Would a married man use a penis pump?

[justtellmeh]

would a man use a penis pump to get off especially when they're fully capable of getting hard?

[Anonymous]

In lieu of using it as an aide for ejaculating into, which I'dd speculate is very hard due to the physical make up and configuration of the device, I'd say his main motivation is to increase his erect penis length and girth.

If he IS getting off, as in you've literally observed him shooting into it? I'd say l, if not, then you're knowledge of his usage is speculative. I personaly think it'd be quite difficult with something made entirely of hard plastic, except for the additional suction end, which I can't imagine would provide much stimulation, let alone, it would break its vacuum, defeating the purpose of its use, every time he stroked it.

Penile enlargement is something makers CLAIM it'll do, and it does do it, but it's only temporary. A man won't put in a 4 incher in and pull out an 8 incher either... one that'll last anyway. It'll add 2 inches to a certain size, and then it'll go back to being is normal erect size the next time he's erect, and he'll have to start all over again. It's only temporary.

Now, saying all of that...

Is he small? Maybe he's trying to grow it some because he feels he's not adequately satisfying you? Have you made mention of that to cause him guilt?

Or

Are you, and truly no offense, big, or loose... or producing to much natural lubrication? Maybe he's trying to make you feel more full or more stretched? Maybe he's unable to get the fiction and simulation he needs to achieve? Has he ever said anything?

In closing, unless you've seen him, with your own eyes, ejaculating into said device, (it could be an ointment to help with the vacuum effect and not his nut), you're on the wrong track.

A frank conversation with him to determine his motivations is in order. Being small, and/or feeling inadequate, especially at the hands of a wife who makes it no secret to him, will cause this behavior.

If he's using it to get off, I'm clueless as to why. You giving him enough? Jump his bones and wear his ass out and you won't have to worry about him sticking his johnson into anything except you. He won't have the energy or the ability to raise the mainsail if he's totally spent.

If it's none of that, it's time for a marriage counselor.

[justtellmeh]

Thank your I really appreciate your reply Because I've never been taught about the male anatomyAKA penis balls etc and sometimes I don't know what to think this explains a lot and yes I've tried jumping his bones But the thing is he don't even like his penis touched by me But I don't just go and touch it I just do the 4 play work my way but still Only when we have sex he lets me occasionally touch his penis I've tried to be the most affectionate wife I tell him how good he looks how big he is how amazing sex is I also tell him how grateful I am for HimOther than this issue he's a great husband but yet He asked For the pump and and the way he worded it was that him and a group of guy friends tried it out before which I thought was a little strange but He is not small at all but if that would make him feel comfortable I told him that I would get anything for him to make him feel comfortable but I did not buy it because I'm trying to figure This Stressful situation I am in Even though I've been wanting to have sex with him His excuses to say that he's too tired that that it takes a lot of energy I'm not sure what that means I've asked him about that he didn't give me a direct answer and he gets hard when we lay And snuggle I try to be gentle He used to tell me that he don't want sex only if he starts to make out with me and I try to make the 1st move or wear something he likes on me he just won't do it with me He has literally made every excuse in the book to not have sex with me but then at night When he is thinking that I'm asleep this is hard to explain because the night thing happens a lot it's because he's already done it

[justtellmeh]

He will say my name to see if I'm awake or not or pitch my arm I've tried to answer him a couple of times before but then he acts like he's asleep I literally saw him Jack off to a to sock while I'm sleeping he thought I was sleeping and He saying oh yeah say my name and touching my butt And then he ejaculates in the sock I didn't even mention it about it because it's happened to me so. Many times I w asked him about it but He says where in the hell are you talking about but he hasn't been having sex with me No matter what I do say say in englinagently calmly matter at the appropriate time and ask him about some of these things He still don't give me the answer answer he brushes around it he waits till I sleep It is literally I saw him get a bubble envelope and heave a ejaculated in it Is there something that I am missing

[Opinion Owner]

Geez. Wow. First, my apologies for having to suffer at his hands. It's hard to love someone and not be intimate with him. Tired and such are just, (lame in my opinion, though maybe he really is), excuses, even when you initiate. I can relate though, working 12-15 hours a day, 6 days a week. I just don't have the energy, and yes, sex is too much like work. I do however, try to at LEAST muster up a quickie twice a week, or some oral for her, and then something a little more satisfying on the weekend day I'm off, so she's not so frustrated with pent up urges. With him though, it's something deeper than tired, maybe hormones or sleep apnea, if he snores. I'd suggest couples counseling, only because you're in pain and trying to get answers, but honestly, it's mostly him that needs counseling... or medical treatment for the hormones or sleep apnea. . He's got a problem that goes deeper than a possible disinterest in you, which I'd hate to think is the case, but it happens. The spark is just gone for him towards you. That's an issue in itself. The other issues, could be sexual dysfunction of some sort. Not a dysfunction in the sense that his junk quit working, but that there's something going on with his psycho-sexuaL drive. Not only could/should he have that issue addressed, but also, his "apparent" memory losses, (highly unusual) in which he performs sexual acts on himself using inanimate objects to stimulate himself. (quite normal), by seeking both medical and psychological help. .

[Opinion Owner]

The last thing, and the one that bothers me most, like you, is the conversation about he and his friends trying the device out. I'd hope, each alone, and then they compared notes. If not, and he's joined a mutual masturbation group, and well, you can see where I'm going with that. It could also possibly explain his possible disinterest in you. Professional help isn't going to fix someone's new sexual preference. If it could, I'd think someone would have tried to undo the sexual identity alphabet soup we have these days. Maybe he's entertaining repressed thoughts and feelings? He's hidden things long enough by carrying on a heterosexual relationship? He's come out of the closet and doesn't know how to tell you? There's too many scenarios there, and all of them unpalatable. So ALL of that said, he has problems. BIG problems. As for what you can do, I'm clueless beyond professing your undying love and concern, and honestly talking and voicing your concerns for both his psychological and medical/sexual health/needs He's got to at least agree to see a Dr., even if it's alone because he's embarrassed. After that, I don't know what to say. If he won't discuss or admit, or seek professional resolution, you have to save yourself. You have to choose whether staying is worth the aggravation. No one wants to cut and run when someone is in dire need, but how long do you bang your head against a wall, if he refuses to admit or seek help? Sometimes tough love is in order. You can temporarily leave with the return condition that he get help, because you can't live life with him as is, or permanently parting ways because of his stubbornness.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't envy you your task, your burden, or the conversations and decisions you're going to have to make. He's not right and is making YOU not right. He can't think that making you suffer is showing you his love. Lastly, whether or not you know anything about the male anatomy, or how to treat his junk, has nothing do do with his aberrant behavior. Balls being most sensitive, a penis can take some pretty rough handling. Masturbation without lube can leave fiction burns, and sometimes a guy has to whack it pretty hard and fast to stimulate enough to achieve orgasm. In the past. I've personally worn my arm out, and STILL can't catch the feeling. Sometimes it just doesn't happen. Point is. I've abused my junk to get off sometimes. It's not indestructible, but it's not as tender as women think, or some men make them think. That said, some men's penises could be uber sensitive or tender... anything is possible. Like a Timex watch though, they'll take a licking and keep on ticking, lol! I wish you the best and hope you find resolution. I'm here if you wanna talk, or talk in private. Let me know and I'll follow and DM you

[Anonymous]

A lump is a novelty item and is not supposed to be used for real. It can actually cause erectile issues and what they call a hinge, where the penis gets hard at the base then limp from there up from the broken capillaries around where the opening of the pump is.

[oldguystillhasit]

The companies that sell the pumps falsely claim that it will give you a bigger penis.

[talka20]

Not mostly id say... i won't

[Mr1derful]

No clue. Is that still a thing?

[Mysteryman9854]

Maybe he trying to get it to be bigger. Ita only temporary but I can see men doing that. Single or not. To my knowledge its not a pleasure thing but I never used one

[Pterodon]

If he’d addicted to porn maybe

[Zygum]

Penis can be used to increase length and grith of penis also

[Anonymous]

If a guy was discovered to have something like this he would be the laughing stock of the town.

But many women have dildos and nobody bats a second glance. Why? Sometimes guys have trouble finishing too.