. I'm not religious. I just didn't have time nor was able to meet others while all these things were happening.

Though the dating world seems new to me. I feel so childish and naive for my age. Most people at my age likely already had a long-term relationship or even have kids. I imagine a sex conversation would be very awkward to me. I've been totally asleep during all this time. I haven't even had my first kiss yet. Weird. Would a man want to know I'm a 26 year-old virgin?

[CopperStove]

Being a virgin isn’t a bad thing…and to be honest in my opinion you haven’t missed out on anything world shattering. A lot of guys might actually find it endearing, it’s rare and can be an opportunity to be your first serious love at an age where it might actually last. There’s nothing wrong with you, just keep a good head on your shoulders and don’t rush to get rid of it just because we have a twisted culture that uses sex for profit and equates that with maturity. You’re one in a million and don’t forget that.

[CopperStove]

@Danielle93 That’s really sweet. Good luck to you!

[Drumlin2001]

I wouldn't open with it but I would bring it up relatively early. They may have expectations of how a relationship may progress, and you may need more time then someone who has more experience. Being open with them allows them to adjust their expectations.
I was a 35yr old virgin. There weren't many women I connected with over the years but those that I did would eventually drift away as I didn't progress things physically and didn't talk to them. Indeed my first relationship was with someone I reconnected with, and she told me that she was left not knowing if I was interested or what was going on.
Be honest and open, however difficult you may find it

[Berethor]

Yea he likely want to know, and he might be able to tell by the way you act, it's okay, nothing wrong with being innocent, the guy who would be your first in everything is lucky. :)

[Asker]

Ideally I would like my first to be the last one I'll get to have kids and grow old with. I'm actually looking for commitment and kids.

[Berethor]

Sure, him being first and last is the best, it's true monogamy, unlike serial monogamy.

[HighValue]

Sure. Any good man that wants something long term would be fine with that. The only people that would have a problem with it are the types just trying to use people for sex.

[RockyHammock]

Depends on the guy. It wouldn't affect me much, but some dudes out there fetishize it. So, proceed with caution

[Asker]

This is true. I'm not looking for just lots of sex in a relationship. I actually want to form a family. I'm looking for a serious, commitment type man. Ideally I would want my first to be my last, a permanent deal.

[Zachgoat308]

it is a bad thing, but i will take it

[Asker]

yeah but I'm looking for something serious. I'm looking for commitment too.

[In_Trance]

Yeah

[Guardian45]

Yes, I would want to know, so that I could take special care of her.

[Luckycharms12]

If want to share that it's up to you

[Asker]

I think if things start getting serious and he's a serious guys that wants a family. I'm looking for something much more serious than just having a good time with your girlfriend and liking the moment. I want to have kids.

[Luckycharms12]

All I hear is I I I a relationship is give and take and ment to be fun no one going want to have kids right away

[Asker]

My friends are advising me to be careful if a man exceeds more than 2 years into a relationship and is taking too long. I have one question though. Yes perhaps my last statement has too many I's in it but what if I want to have kids before turning 30? What I don't want to be a live-in girlfriend for 5 years like many men are doing nowadays? What do you recommend I should do to NOT find myself in the ''we've been in a relationship for 4-5 years, but he's not ready for kids nor marriage yet, help'' position many women are finding themselves in? How do I avoid a man that takes too much time? What if the man wants to be in one of those very long-term relationship before having kids and I don't agree with that extended timeframe?

[Asker]

In my post one of the things included was looking for serious commitment. I'm new to the dating world and would like to get it right, not go through heartbreaks nor with a man that strings us along and waste time. So what is the best recommendation for a woman that doesn't want to be a man's girlfriend for 4-8 years, that doesn't want to do that long timeframe?

[Luckycharms12]

Nowadays life costs living is crazy really put guys under pressure yes we want buy house and have kids but have money for that by age of 30 is nearly impossible especially where I am from

[Asker]

So what are my options if my goal is having kids in a marriage before my 30th b-day? What should I do? Should I get older men, 35 years and older?

[kareka]

Yes if i can i would date u tbh

[Anonymous]

I'm not bothered it's only an issue if she doesn't ever want to have sex

[Anonymous]

im not bothered, was a virgin until 27, close to 28