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Would asking a guy if he's still interested in having sex with you, make you seem desperate?

We went on one date last month we went out to eat and to the park. And I’ve been going to his place every week since then the last time I was there was Thursday. And I asked him on Thursday if he was going to be busy on Friday after work. He said yea because he was going to be doing some side jobs. I texted him Saturday asking him if he would be free next week and he hasn’t said anything. When I was at his place he mentioned that he was really focused on work right now.

We cuddled, watched movies, cooked, had sex, and talked he said he liked hanging out with me and that he likes my company. I noticed that he really wasn't texting. So when I was at his place I said (you don't really like texting do you?) and he said no. He seemed to really enjoy it when I gave him blowjobs. (Saying that he doesn't usually cum from just blowjobs but he came when I gave him one). And I really enjoy the sex it was good.

I know we aren't in a relationship but I really liked how I was able to spend time with him and yet we both had our own separate lives. I want to know if he's still interested in seeing me before I move on with someone else. (I have been talking to other men on dating apps). And yes I know that him not replying could mean he's not interested anymore. If he doesn't text me at all this week next week I'm going to send him a text asking if he's still interested in seeing/having sex with me.

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  • No, not at all. I was never an aggressive person when it came to sex, and had a few instances of women asking me, "Would you do it to me, it I let you"?

    When I was 26, I was dating a VERY attractive girl I met at a restaurant. I was hesitant to be really aggressive with her, and one night at my parent's place, she said to me: "Come on Bruce"!! She broke off with me soon afterward, probably thinking I was not interested, even though I WAS DESPERATE.

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  • It's very possible he's also involved with someone else and you could be Plan B or he could also like you both equally. Just a possibility is why he is not so forthcoming. The other reason could be that his busy with work and the pace of things and doesn't want to commit to anything more. I see no harm in trying to reach out one more time then I would not contact him further until he contacts you. Have him pursue you and see what happens. Right now you could be too available.

    • He did tell me while I was at his place that he's really focused on work right now.

    • Sounds possible.

    • I asked him if he was interested in someone else and he said it isn't that. But that he's preoccupied with work right now and doesn't have time for anyone.

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  • I mean you already had sex with him within one month of going on your first date with him. Asking for sex again after all that isn't going to make you seem very much more desperate.

    • How does having sex with him within a month make me desperate?

    • Usually being extremely easy is a sign of desperation, but I do suppose you can just be easy without being desperate.

    • Having sex within a month does not make you easy or desperate.

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  • It seems like you're getting attached and he isn't

    • Asking him if he wants to be friends with benefits isn't getting attached.

    • True. But waiting on his texts and being moved by his words certainly are.

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  • "really focused on work right now" = rejection

    • He told me that while I was at his house and I saw him again since then.

    • Yeah, but it's a sign he's trying not to get too close

  • It could be things moved really fast and he's just trying to process it all. Maybe ask him about that.

    Or be direct and straight up ask him for sex. Though, I'd go with the first option.

  • I don't think it sounds desperate

  • Screw him and enjoy it. f*ck the world. no f*ck him. I mean it, not in a bad way.

  • He said he doesn’t text much, just seems busy, give him time

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